Update on me, Jermiah, and baby

GavinsMommy wrote: So I came to my parents last Wednesday. I have really enjoyed being here besides having to deal w/ my hyper 4 year old sister.

Jerimiah was super apologetic before I left and kept telling me how much he loved me and needed us to be a family. He said he would stop smoking pot, get gum or the shot for his cigarette smoking, and stop looking at porn to make me happy. I still said I didn't care, that he should have done all that before and continued to tell him I wasn't in love w/ him anymore. Then I left and came here.

After I got here, I spoke w/ him to let him know I was here. Every time he said he loved me I didn't say anything and he would get really upset. He cleaned our house and sent me pictures of it...I had cleaned it but it got a little messy again. The only thing he didn't do was laundry. He even organized our bookshelf in the sunroom, which I never even did myself.

He gave his bowl (for smoking) to our friends Kat and Robert. Of course, that's what he says anyway, but I guess I believe him bc I could always ask them. He has had that bowl for years...so if he really did give it up, that's a good step.

He hasn't stopped cigs yet bc he says he needs help...gum or the shot...and he said we're running a little low on money bc of the hospital bills and the gum is more expensive, but he says if I want we can take the leftover money from my trip and get the gum. He says he has cut back a lot since I left...like 3 cigs a day.

And supposedly he is not going to look at porn anymore...and understands that we should only look together and that he should want to make love to me just bc...not just to get off.

I don't know if all of these changes are permanent or not, but I am really hoping so. I love the old Jerimiah and so far since I left, the old Jerimiah is definitely coming through. If he starts to change again, I am always entitled to a permanent trip home, but he wants another chance and I feel I should give him that chance since he has been so persistant about his love for me and he has NEVER cleaned the house before, so that was a really good thing of him to do.

I am starting to get that "new relationship" feeling about him now...it's because he is acting more like who I met. I hope it stays this way...if not I have no problem leaving again. This was a nice break.

I just wanted to update all of you guys...if he stays like this, there is definitely a future for us.

GavinsMommy replied: just a pic of him...

coasterqueen replied: Well I hope he has changed for all your sake. GL!

DansMom replied: Whatever happens, you'll feel better if you give it every chance. It sounds like you're both willing to give it another chance. I wish you the best.

aspenblue1 replied: I hope everything works out and he has changed!

A&A'smommy replied: I hope he changes for good, because you and Gavin deserve to have a happy life!! ((((HUGS)))) Keep us updated!!!

MomToMany replied: I hope he changes for real, and not just making empty promises. You and Gavin deserve a great life, with or without him.

Good luck, and I hope it works out for the best!

gr33n3y3z replied: Hi Lauren
I hope everything works out for you
and keep in touch

jcc64 replied: Well, it sounds like you've gotten his attention. I agree with Tracy that you owe it to yourself and your son to give it every effort before giving up on your marriage. One thing my mom did with my dad when they separated many moons ago was to create conditions for the reconciliation, in writing, which she held him to until the day he died. Cleaning the house and giving away the pipe was a good start, but it can't be just a gesture- it needs to become habitual. It sounds like he's working hard to make his way back to you- I hope it all winds up the way you want it to. Thanks for letting us know how you're doing. And how about some more Gavin pics while you're at it?

Kila replied: Good luck! Keep strong! I know what your going through. Just remember to take it slow and think things through. You owe it to yourself and your family. Take care!

ediep replied: sounds like a good start. I hope he continues to change for the better for himself and for you and Gavin.

It definately sounds like you got his attention, hopefully he realizes that you are serious about this.

Good Luck!!!!!

Mommy2BAK replied: Hey girl. I've been wondering where you were and how little Gavin is doing. It sounds like things are beginning to look up for you. We all just want you to be happy. I hope it all works out for the very best for you and Gavin and Jeremiah.