Update - Ugh

loveydad wrote: He came today. We got in a big fight but I think he may be gone for a while now. She had to tell him the truth, and she said she'd rather be here with me. So I don't know. The real issue I'm having is...she's pregnant and in June she's going to have another baby. That's another kid in our family-- what if I get attatched and she takes off? Doesn't sound like her but *shrugging* and what if the kids get attatched and she runs off!? *sighs*

Thanks. I needed to vent.

A&A'smommy replied: (((HUGS)))) I'm sorry things have to be so difficult for you! I just hope she doesn't and that things work out for you!! I wish I had some advice but I have never been through anything like that so I don't

loveydad replied: Just being there and listening to me rant helps....

Just thinking about the future and...having 10 kids in one house - actually if henry moved out when he's 18 there would still only be 9..that might work.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Aww, I'm sorry you're having a hard time! I'm glad she's not going with him if he's abusive though. I hope it all works out for you!

If Henry moves out when he's 18 will he take Andriana and Peter with him? That would help wouldn't it?

loveydad replied: At this point I dont' think he will. He won't have the money to take care of them. Right now he's moved in with a freind and left them. I don't want to have to take them away but I don't feel like I can just let him take them and not be able to care for them, ya know?

momof2girls replied: That is alot of kids!! how do you do it??
Im not sure what advice to give but just wanted to offer support! I hope it all turns out well!

loveydad replied: I posted once, how I do it. LoL. It is a lot of kids but USUALLY my son is home to take care of his. The twins (5 years old) are really helpful, and it's really ike herding cows. LOL not really.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Yeah I see what you mean. 9 kids all in that age range is a lot... but then what's one more?

Do your kids call you super-daddy by any chance?

Jamison'smama replied: wow, you have a lot on your plate--just sending hugs and support!!!

paradisemommy replied: well, unfortunately, i think life is full of chances and if you had never taken a chance with any of the other women, you may have not had to suffer the heartbreak but at the same time, you wouldn't have those beautiful children in your life. it's hard to see into the future and try and gauge how it will turn out. i believe God has a special plan for each and every one of us. and i believe that he put you here so that these children can grow up in a loving home with a wonderful dad. you are such a blessing to these little ones (and big one too ). maybe tav is finally the one for you..she seems to be great with your children and if down the road she happens to leave then just know in your heart that you gave it your all and she wasn't the one for you...big hugs vig..

momof2girls replied:
LOL
I cant even imagine!
You must be super daddy!

loveydad replied:
Wouldn't that be awesome if she was? I mean, I watch her around my kids and me I go "Why didn't I meet her first?" She's kind to Henry even when I've lost all patience to him. She teaches the boys things - fun things, and just adores them, she's so wonderful to them, despite the fact that they can be terrors (although they never are to her!) she's helped Tracy use the potty more (Tracy won't go for me, Tavia has to take her. Tavia has to take out her braids or hair do, and she can't go anywhere until Tav picks out her outfit and does her hair) Nicky runs to her whenever she sits down wanting to climb up in her lap, Andriana - well Andriana is really pissed at me because I'm not her daddy and she misses her daddy, and Andriana will let take care of her. Carter and Clara just love her - she's working on getting Clara to crawl, and get this, she rocked Peter for almost 2 hours when he screamed the other night! On top of it all, she knows who dora the explorer is, she'll read to the kids, and she changes diapers like a pro. She's made to be a mother that's for sure.
On top of all that, I care so much about her. She takes good care of me

I'm at a time in my life when I want to settle down, get married.. and have a family.. no more running.

ITA by the way- if i didn't chance it, I wouldn't have Vincent or Kel or Tracy or any of my little miracles... Swimmer will be a toally amazing child I just know it - and I don't want to miss out .

Thanks you guys for the compliments - no they don't call me super daddy- sometimes they can me mean daddy lol . I like to think I'm humble. I know I couldnt' do it without help.

Thanks you guys. You've helped me out of some pretty awful situations.

kimberley replied: Tammy, your post made me all teary. that was well said!

Vig, i really hope and pray this works out for you. You and your munchkins deserve the happy ending. You are a wonderful dad!

loveydad replied: Aww y'all are making me all tearyed too!

Thanks kimberley, you're an awesome freind.

You guys are all awesome.

paradisemommy replied:
thanks, kimberley!!!..i meant every word!!