WWYD?

MyBrownEyedBoy wrote: If your mid20's son stole your checkbook and wiped out your checking account, over $1500. The bank won't replace the money unless you press charges. Would you press charges against your son or would you just eat the money?
Also add, that this is the second time said son has done something along these lines. The first time was $500.
No, this isn't my family. It's a coworker's child.

luvbug00 replied: I would press charges. first time is forgiveness, secound times a lesson. and what a bad child to put his parents in that possition.

gr33n3y3z replied: since its the 2nd time press charges

MyLuvBugs replied: I would so throw his butt in jail! Sounds like he needs a little tough love and discipline. Pressing charges is (to me) the only way to make him learn his lesson. But I'd also start keeping my check book and CC's locked up in a safe.

PrairieMom replied: Press charges. I probably would have pressed charges after the first time.

Celestrina replied: press charges. from my experience when someone does this type of thing, it is usually to support a bad habit. It can be anything from drugs to gambling. He needs to know that you will not support the habit or this type of behaviour.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Absolutely press charges. Tough love baby

mckayleesmom replied: Press Charges....Its not the fact of the money....Its what they did and what they could end up doing if you don't show them what jail is like.


On a side note"

Dh's grandmother got a check from Dh's mom for 6,000 dollars....She added zeros and falcified the check and the bank cashed it....Nobody has heard from her or the 60,000 dollars she stole about 3 years ago.....and his mom DIDN"T press charges

Maddie&EthansMom replied: This has happened in my family. My brother stole from my grandmother. I would definitely press charges. She did not and he did it again and again and again. Like Brianne said, they need to see what jail feels like. If she doesn't press charges that will just tell him that it is okay....obviously he keeps doing it and next time it will be worse. She isn't helping him. JMO I will step down off my now.

JP&KJMOM replied: I would like to be able to say that ~Oh yes I would press charges too. BUT and there is always a but I really feel like that I can not truthfully answer that because I am not in that situation. KWIM? I could sit back and say without a doubt I would but my kids are 6 and 4 and until I actually had something like that happen I can not say for sure.

mammag replied: I agree, I'd press charges after the 2nd time. It would be hard but has to be done....if he's willing to do that, what's next?

Kaitlin'smom replied: being the second time press charges. Also make darn sure he cant find it ever again.

My2Beauties replied: After the 2nd time I'd press charges!

CantWait replied: Second time, I'd be pressing charges, or else he'll never learn.

LibraGirl replied: I would need to know more details, but I'm leaning toward pressing charges.

redchief replied: I don't know. I'd need to know more about the family situation.

ZandersMama replied: Definitely press charges. We had this problem with my brothern and they really dont learn. my parents never pressed charges and when he comes to visit they still have to lock everything up.

luvmykids replied:
ITA but I would truly hope I could do it, for their sake. Better I teach them than waiting until it's something more serious and potentially the end of their freedom for good.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Ditto! It might be hard, but everyone needs to learn their lesson and deal with the consequences of bad choices.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Without knowing the specifics, most likely press charges. The 1st time there is room for forgiveness and an explanation - if they haven't learned their lesson by the 2nd time, they need to learn it the hard way.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
I agree
Its the second time he has done this, time to learn a lesson now and be treated like an adult

C&K*s Mommie replied: Likely I would press charges too. As much as that would pain me to do so, he should know better than that by now.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I would press charges the second time for sure!

3xsthefun replied: I would press charges, being this is the second time he has done this.

msoulz replied:
ITA with this one - we never know how we will feel or react until we are in the shoes.