Well this has all been pretty and fun - but I have to run away, change my name..

loveydad wrote: and never EVER RETURN!!

OMG I've been posting about my ex and her desire to come stay for the twin's birthday party...here..which I've said no to about 80 times. SHe lives in Cali. If you haven't read this its in the January - April clubhouse or whatever the twin's birtdhay is .

So about 4 today I'm bustling around the house, the kids are all feeling better, so the twibbles are back and I had Andriana and Peter today too. Basically the house is a toal disaster, I've still got my and all the kid's dirty laundry piled up on the floor, bowls and plates and cups on the floor from our "picknick" at lunch today, and basicalyl I"m trying to get something done desperatly before tommrow when I was worried that my ex might show up.

So I get this little knock at the door and I go "please God let that be the wind." it wasn't. It was HER. She decided clear last week she was going to come TODAY and then I started telling her no, come later and she got shy of telling me, and then ended up coming anyway.

I'm standing in there door looking at her like "oh my gosh you're really here aren't you" and I feel this sick feeling in my stomach....

Finally I figured out to let her come in. Ever wish you could go back in time and delete certain events, problems, or people? I do today.

She's been here all day playing with the twins - well she plays with them for about half an hour then delcares they need a bottle or diaper change. And then I always say "well hang on let me finish what I"m donig> 'and she go "oh no I'll do it - " with no real conviction and I go "no, you don't know where the diapers/formula is" because I know she's be a total ronch about it. Shes just trying to pretend it's okay.

She was on my case all day about how she had nowhere to stay, her realtives were crowded out and she didn't really like them, she kept avoiding the motel (there's only one) all together. At some point I got busy - like maybe 1 hr after I she came. After Hen got home and she went around upstairs looking at everything, including my own room. Tav was napping up there. OH MY GOSH was she not happy. SHE STOOD STRAIGHT UP told me, "VIGGORUS (various middle names) WIELAND DID YOU INVITE HER HERE WITHOUT ME KNOWING!?" and smaked me on the face. I still got the smack. So now two girls aren't thrilled with me. Especially since I didn't exactly tell Tav she was here... what a mess. My ex is STILL here at almost 10...I"m pretending to be working LMAO.

*sighs* my life is neve rboring.

mammag replied: It certainly isn't boring!!! I hope Tavia won't stay mad. Can't you just make her leave now? I would. She should have at least called to say she was on the way over.

loveydad replied: Oh no if I make her leave she'll go rant to everyone in town I kicked her out. And she probably knows everyone in town. I know almost everyone in town. No the best thing for it is just to sit there and let whatever she's yammering about wash over me .

gr33n3y3z replied: Well naybe a fast way to get her out is ..... ask her to sign those papers giving those children to you lol
Good Luck!!

ediep replied: well, if she is there to stay for the party, I'd put her to work! Show her where the diapers, formula, bottles are and make her pitch in!!!
Good Luck!!!! Hope Tavia doesn't stay too mad, although I have to admit, if my husbands ex showed up, I'd be pretty mad too

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I agree with Lisa! Make her sign those papers!

Alice replied: How did it go today??? Is she still around??

loveydad replied: She's still here. I will post and update you guys later tonight. She's been on my casse alllll frekaing day

mommy2owen replied: Hope it gets better soon!

GavinsMommy replied: Omg Vig, what a day! I'm sorry your wife slapped you. But I'd be pretty pissed to if I found your ex in my house after a good nap! Tell her to leave!! She came, saw the kids, now she can leave! Is she hinting at staying there or something?

loveydad replied: Going to shoot myself now.

There's a great reason she's here, she misses me. Even though when she was here, she ignored me and left for cali for several weeks at time.

She makes it known. She keeps putting her freaking hand on my shoulder and going - uh no.

Tav's come DOWNSTAIRS to MONITOR me and her. I am so waiting for a fistfight.

I'm hot and I'm sweaty and OMG I just freaking wish it was over.

So anyway, about midnight last night I said "well we've got to get to bed now.." kinw like "Well we would have liked to have gone to bed about 3 hours ago, however you're still here and we're trying to be polite."

Finally I said, you know what let me call Sean. He lives right across the street, you can sleep there, he won't bother you he's got several people he's trying to care for at once right now over there, he won't even speak to you probably. (this is probably because Sean hates her I mean DE-SPIES-US HER.) Finally I coaxed her to do this. I said, come over tommrow whenever you get up.

