Someting weird is going on...

Mommy2BAK wrote: Ok as I have stated in earlier posts before, I have a wonderful MIL. She is normally great!

Well about 2 weeks ago was my SIL's birthday. We had no money at the time to give her so we just gave her a card. And I told my MIL that I felt so bad and was so embarrassed that we couldn't give her more, and she siad "no thats fine, don't worry about it".

Well then yesterday my DH was riding in the car with her and he said that she was griping him out about the gift, she told him that was low to just give her a card and that we should have given her an IOU. And that w owe her $20 for christmas on top of her gift. And she said that SIL gave us $20 for our B-Day's.

So I am thinking what the heck is going on????

My thoughts are that you give someone something because you want to not because you expect something in return.

I am so upset about all this because everyone always credits the wife for gifts so now I look bad. And I have to spend this Christmas with them. I don't know if I should say something or what?

Boys r us replied: What??????? I would be P*SSED!

LOL If I were you I'd tel MIL that she had better mind her own business or SHE may be the next person who doesn't get a gift!

favre4fan replied: WHAT!!!!?? OMG that is ridiculous. You should not feel bad at all, she should be thankful she got a card. Selfish, very selfish on her part. you should not expect gifts from anyone.

kimberley replied: i agree! completely rude!

amynicole21 replied: Holy Cow! That is ridiculous.

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh sorry, I wasn't very clear that it was my MIL that my DH was riding in the car with and she was the one griping about all of this b/c apparently my SIL was complaining to her about not getting anything but a card.

Josie83 replied: How RUDE! And totally messed up . . . xx

MomofJandB replied: I think it's very responsible of you NOT to give a gift that you can't afford! Isn't keeping your head above water more important? I think it's great that you remembered her birthday! I can't tell you how many times mine has been forgotten my an inlaw! Stick to your guns and don't feel guilty!!!!!

A&A'smommy replied: OH that is SOOO stupid!!!! I would be SO mad.... You shouldn't feel bad you can't help that you werent able to get her anything besides you have responsbilities and giving birthday money isn't one of them!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I can't believe they would expect even a card! I do good to remember my kids birthdays let alone everyone in DH's or my family. I don't get them anything...they are lucky if I call them on their birthday. In return I don't expect a call from them or a gift, either. Although MIL was petty like that and if she were still around I could see her doing the same thing.

Mommy2BAK replied: Well, what do I do? Should we give her that $20 along with her christmas gift?? I already spent $50, which is more than we spent on his other sisters! But if I don't we will look bad, AGAIN!!!

Boys r us replied: No don't give her $20..I would mention that you got her a really nice gift for xmas to make up for her birthday..then again..I might not say anything...but I definitely WOULD NOT give her anything extra!