The situation with my brother is now getting scary

mummy2girls wrote: I told my SIL that it is now time to call the police or some crisis line and if not I am going to do it!!!!

She called me this afternoon upset.. she was on the comp and found that my brother had visited a will website and then a suicide website. They told him the best thing is to take sleeping pills etc... then she found a bottle of sleeping pills in the washroom hidden. She aproached him and he said that no one cares and that one day you will wake up and ill be dead... Ok this is now getting scarey! She asked me to call my parents and talk to them and im giving her advice. She is getting scared and will feel horrible because she feels everyone will blame her and that the kids will be without a dad etc etc....

MoonMama replied: Oh Shelly! I am so sorry. I'm sending lots of P&PTs that way. I agree she needs to call someone who can help, and if she wont you or your parents need to. Stay strong.

mom2my2cuties replied: I don't know how this works in Canada, but in the US you can actually have him forceably committed to a hospital for treatment if he is a danger to himself or others. Sorry you and your family are going through this....I truly am.

momofone replied: Definately call a hospital.

A&A'smommy replied: he needs help NOW!!! Please keep us updated I have him in my thoughts and prayers!!!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I think it's time for a family intervention. I don't mean to sound harsh, but who cares if the family is mad at your SIL, why should that really be her concern at this point? If it helps save her husbands life, then let him or others be mad. I can't see really why they would be anyway if it means helping him out, but I'm not in her shoes. That's JMHO from what I read. I think an intervention would show your brother that his family really DOES care about him and they are serious about him getting better.

Anthony275 replied: if she hasnt called the police by now, you should do it. you won't regret it

austins mom replied: Thats scary. I hope you get it worked out before something really bad happens. Try calling the suicide hot line to see if they can give you any advice.

Calimama replied: I'm sorry but I'd stop giving her advice and I'd call the police myself.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
I agree

I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts shelly how scary

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luvmykids replied:
ITA......sounds to me like this is at the point where everyone needs to stop talking about what to do and actually do something. I don't necessarily mean you, but all the advice in the world that you give her won't mean a thing if someone doesn't take some action.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I have major problems with people who hang this threat over their families head...Wake up one day and I will be dead Honestly I would do whatever is going to make him the most miserable...call the police or the mental ward (I don't know how it works in Canada) We have a family friend who keeps screwing her life up in massive ways and when she gets caught she takes a bottle of pills and ends up puking for days but then nobody gets mad at her it is just poor B_____ she is sick-she is depressed One of these days it will be one pill too many and I am sorry but people who play with the idea as some sort of a weapon against their families really peeve me off!

luvmykids replied:
I was just thinking this sort of thing too.....no offense, but I wish she could do what she needs to do for her best interest and let your family deal with him. How awful to be stuck in a marriage like that and then not be able to get out b/c you feel responsible for how the other person handles it. Actually, she sounds pretty codependant and needs some counseling too.

I really hope for everyones sake that he gets some help, not just for this crisis but to learn how to deal with things in a way that doesn't drag everyone else into crisis mode too.

bawoodsmall replied: Can you have him committed? You have to do something fast. I also agree that it still seems to me like a strive for her to do what he wants but that could be totally off base. Were the pills hid somewhere obvious? I am so sorry.

Calimama replied: Have you called?

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lisar replied: Can you baker act him??? Thats what its called here. They will put him in the hospital and keep him there for atleast 72hours unless they think he needs longer. I would atleast call and see what you can do. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.

grandma replied: You need to call Social Services and tell them what's going on. I don't think the police will do anything, they might give you a referral number tho.

Kaitlin'smom replied: any updates? I agree with everyone something needs to be done and not just talk. action.