Totally unexpected Vistor... - And my house was a MESS!

CAMSMOM1 wrote: Guess who decided to drop by?? My MIL! And the house was a complete disaster! I wasn't home last night, so Justin was watching Cam for me. And there were toys everywhere, the kitchen was a mess. (even though I did the dishes) But I was so embarrassed! She said she tried to call, but I was on the computer. So as soon as she walked in, guess what she did? Started organizing my house! I didn't mind, her & I are close friends. But it was embarrassing! She said, "If you ever want me to come over and help you organize, I can." And then she continued to clean!

And an appriaser is coming to our house TOMORROW...I need to do some speedy cleaning but I'm off to work. Guess I have a long night ahead of myself!

1lilpeanut2love replied: omg! I hate that. I would be embarrassed for someone to see my house. It's a big MESS!! Hope u get it cleaned LOL

Crystalina replied: I just posted about this not too long ago.
I hate when people don't call first. I ALWAYS tell people when I'm coming over and everyones house is always nice and clean and I'm sure that about 80% of the reason is because they new company was coming. These people do not give me the same curtosy (sp).

It just really bugs me. My DHs friends do this all the time. They come over to just "chat" and they stay forever. Meanwhile I want to watch my evening shows or I'm in the middle of cooking dinner or I'm in my pjs and have to hurry up and change or go in the bedroom.

It's just rude.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Embarrassing, but nice of her to start oganizing for you.

ilovemybaby replied: Can I swap MILs with you? LOL Seriously!
We have to change our phone number because of my MIL and hopefully we won't have to trespass her of our property.
I've posted about it on here.

3xsthefun replied: That was nice of her help you clean up.

luvmykids replied: My house is usually a mess too, I just try to keep it from being disgusting for unexpecteds. I keep the kitchen and bathrooms clean and the rest I work on when I can. I gave up being embarrassed, this is us, take it or leave it!

MommyToAshley replied: My MIL always seems to come on the messy days as well. I can keep the house clean for a week and the doorbell doesn't ring, but as soon as I get swamped with work and let the house go... the doorbell doesn't stop ringing. That's the way life is I suppose.

Oh well... at least your MIL got a head start on your spring cleaning before the appraiser gets there.

CAMSMOM1 replied: My MIL went by my husband's work, and told him, "I didn't want to say anything to Ann, but I don't know how you guys live like that? Your house is a disaster!"

I guess it was really bad. But I did A LOT of cleaning tonight. I cleaned the kitchen, bathroom, and started on our bedroom. I still need to get the living room & Cam's room straightened out, and vaccum. But I'm still embarrassed about it. And then to hear my MIL say that we live in a pig sty and our slobs, really hurt.

I guess I need to keep up on the cleaning more often. Hopefully next time she comes by, the house will be spotless and I can change her mind.

luvmykids replied: I know, when my mom was here today she said "You know how there's always one kid in the class who's clothes don't match and all they have is yogurt and beef jerky in their lunch? Please don't let that be my grandkids."

I know the house can get bad, but Please! The only time Kylie looks like that is when she picks out her own clothes, and their faces are washed, their hair is brushed, and they're definitely well fed! My house on a bad day is not a reflection of how well my kids are taken care of!!

CAMSMOM1 replied:

Amen sister! Exactly what I was thinking!!!

PrairieMom replied: here's a question, are your DH"s arms broaken? It hit a nerve for me that she said " I did't want to say anything to Ann, but..." are you the only one responsible for keeping things up in the house? I say inlist some help!

Crystalina replied: You know though, she's your MIL and like all MILs I think that, no matter how clean your house is, she'll have some way to critique you. If it's not your house then it'll be your cooking, your kids, your clothes or even your hair for God's sake. (I happen to like your hair ). That's just what they do.

My MIL does things like this but mostly when DH isn't around and when she does say something she says it in a way that could be taken either way. She's very snide and sneaky. If I were to ever confront her,( we've been married 14 yrs so I've done this a time or two) she says "That's not how I meant it, your so sensitive and take everything the wrong way." URGGG

Years ago I just started being snide and make my own comments right back and since she's gotten back what she dishes out to me she is much more pleasant.

MommyToAshley replied:
ITA! You know, I actually think it is quite the opposite. I wouldn't be able to spend time with Ashley if my house was immaculate 7 days a week. Sometimes it comes down to the choice of scrubbing floors or playing hide-n-go seek... Hide-n-go seek sounds more fun, and I think it's more important. I am sure Ashley appreciates it more. Now, don't get me wrong, there is a time that you have to scrub the floors, and we have "family clean up time" right before dinner every night. But, there's also a train table and tent in my living room even though there's a toy room down stairs. And, if you come at the right time.... there's Little People scattered from the living room, going down the hall, to the office where it stops at a pile of papers that have been cut out and glued together, with little scraps of paper on the floor. Or, if you come at 3:00 in the afternoon, the lunch dishes may still be in the sink because we decided to go to the park after lunch. It's life with kids, ya know.

I hope I don't offend anyone that has a spotless house, because maybe there is a secret that I just don't know. I just know that I, personally, can't do it all, all the time. And, I don't think that makes me a bad Mom.

Kaitlin'smom replied: So you have a home thats LIVED in. My MIL was here sunday and most of the house was pretty picked up but there were toys in the living room from the moring play and she said 'oh the life with kids' she remembers when DH was little so it did not bother her one bit she picked some of them up, was kinda weird but I was putting Kait clothes away and I guess she wanted to help. We have a home and we live in it, I dont have a 'showplace'.