Something to think about

BAC'sMom wrote: I know that this has been talked about before but probably not to this degree.

If you have a child (juvenile) that is a registered sex offender do you think that child should be educated in the same classroom / school as other children?

Should that child be able to participate in school activities such as sports, band or choir?

Do you as a parent deserve the right to know that a registered sex offender is attending school with you children?

mckayleesmom replied: Well....I wouldn't want them in school with my kids. I would rather them go to an alternative school or something.

MichaelsMommy replied: Wow.. Don't know that I've heard of a child sex offender?? Thats sad.

Tough one.. I think the there are different schools for troubled children where they take extra care with their mental health as well.

Bee_Kay replied: ** I do..... but pretty graphic **

I know of one child sex-offender.
He is the one that sexually assaulted my daughter Lacy during the summer of 05. He is also 3 years younger than her (14 at the time), but large in size.

Although, vaginal penetration was not acheived by his penis, she was penetrated by his finger, oral was for a moment. He tried to rape her anally but was not able to. She was able to fight him off, but came home with some bruises.

I immediately called 911 and they showed up. We were asked to bring her to the police station. We (me, dh and Lacy) were in one room and he was in another room with his mother.

He confessed to everything. He was charged that day and sent to a juvenile facility the next morning.

He is now back in school... From what I understand, all the children know what he did, and he is treated as an outcast. We were also informed that he was a part of alot of in depth counseling type things. I dont remember the details.

As far at what happened in the courtroom, Lacy stated that she didnt want to participate and she didnt want my DH and I there either (completely her choice). So, we didn't.

So, we can hope and pray that the outcome is that he feels remorse and has learned something from it.

BAC'sMom replied: I too have had a family member who was sexually assaulted by a registered sex offender during school ten years ago. She was 12 at the time and he was 15 and it turned out that she was his 3rd victim. But yet he was still allowed to attend school and participate in team sports. Just three days after he raped my niece he was wearing the school colors in a track meet. With the school knowing full well his background and what he had done AGAIN!

I only ask this because it broke today on the news that in my hometown that we have... count them (2) registered sex offender at our high school, one is on the varsity football team and the other one the JV football team.

I was just wondering what other parents thought about the topic.

Nina J replied: I would definatly want to know. I think I would prefer that a child who was a sex offender was in a different school, whether they've done something once, twice, or five times, they have done it. I don't want my kids around that, in case something happened. For me, my children always come first. I guess it's harsh to say that even if the kid was really, really sorry and was trying to be a better person, I still wouldn't want my child to be exposed to them. I would think it was a good thing if the child accepted there crrime and worked to be a better person, but they've shown a type of behaviour that's dangerous and unnacceptable. I wouldn't want my kids near them.

gr33n3y3z replied:
to answer your questions

No

No

Yes

C&K*s Mommie replied: I agree with Lisa. My heart would break for my child the entire time though.

BAC'sMom replied: Well since the media has got a hold of the information…… tomorrow night should be a very interesting football game. Thank goodness I will not be there to see this unfold I know the families involved and I can’t help but feel sorry for them both. It’s going to bring a brand new meaning to “Friday Night Lights!” And to make matters even worse it is a home game.

holley79 replied:

No

No

Yes, just as if a sexual offender/ predetor moves into your neighborhood.

holley79 replied: I am fixing to ask my Lt (who is in charge of Juveniles) about this. I know if a Juvenile is accused, arrested, convicted of a felony (which sex crimes are) or a violent misdemeanor then the School Board is immediately notified. I also know there are schools in Escambia and Santa Rosa for "troubled" juveniles.

** Just talking to my Lt. Lt said the principle can opt to allow the child back in their school. If they feel the Juvenile’s presence is going to disrupt the flow of the school then they don't have to allow them to attend.

I think the sex offenders attending public school and notification of the parents should be something brought before legislature. I think it may be something to look into. **

Boo&BugsMom replied: IMHO, it really depends on WHY they are a registered sex offender in the first place. I can't say yes or no without knowing the details of what happened. Think about the 18 year old having sex with a 17 year old and then being labeled one for the rest of his/her life. If they are a child sex offender under the age of 18, are they usually cases where it's child molestation and horrible things like that? Or can a 17 year old having consentual sex with a 16 year old become labeled too? I guess I'd have to have some questions answered before I give my two cents.