I don't usually lock my doors at night. Last night I did. I thought we were gonig to get a break. Well I curled up to bed in the bedroom and Tracy and the twits were curled up with me from about 7:30 like usual. I sleep, im my boxers - No tshirt even last night and it was hot so the covers were kicked in. About 8:45 I heard noises downstairs, thought Hen was running late. No. SHE WAS IN MY HOUSE. Hen didn't lock the door when he left so she came on in. Came upstairs, and she knocked and came into our room. She's like "oh sorry, didn't know you guys weren't dressed.." Uh what, "oh yeah I mean I'm usually dressed at 6 and go back to sleep in my clothes - today i'm slacking off. " WHATEVER. I got dressed rather quickly and I was pissed, Tav was SCREAMING at me. Finally I asked her to help me start breakfast- and I was like "Look I don't know what's going on, why you want to spend all this extra time here- i mean i know you watn to be near the twins but you haven't wanted to their whole lives and they're not hurt by that. And this is my home now, it was before you lived here, and it is now when I live here with my wife and my children. And when we're sleeping and having private moments like that, we really wish you would just call first before coming over and knock first before coming into our bedroom. Since you're here, and since life is so hectic and I can't do anything while I'm trying to etertain you, I could use some help to. I mean I don't mind vistors but usually they leave and let the kids calm down and let me get my s*** together ect. I'm not used to having someone follow me around 24/7. So I'm going to have to ask you to leave during naptime today and at bedtime tonight."

SHe took this okay so I added. "I'd really like it if you'd sign those papers now as well.".

She gave me this ...look and said something about doing on the twin's birthday before she left... So I tried. Basically she has this aire going that if I piss her off she's going to try to do something stupid like take them.

Then there are the twins themselves who don't know who she is, and both of them scream when she comes near them. They don't like strangers, and she's a stranger. She ignores this. Also they'll be sitting there content and she'll scoop them up and say "mommy will get you a bottle!" and Tav gets this look on her face like "ohhh you better stop off , those are my kids now, YOU left them.." but she's quite...

My biggest fear is she's going to decide to take them, why I was trying to keep her away from them. Now she's TOO much help, changing them when they're not wet, changing them, then feeding them and changing them again. She fed them tonight and got frustrated because tehy wouldn't pay attention and eat for her.

My brain is so tired. I've got this perma level of frustration. I'll let you guys know when I blow up and tell her to get off my property.

loveydad replied: oh and she's still here becuase the twins are still up becuase they're freaked and won't go to sleep for me.

And I have the worst freaking headache. Maybe she'd babysit so I could go out drinking. LMAO

Josie83 replied: OMG Jason I'm so sorry about all this . . . I hate to think of you having such a hard time. Stop being so polite to her and tell her to LEAVE! Or just let Tav lamp her. I would. How dare she? She can't leave the children for so long, then come back and take over! Its not fair on them, you or anyone! Ugh. I am so sorry that you're going through this Vig. Vent any time you need to and don't let her get away with this! xx

Kirstenmumof3 replied: OMG how rude of her! I'm sorry you are going through all of this. I'm glad you were able to set some boundries, let's just hope she respects them!

loveydad replied:
OMG did you call me Jason? Isn't that your hubbys name? *laughing* Sorry. I had to enjoy that for a few minutes.


Ah well today I went to Nampa with the three T's (twits twibbles and Tracy) and I told Tav and she goes "YOU TAKE HER WITH YOU!" so ihad to take her. but she was nice. I talked to her and she goes "you act like you hate me" and I was like I don't hate you..But I'm not really appreciating the way you're treating me, I feel like I"m being strung up by my (censorned) here... with you not signing" .

So tommrow HOPEFULLY she's gonna sign! YAY!

I'll update you guys more when I hvae time -there were some annoyances today but I'ts after 10 already.

Josie83 replied:
OMG I did as well I obviously just have him on my brain Gosh I am such a loser. I'm sorry about that Vig What a fathead! Seriously, though, I'm glad that she's being a bit better. And that Tav's calmed down! xx

loveydad replied: I think it's funny actually. I do that too, all the time.

You're not a loser!

Anyway, I'm glad she's feeling better too. I dont' like being beat up LOL

Josie83 replied:
What, you call people Jason? xx

loveydad replied: No but I've called people Tav. I've called Tav Henry. I've even called Henry Viggo before....