Sympathy from DH/SO??

C&K*s Mommie wrote: An incident tonight with Chris got me to thinking about this. Was or is your DH/SO sympathetic to you and your raging hormones when you were (or are) preggo? What about for the hormones that may dictate your day to day actions and reactions, known as PMS? Does he understand that sometimes we are at the will of them, and we succumb to the crying fits, or insatiable appetites, or rotten attitudes for no obvious reason? Maybe I am only speaking of myself with that last sentence there, because Chris does not understand. He thinks it is all a part of me, and unless I recognize it and tell him, he does not differentiate.

CAMSMOM1 replied: When I was prg, Justin totally thought I was nuts! I honestly think he was afraid of me! But now he's more understanding. It's funny, cause he knows exactly when I'm about to start my AF. I'll be acting crazy, crying, angry, and he'll say to me, "Are you going to start your period?" And then he'll stay clear of me for a few days! He is somewhat sympathic, or at least a lot wiser. But men will never understand completly. I swear men have that "time of the month" just like we do...they haven't given it a name like PMS, but I know men can be just as much or more moody than we can be! At least we have an excuse.

MamaJAM replied: Thankfully - I'm blessed with a DH who understands that I have mood swings...sometimes quite severe mood swings. He's always been extra helpful and supportive when it happens. (Extra helpful in that he keeps the kids safely away. ).

As far as the appetite - had to share.
When I was about 10 weeks preg with DS#1 - it was our 10th anniversary and we were at a resort celebrating. It was just DH and I (honeymoon-style resort ). So....at breakfast (buffet) they would sit couples at tables together. The first morning we were sat with couples we had NOTHING in common with. Neither DH nor I could wait to get away from the table...but I was STARVING! Everytime I'd start to push my chair out - DH would be ready to jump...and I was only getting up to get more food. DH was really nice about it though...but he does still tease me about my 10-course breakfast on that trip.

MyLuvBugs replied: My DH thinks it's funny, and laughs at me when I'm all hormonal and crying. Then I turn into rage woman and snap at him. That shuts him up pretty quick, but you can still tell that he's laughing on the inside. He tries to understand, but I know to him he thinks it's just crazy.

kayla's mama replied: Jason for the most part is understanding. Sometimes he looks at me like what crawled up you a** and died. Like Ann said earlier, Jason gets kinda excited about AF coming

luvmykids replied: No sympathy here. Then (and now!) he says "Is it that time? Get a grip" like it's a switch I'm supposed to flip.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Basicially the same here. Chris has never come forth and said that, but I know that is what he must be thinking.

luvmykids replied: If they could handle it, I wouldn't mind so much, but most men I know would completely fall apart if they had raging horomones like we do!

coasterqueen replied: I'm not sure how to answer this. I think Ryan does in many ways, but I do have to remind him "hey I'm pms'ing" and then he says "I know momma, I'm sorry". So he is pretty sympathetic to a degree.

Ryan had severe food poisoning back in college and had horrible cramping and when this happened he said "oh, so this is what pms'ing probably feels like huh? I'll never complain when it's your TOM again.".

Again, IF he knows it's that TOM, he is sympathetic and will try to make things easier for me. He was the same way when I was pg. Not as much as I would like, but then again I want the world.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Nicole are we married to the same man???

Scotty isn't sympathetic towards ANYTHING that has to do with me. Not my migraines, cramps, mood swings, sickness, pregnancy...NOTHING! I never say anything when I'm sick b/c he'll say "Take a nap if you don't feel good", but he'll gripe b/c there's no food on the table when he gets home. He doesn't get it. Or if I say "I have a migraine" He will just say "Oh." OH???? When he doesn't feel well he wants me to bow down to him and I never hear the end of it. I'm not allowed to be sick.

Scotty has a lot of good traits, but being understanding and sympathetic towards me is not one of them.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: My Dh is pretty understanding when it comes to that stuff now. The first few months that we were married he'd get defensive when I was pms'ing and crabby but now he knows (most of the time) why I'm acting crazy. When I was pg he was really supportive - he couldn't really understand how I was feeling but he tried.

luvmykids replied:
The tiniest little cough has DH on the couch with blankets and incessant WHINING and MOANING and GROANING, you would think he was on his death bed. And he can't even roll over to get the remote out from under his butt, much less get up for anything.

If it's me, forget it. I'm being a "wimp".

C&K*s Mommie replied: Aimee and Monica-- you guys have me cracking up! Your hubbys are sooo much like mine. Our DH's must be brothers, because Chris is the same way with illness. He just got over being sick last week & I dreaded him coming home or hearing him when he called on the phone to tell me how sick he was feeling. Like you said Monica, they have incessant whining, moaning and groaning...

Everyone else that has understanding husbands, my hat is off to them for that. If they could only give my DH some pointers in the sympathy dept, it would be appreciated.