Wedding woes

wcs40110 wrote: So. I am getting married in 5 months. Only have 2 bridesmaids. Found out yesterday that my maid of honor is pregnant. Then today my other bridesmaid comes into work and asks what time the wedding was because she wanted to go to a concert that night. Seriously??????? Just wondering if I'm crazy or if it's reasonable to be mad that I will be standing next to a big old belly people will be staring at and I'm thinking if the other plans on leaving to go to a concert she will being asked nicely to step down.

Opinions please.

skinkybaby replied: Um, no I would not be upset over a pregnant bridesmaid. Not even a little. Quite the opposite.

A&A'smommy replied: omg I would never be mad at a bridesmaid for getting pregnant. The other should be more considerate and not go to the concert unless its going to be way later but she should have already known what time it was

My3LilMonkeys replied: I would be a bit upset about the concert (unless it was a one time only chance to see her absolute favorite or something extreme like that) but I would be thrilled if my friend was pregnant and not at all upset about that.

Insanemomof3 replied: Why would be upset about a "big old belly"? I understand that you are wanting to be the one that people focus on for your wedding, but don't you think it is REALLY unreasonably selfish to not be happy for your maid of honor (assuming a good friend or family member) that she is going to have a precious baby? Wow, just seems a little too selfish in my opinion.

As for the concert, I would be a bit hurt, but if she is making a concert more important than her friend/families wedding, well then that doesn't say much for her friendship.

Again, just my opinions.

luvmykids replied:
ITA

Calimama replied: You're being very selfish IMO. Quite honestly if I were her and read your comment I'd remove MYSELF from your wedding.

MoonMama replied:

CantWait replied: SELFISH

Thank GOD, the bride who's wedding I'm suppose to be the Maidron of Honor this summer (7 MONTHS PREGNANT AT THAT) doesn't sound like you.

stella6979 replied:
Double

coasterqueen replied: Wow, your wedding is fast approaching. Hope the rest of the planning is going well.

I, personally, would be offended about the one who wants to go to a concert afterward. Are you sure my sister isn't your bridesmaid? That's something she'd do.

As far as the pregnant one......well.......I don't see a problem with that. Although I felt bad for my friend when I was in her wedding PG. Actually her SIL and me were pg at the time. My friend was fine with it, or at least she lead on to believe she was, but I did see how many were interested a LOT in the SIL and me, as far as being pg. Could it have taken away from my friend (the bride), it did seem like that a little, but I'm really not sure she minded. Your wedding is really supposed to be about you and your new husband. So who cares if everyone is looking at the pg woman and not giving you the full attention? You and your new husband should focus on the attention you are giving each other that day - because really the memories you will cherish the rest of your life is the close moments you shared with your husband that day. So, are you crazy for feeling that way about the pg woman? Well, crazy is a bit harsh for me, selfish? maybe. Take your focus away from everything else, accept looking beautiful and being happy with your new husband - he is the ONLY one that needs to notice you that day.

moped replied: Gosh No, in fact my sister was pg at my wedding and I was THRILLED of course!!!!!!! I just wished she was 8 months instead of 4, cause then she would have had that big belly!

I need to add: A person cannot put their life on hold for a one day wedding ie: having children.

wcs40110 replied: Looks like I came to the wrong forum.

coasterqueen replied:
Please don't think that. I hope you listen my advice, because it was sincere.

moped replied:
I guess the point is that you asked if you were wrong to be upset and most of us said yes you were.....but it is how you feel and nobody can change that! And we won't always agree or say what we think will make you feel better....I have learned that before!

cameragirl21 replied: hmmm, the concert thing would definitely upset me, that seems a bit tasteless imo for her to ask you to leave early to go to a concert.
As for the pg MOH...why does that upset you? I'm just curious, seriously.
If I were in your place, there are only 2 things that would concern me w/regard to a pg bridesmaid--1 is the possibility of her going into labor on the wedding day. Unlikely, I think, if your wedding is in five months and she just now found out she's pg...sounds like she'll be somewhere around 7 months pg and therefore will likely not have a baby on your wedding day.
The only other concern I may have is whether or not she'd fit into the dress what with her constantly growing body but I imagine any seamstress can work with that and resolve that problem.
As for everyone staring at her pg belly...a pg woman is not an uncommon sight in North America the way it is in say, China, so there is nothing unusual about a pg woman that would lead people to stare. Will she get some people asking her when she's due and whatnot? Of course, but so what? I don't see how that would take away from your day.
Be happy for your friend as she is hopefully happy for you and happy wedding planning!

coasterqueen replied:
I think maybe it's the way things were said in this thread that hurt. Getting advice, asking if one is crazy or not and getting a response of more than yes or no and why is different than getting responses that are hateful. (not directing this to you, just generalizing).

moped replied: Yes that is right.........

wcs40110 replied: Hey either way I am glad I got some perspectives from others. Thanks guys!