Spencer's in the Hospital

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: I'm very disappointed! He was admitted this afternoon because he is refusing to take his medication and is not eating or drinking what he should be. He has lost almost 4kg (roughly 10lbs) since February. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I brought his medications for him to take at the hospital with the nurses, but he would not take them. The pedicatrician told him that if he hadn't taken them by the time his blood work came back, she was admitting him. He didn't care. He thinks this is a vacation and has already asked for a game system. I don't know what to do! He can't spend the next 4 months in the hospital taking medication through his IV.

TheOaf66 replied: wow, tough one, hope all works out ok

A&A'smommy replied: oh goodness you poor thing!! Have you tried telling him how heartbreaking this is too you? I hope he will start acting beter for you!!

gr33n3y3z replied: Dont get mad at me for saying this but:
Tuff love hun thats all you can do
and I would not give him a game nothing

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redchief replied: I read your post the other day about how exhausted and in need of some you time you are. I think Spencer has an opposite problem. I think he's grown used to everything appearing for him and people taking care of his every need. I know how sick he's been and this really makes it hard for me to say this, but I'd tell him, "Get better, start taking your meds and eating better so you can go home. That's where your game system is and you can't have another one right now." I would give him books to read, instead.

I think. Good luck, Kirsten. You have my prayers and PTs.

KingMom replied: Stay strong. The better he thinks he is the more he might try to test you!

Hang in there

b&bsmom replied: Oh, Kristin, I could not believe it when I read it. I agree tough love, I would not make it fun for him, I would not give him a game system and I would limit tv and movies, I would make it so he wants to get home. I know easier said and done. I am praying for you Kristin, I hope he straightens up and takes his medicine.

Lots of hugs for you!!!!!

amynicole21 replied: I'm so sorry he's having a set-back. I wish I had some words of advice for you.

Kirstenmumof3 replied:
You know that's exactly what I said to his grandmother (my MIL), but the nurses will cater to him and he will get whatever he wants. I was however upset when I found out that DH wasn't planning to go up and see him tonight.

mckayleesmom replied: Sorry Kirsten. I would not let him have the game system or anything else fun for that matter. He seems to think this is a game and he needs to realize that the hospital is not a fun place...especially for you. I wouldn't give in to any of his extra demands.....hes not at the hospital to feel good...Maybe when he realizes that he will knock it off and do what he needs to do.

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gr33n3y3z replied:
That makes it so much harder for you to deal with then
Maybe you should have a talk with the nurses and see what they can say or do to help this situation get under control.
I just wish there was a way I could help you out more

C&K*s Mommie replied: I hope the nurses will abide by your wishes, and not give into to his desires.

Prayers for you, Kristen.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: A million hugs and prayers Kirsten!
I really hope the nurses don't give in to his wanting a game system. Sounds like he is trying to be in control of the situation and just not doing the right things just because he can.

jaytrevjax replied:
I don't know how old your son is, but if he is a minor, I would think the nurses need to listen to YOU, not HIM!!! If you tell them he is not to have video games and movies and such, I would think they would have to abide by your wishes!

luvmykids replied: I'm so sorry to hear that. This may be a dumb question, but does he understand that it could be life threatening if he doesn't take his meds? I know he knows how sick he's been but has anyone ever put it to him that way, in all seriousness?

ITA with the tough love thing, I know you've had it up to their eyeballs with nurses but maybe you can get the doc to back you up on them following your orders in order to get him home again.

ashtonsmama replied:
with Lisa. I think he's putting you and the family through more than is necessary. I can see if he was taking his meds and cooperating, but he's not. And he needs to understand that that's NOT ok. It's not "play time". He needs to get well. P & PT's coming your way. I'm sorry there's another bump in the road.

kimberley replied: i'm sorry hon. i agree with the others on tough love and putting it in writing to the nurses what you want and don't want. they are facillitating his opposition and that has to stop. i know it is hard and sad for you, but him being in the hospital again may be a blessing in disguise for you. there are nurses and doctors there 24/7 to care for him... take a break for you. spend time with the girls, spend time by yourself and with your therapist. let dh step up. you need a break.

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jcc64 replied: I'm with Ed and Lisa on this one, Kirstin.

mammag replied: Nothing new to add.....I agree with everyone else! Especially with taking some me time while you can.

Lots of hugs and prayers!!!!

kayla's mama replied: ITA with Ed and Lisa

MommyToAshley replied:
I agree with what has already been said and don't have any additional advice, just additional hugs.

Cece00 replied:
ITA.

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CantWait replied:
I agree I'm so sorry.

na81 replied: Many P&PT's coming your way! I agree with all of the advice everyone has given- tough love! I hope things look up for you soon!

TheOaf66 replied: I hope he is doing better

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Lynda836 replied: So sorry to hear he's back in the hospital. It does seem like he's treating it like a game. This may be a silly question...is there a child psychologist associated to with the unit that could meet with you both. I'm not an expert or anything, and I certainly haven't gone through anything similar....but could this "not taking things seriously" be part of how he's coping with this? Maybe a psychologist could give you some suggestions for dealing with his behavior.

Just a thought...or maybe you've already gone down this road.

Hope things get better

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Kirsten I'm so sorry he is being stubborn. You know he has to be so tired of all of this. It's just his way to rebel. I hope he starts taking them soon.

amymom replied: We are continuing with lots of prayers and hugs for you and your family.