Uh-oh . . .

Josie83 wrote: My period is late and I was sick yesterday morning . . .

Kaitlin'smom replied: time to test.........hope you get what you want

My2Beauties replied: OMG.....we want the results when you take the test!!!!!!! Are you ttc or is this a for real uh-oh?

Josie83 replied:
Its a real uh-oh! I really don't want another baby now, definitely not! I deferred my entry to school when I had Cassie and am in my first year atm. . . another baby would cause so much chaos! plus we couldn't afford one . . . does it make me sound awful that i really DON'T want to pregnant? I know its harsh when there are some ppl desperate for a baby but I'm not ready for another one . . . although I know Jason would be really happy if he was pregnant again . . .

MomToMany replied:
I'm sorry; I don't like reading posts like this. You already have a child, so you know what it takes to get PG. So, maybe you should've thought more carefully about how/when you had intercourse after having a baby. If you didn't/don't want another right now, then maybe you should've been more careful./

I hope the test comes out the way you want.

Boys r us replied: Honey! I'm in your shoes right now too!! a week late and while a baby would be a suprise I would welcome if it came along, I am DEFINITELY NOT READY for another one right now!

I also think it's really incredibly rude of people to lecture you on how to conduct your sex life and method of birth control..considering that it's possible to get pregnant WHILE actively trying to prevent it or not knowing your situation! I suffer HORRIBLE migraines when I'm on the pill or the BC patch, I refuse to try the depo shot b/c of the horrible side effects I've heard about and I'm not ready to permanently decide against having future children by getting my tubes tied..so that leaves me to condoms..which as we all know break and can set in..god forbid..panic if you're late...and of course we know they are not 100% effective! Some people also choose to have sexual relations with their husband/SO for pleasure, not for reproductive reasons..so just b/c a person is having sex, yet doesn't wish to become pregnant..it doesn't make them a bad person! SOOO honey, don't let others who are not in your shoes judge you or scorn you! Because we are ALL in different places in our lives and for some of us, that place does not include having another baby!
((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))

A&A'smommy replied: ((((HUGS)))) let us know how your test goes!

Josie83 replied: Mollie I do appreciate your honesty but your post did quite upset me . . . I understand perfectly well how a baby is made, I have been on the Pill since Cassie was three weeks old and take it religiously, but surely you understand that no contraception is 100% effective? That's why i switched to the Pill, because we got pregnant with Cassie from using condoms that weren't effective. I know its harsh of me to wish that i wasn't pregnant, and if I was I would love the baby as much as Cassie, but I don't really feel it would be fair to bring another child into the world at this moment in time. Surely its understandable that not all pregnancies are planned, and accidents do happen? It feels perfectly natural to me to have a relationship with my boyfriend. Thanks Nichole for your supportive words, it cheered me up. I'm going to do a test tomorrow, please keep your fingers crossed for me!! xx PS - I didn't mean to offend anyone, but I thought this was quite a good place to vent . . . sorry

kimberley replied: yikes! i have been there too! i tested neg last week but think i might test again next week to be sure. just think of it this way, if you are pg, then you have been given a wonderful blessing! there is never a "perfect time" to have a baby it just means you have to work harder good luck with your test.

Boys r us replied: Josie, it's the perfect place to vent!! I wouldn't think there is a woman in this world who has not had an oops moment at some point!
Good luck with your test honey!!

Heather replied: I hope the test comes out the way you want...HUGS. I am sure you will find a way to welcome him/her and make it work if you are. HUGS.

My2Beauties replied: Yes BC is not always 100% effective and whoopsies happen. I know how you feel, if I were to pop up pg right now I'd scream and cry! Not that I wouldn't love it all the same but it would just be hard on us right now! HUGS and I hope it comes out the way you want it to!

coasterqueen replied: I am sorry you are going through this. I say test too and go from there.

While I do agree with Mollie that we all know what it takes to make a baby, I have to admit that I feel this way sometimes. I purposely got pg this time and with Kylie as well, but with her and with this baby I have that feeling of "uh oh, I'm not sure if I'm ready", lol, but I think it's just nerves. Dh has them too sometimes. I think it's normal to question whether you are ready or not. I feel horrible saying this especially with some of the issues I'm having right now, but I DO want this baby so I'm not saying I don't. I'm just nervous, lol.

And I hope whatever the outcome is that it will be one you can be comfortable with.

Josie83 replied:
Thank you . . . it means a lot! Taking the test tomorrow so will let you all know . . . fingers crossed xx PS - karen, thanks for your honest words as well xx

Lollie replied: I hope you get the result you want.

Both of my babies were unplanned and I realize that there was carelessness on hubby and my side but we dont have any regrets and we know that we will find a way to cope with our babies being only 11 months apart in age.When I found out I am preggo again so soon after having Bri I was so scared and not thrilled at first.But now I am so excited and hubby and I are looking forward to having another baby to love.

So however your results turn out...you will be fine.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh no, sweetie!! I know how you feel. I have been there and it is so scary. Of course we love our babies, but it is okay to express our feelings, too. We need to be able to vent and be honest with others about how we feel. Don't let this stop you from expressing your emotions in the future. Sometimes it isn't the baby we are scared of, it is our situation (whether financial or otherwise). That is why they have condoms and other forms of birth control. We can't be afraid of having sexual relations with our DH/SO in fear that we might get pregnant and it wouldn't be fair to refrain. IMO. Surprises happen. I completely understand, but trust me when I say that it all works out in the end. Good Luck and let us know the results.

mama3x replied: I know exactly how you feel. I felt that way when I found out I was pg with DS. Back then there wasn't any $$$ for b/c (long story) so we did the rhythm method thing (DH spent his $$$ elsewhere so my $$$ went to basic needs). PLUS he was abusive and controlling. BUT I was also kind of happy too.

DD was planned so I was ecstactic and so was my DH now.

This little one I am pg with now was a for real uh-oh too. I admit no b/c has been used - I didn't want to mess up BFing for my preemie. So again the rhythm method was used. It's ironic though that the reason that method didn't work with DS and now is the same: both DHs miscalculated the safe day! Honestly it took one time to conceive DS and it took one time to conceive this one.

I posted somewhere on here that I wasn't happy with being pg, that there was no $$$, that I didn't want the baby! My board was very supportive though.

There is nothing wrong with how you feel, it's what you decide to do that counts. I decided to have my kids. You may decide that or you may decide otherwise. Whatever you do, there are ladies here that will be there for support. I'll be one of them. So you go and vent all you need to, girl.

Hoping you get the BFN you are hoping for.

momof2girls replied: I hope all works out the way you want it to hon!

aspenblue1 replied: I hope everything works out!

kel replied: wow, i find it unbelievable how someone can be lectured on an open forum.
i fell preg. on the depro-p injection..so i know how contraception isnt 100 percent effective.
good luck,i hope things turn out how you want them too:)

Josie83 replied: Thanks Kel! I found out I wasn't pregnant a few days ago, i got pregnant with Cassie on contraception which was a shock . . . my friend who got pregnant at around the same time I did was on the Pill AND they used condoms . . . some babies were just meant to be I reckon!! xx