Thanks for your prayers and thoughts... - another update on my Dad

MommyToAshley wrote: First of all, I want to say thank you to everyone for all of your prayers and thoughts. It has meant so much.

Here is the latest update: They still can't find out where the bleeding was coming from. He has had about every test imaginable... MRI, Cat Scan, XRays, Colonoscopy, etc. They have a theory ... when Dad was admitted into the hospital, he had a blood in the stool, very high temperature and high pulse rate and blood pressure. They gave him antibiotics because they thought he was fighting off an infection and they also gave him a blood thinner to lower his pulse rate and blood pressure. They think that he had a small bleed some place but when they gave him the blood thinner that caused it to be worse and that is when he threw up the blood. What I don't understand is why would they give him blood thinner when they knew he had blood in his stool???!!! I am no doctor, but that just doesn't make sense to me! He hasn't had any more bleeding since last night... their theory is that the tear (wherever it is) healed itself. I am not sure I am buying that! They did manage to get his temp down, but now they say his sugar is high (245) and they are giving him insulin. My Dad has always been very healthy and never had problems with sugar so I don't understand this? He also has pneumonia now.

I am glad that the bleeding has stopped, but I don't have much faith in these doctors. They seem to think that none of this is related to his surgery, and that just doesn't make sense to me. It seems like they are treating all these symptoms separately but don't know what is causing all the problems. I tried to talk to my Mom about moving him to a different hospital, but she says that she and my Dad both like the doctors and have faith in them. I think she feels comfortable because he has a team of about 8 doctors working on him, but I don't share that faith. I have tried to talk to her about it without upsetting her, but it's not my decision to make and she isn't budging on the issue.

It's so hard, I keep thinking about my Dad.... he has tubes up his nose, is wearing an oxygen mask, he's lost weight because he hasn't been able to eat in three days, and his arms and hands are all bruised from all the needles.

I just had to come on here to escape for a few minutes.... thanks for being here.

Kaitlin'smom replied: oh Dee Dee I am so sorry, from what you have said I dont have much faith in them either, does not sound like they are looking at the whole picture. I will continute to send lots of PP&T to you, your dad and family.

mummy2girls replied: Oh MY Hon! I am so sorry you and your father is going through this. And yes i can't believe why the doctors have done what you said. But to me i have never trusted doctors since some were at fault for what happened with my son:( Ive learned you need to act on any gut feelings.

I hope your dad recovers soon... I will be still praying for him!

MomToMany replied: I'm so sorry they can't figure out what is wrong with him Dee Dee. ITA, something's not right with those DR.'s. My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with him and your whole family.

coasterqueen replied: Oh Dee Dee I'm so sorry about this. My continued prayers are coming your way. It sounds like to me the hospital is covering something us, seriously. Everything you said just doesn't add up as far as what they are doing, they did something wrong.

ammommy replied: DeeDee, I'm so sorry that this is so frustrating. I'd be having doubts, too, but know that small tears can heal themselves. Just know that they are keeping a close eye on your father. If anything goes wrong, I'm sure they will be able to respond quickly. Will your mother lay it on the line with the docs just like you did to try to get some answers? If she will, encourage her to. The docs probably won't answer your questions, but you could try.
and you continue to be in my prayers.

ediep replied: oh DeeDee, I am so sorry that you and your famly are dealing with this right now.

sending continued positive thoughts and prayers out to you and your dad!

Lollie replied: Oh Dee-dee Im so sorry you and your dad have to go through all this.

Like you, I have lost my faith in doctors for various reasons.We will continue to keep your family in our thoughts and prayers.

Lots of prayers and hugs to you and your daddy...

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I am going to have agree with you in the doctor situation. It just doesn't seem to me like they know what they are doing or not looking at the whole picture. You and your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers today.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry you are going through all of this right now! I hope and pray that your dad will be okay! Keeping your dad in my thoughts and prayers!

texasp3 replied: Oh gosh... well, it sounds like he's stablizing a little and that's a good thing. I know how hard it is to work with doctors sometimes.

My father has been terminally ill with a rare neurlogical disorder and has been basically in the process of dying for the last 10 years. Your average GP hasn't even heard of what he has, and the specialists that work with us admit they don't know much more ... I've learned that doctors are humans too, and they have the same limitations the rest of us have.

On the other hand, I'm a firm believer in the gut feeling... it took me 18 months to convince my mother to get a second opinion when my father first became ill. He was diagnosed with Parkinson's and when I started reading up on it... well, things just didn't fit for me. And my Mom was the same way as yours - she liked and trusted the doctors and didn't want to rock the boat. Eventually, when we took him to the right doctors, we found out the treatment he had been on for Parkinson's was making the symptoms of his condition WORSE. He improved for a short period of time once we got him off the wrong medication.

Anyway... I think about you and your situation with your Dad every day. It is so very hard to watch your own father be ill. I hope that in your case they can get to the bottom of the problem and he can get back to his healthy self again soon!! In the meantime, it doesn't surprise me at all that the doctors are just engaging in symptom management - that really is the basis of their training and sometimes is all they can do until they figure out the root cause.

jdkjd replied: Ugh. I'm glad that the bleeding has stopped and he seems to be stabilizing. I really hope that he will be able to come home soon...

DansMom replied: Hugs Dee Dee---you are coping with a lot. We are all keeping your family, and your dad especially, in our thoughts and prayers.

loveydad replied: Sorry to hear it! Still thinking of you.

MommyToAshley replied: Thanks again everyone. My Dad is still about the same today. He's not worse, so I guess that is something positive. My cough has returned so I can't be in the room with him.... so here I am at home waiting for updates. I really wish I could be there.


My Mom is not the type to do this, which is part of why I am so frustrated. I've tried to ask her to ask the doctors a few specific questions, but she always has a reason why she didn't ask or has a defense for the doctors. She is convinced that these are the greatest doctors on earth. I tried talking to the staff, but they said that they can't give me any information that I need to talk with my Mom. I am not a confrontational type either, but I would not hesistate to ask important health related questions about a loved one in this situation.

kimberley replied: i am sorry i didn't see this sooner. that is a tough spot you are in with your mom. i hope you get through to her and continued prayers that your dad is well soon. take some buckley and get rid of that cough so you can be with your dad. we are here for you!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: (((((DEE DEE)))))) I'm so sorry sweetie. I'm still praying for your dad. I'm glad he is stable now. I hope his condition continues to improve. In past experiences I learned that they do give insulin for various reasons while you are in the hospital. It isn't meant that they have diabetes issues or will have to continue on insulin when they are out of the hosp, but the blood sugar increase can be a direct result from another drug he is on.

Please continue to keep us posted.

MommyToAshley replied: Thanks Aimee, that was one of the questions I wanted my Mom to ask. She told me today that the docs think my Dad may have been borderline diabetic and that he will probably have to control his sugar with diet or meds from now on. I find it odd that his regular physician never said anything about this and he had a complete physical and lots of test before his surgery.

I just found out that they have been giving my Dad blood again. His blood count has been dropping, and he is bleeding again but they still don't know where. My heart sank as soon as my Mom told me that they were back to giving him blood again.

I don't know... maybe I am being too hard on the docs and I am just taking the fact that my Dad is sick out on them. But, my gut just tells me that he needs to go to a different hospital.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sure things will start looking up real soon thinking of you and your family

kit_kats_mom replied: I will continue to keep your family in my thoughts.