To the last question...YES!

kimberley replied: i agree with having them in an alternative school. they lost their right to a normal childhood when they raped someone else of theirs. sorry if that is harsh, but that is just my opinion. as a parent, i demand the right to know if such people are sitting beside my kids in a classroom. if a pedophile may not reside within a certain distance of a school or park, why is there an exception made for youth???

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Totally agree Kim! You didn't sound harsh at all.

I should also add that in the cases of rape, molestation, and other obvious circumstances, then NO, I do not think that they should be allowed back in school to harm more people or be able to participate in their activities. I am only concerned about the ones that get labeled for having consentual relations.

gr33n3y3z replied: a sex offender is a sex offender you cant rate them they are what they are reguardless of age of either its a sexual act that the other didnt want or was to young to know the diffrence.

BAC'sMom replied:
You got it girl! Once you cross that line you are what you are forever!

gr33n3y3z replied:
very sad that they allowed this punk to continue to be in reg. school
Quater back or not his record goes with him every where his chances of going to college is slim and none bc colleges dont want the risk

redchief replied: Any registered sex offender listed as high or moderate risk to repeat the offense should absolutely be banned from attending regular school. All parents should know, first, what their school's policies are regarding admittance of convicted sexual felons in the school, and how many are there if they're allowed. One thing that I've not seen is anyone saying what they would do if they found that a sexual predator was stalking their school's halls. It's interesting that I don't even know if there are any convicted sex offenders in my daughter's high school. I'm going to find out. If, in my research I find there are ANY medium to high repeat risk kids in the school, I'm going to the board to find out why they're there. We have an alternative school for kids like that too. That's where they belong.

To the question of consenting relationships between minors (ex. a 18 year-old senior and a 15 year-old sophomore dating), I'm not in favor of a relationship with such a difference in ages, but I also wouldn't label the 18 year-old a felon. This is in mutually consenting relationships. No one, male or female, should ever get away with forcing themselves sexually upon another person, regardless of age likeness or difference.

MoonMama replied:
The world is such a scary place anymore.

BAC'sMom replied:

Then me mission is done Red Chief all I wanted is to make people away.

As I stated earlier a registered sex offender raped my niece at school in the bathroom, while another student held the stall door closed about ten years ago. My niece’s school district did nothing to this young man he was still allowed to go to school and play team sports. My sister went to the authorities right away when she found out; my niece was examined and put in counseling. My sister waited for about 4-6 months to wait to see what the school district and the police would do. They school never called to check on my niece to see how she how she was doing, no nothing! Not until later did my sister find out that my niece was his 3rd victim. Then she got mad and went to every newspaper and TV stations in the Houston area. After the news hit area wide the police dept picked that young man up and flew him to Florida to stay with relatives until things cooled down. He later was convicted went to boot camp and was let right back in the same school. In the mean time my niece was transferred to from school to school because every child with in 40 miles knew that it was her that accused him of rape. She was picked on, ridiculed, and made fun of and treated like she “had asked for it”.

So I hope I opened some parents eyes….

mom2my2cuties replied: i don't really know what to say (so mark this moment down - doesn't happen often) as my children are 2 & 6 so I don't think I have to worry yet about that. But I did want to say I am very very sorry for what your niece and her family have been through.

That boy should have never been allowed back in that or any other school where there is the possiblity of it happening again!

I am glad your sister & niece did the right thing!!! Right on for them fighting back!

J-rod replied: i think it depends on the situation. the ones posted i believe YES.


now here is one for ya.

a guy i know was dating this girl in HS. he was 17, her 16. then at the end of the relationship he was 18 and her 17. they had sex during their relationship (consentual) then they broke up when he went to college. her parents were pissed that she got hurt and they pressed charges. he is now a registered offender. i think thats bs....all they did was have a HS fling and they parents took it too far. he is now branded and scared for life.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I agree. This is what I was trying to say. These situations are not fair, in my opinion. Granted the law is the law, but there has to be some common sense involved. I think in that case it IS total crap!