Something Awful Happened to my Friend Saturday - Prayers Needed

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: Saturday night I was visiting with a very good friend of mine. We were celebrating, I had just graduated from a year long program at the hospital. We had some Pizza and a couple of coolers. it was just what we both needed, just to sit and talk and let everything go. I left her house at 9:00. I usually stay longer, but I was tired and had a long day ahead of me Sunday. About 10:30-11:00 my friend went out to put her garbage out and a man came out from behind her, stabbed her and then raped her. She was able to get back into her apartment and called 911. 4 officers and 2 paramedics arrived at her aparment within minutes. They brought her to the ER, but they didn't really think she needed to go. She hadn't told them that she was raped, just that she had been attacked. When she got to the ER, she was pretty shaken and the doctor talked to her and kept asking her what had happened. She finally after 3 hours told the doctor what had happened. The Police had to be called back to the ER (they were not impressed that she didn't tell them what happened) and she they gave her the choice to do the rape kit or not. She decided to have it done. She told me it took them 2 hours to do the whole exam. I didn't find out what happened to her until Monday when she called. But Sunday afternoon DH got a call from a nurse at the hospital, she was asking for me and told him that someone could really benefit from talking to me. DH gave the nurse my cel number. I knew right away it was my friend. The doctors were going to discharge her Sunday, but she wanted to be admitted. She was terrified. So they admitted her to the adult mental health floor. Monday night she meet with a female police officer and she called me just hysterical. The officer made her feel like she was a criminal and she felt like she was on trial. I feel just awful for her. Monday night the officer called me, because I was the last person to be with my friend. I tried to be helpful, but I started to feel like I was being interegated. The nurses on the Unit have banned the officer from visiting my friend again. She is doing okay, but the evenings are the worst. The last couple of nights she has called just so upset and not wanting to sleep. I've been visiting her everday. She doesn't have any family here and I'm really the only friend she has. She is being discharged on Friday and I am going to be staying with her for a few days. I've been to her apartment to feed her fish and water the plants. I cleaned her whole apartment for her, trying to make it cheery for her when she comes home.

No one every thinks that this will happen to you. She just went out to put her garbage in the bin behind her apartment, something that she does all the time. It's so scary to think about this, I sometimes don't leave her apartment until 10 or 11 at night and walk across the street in front of her building to catch the bus. I never ever thought it would happen.

Please keep my friend in your prayers. She could really use them to get through this.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Oh Kirsten.....

words can't say how sorry I am for your friend, and for you.

You're in my thoughts everyday....

A&A'smommy replied: OMG that is horrible and SO scary!!!! I am going to pray for her and keep her in my prayers I hope that she will be able to start sleeping again soon and I hope that she will heal quickly... that is one of the most horrifying things a woman can go through

3_call_me_mama replied: Prayers for you and your friend. You are in my thoughts. You have a lot on your plate right now, i admire you for beign a true friend and helping see her through this. SHe's extremely lucky to have a friend like you.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh my that's so scary! I'm so sorry for your friend! I can't believe that officer treated her like that after what she went through. I'll be praying for her and for you ~ I'm glad she has a good friend like you to help her through this!

MommyToAshley replied: OMG, how scary and horrible!!! You never really do think that things like this can happen to you. When I was young and lived on my own in an apartment, I would always take the trash out late after eating dinner and not think anything about it.

I can't believe the officers gave her a hard time about not telling them what happened at first... you would think that they are used to dealing with victims and such behavior sounds typical after such a violating crime. As for the woman police officer, shame on her... no wonder people are afraid to speak up!!!

I am glad your friend had the courage to do the rape kit. Because of her, they may have a chance at catching this creep. I hope they catch him and ... well, I can't say what I hope they do to him!

Your friend is in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry this happened to her. But, I am glad that she has you. I don't think anyone could ask for a better friend.

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh that is terrible. I can't even imagine the horror that she is still living. I am not surprised that the female police officer acted that way, they shouldn't even be able to see the patients if they are just going to interrogate them . But I will keep you and your friend in my thoughts!

Boys r us replied: OMG!! How horrible!!! She will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers!

amynicole21 replied: OMG! That is so awful! I'll be keeping our friend in my thoughts... what a nightmare.

mom21kid2dogs replied: It's terrifying to think that a routine can turn into terror!! So sorry for your friend. Having someone like you to help her through will certainly be a great help as she begins to heal!

jem0622 replied: I am very sorry to hear this. Many prayers for your friend.

My2Beauties replied: OMG that is awful and so scary! I always took my trash out late at night too when I lived in an apartment building. I am so sorry for your friend and she is in my thoughts and prayers. That stupid police officer, how dare her interrogate your friend that way, she should be banned from ever visiting any rape victims! Bless her heart, she has been through something very traumatic. And bless your heart for being there for her, you are such a wonderful friend.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Both of you are in my thoughts. She is lucky to have you as a friend.

DansMom replied: That is so terrible---I'm so sorry for your friend. This happened to someone I know, a similar incident, and she couldn't even go back to her apartment. She moved and friends packed her stuff. She also couldn't be alone, for months and months, and dropped out of college altogether. It's a devastating experience---the officer should know better than to treat her like that.

kit_kats_mom replied: That's awful. I'll be thinking of her and wishing her a speedy recovery of her physical wounds and the hopes for support from good friends like you to help her deal with her mental wounds.

Jamielou replied: The same thing happened(except stabbing) to my sister two weeks ago and it was a freind. She was at home asleep in her own bed and he came in her window i cant say too much because they caught him and she is going to have to go to court but she feels the same way as your freind they kept her at the emergency room for almost 6 hours doing test. It takes a long time to learn how to deal with something like this but i hope your freind gets some professional help.

ammommy replied: That is so horrible. P&PT's her way. I hope she gets some counseling to help her through this.

3xsthefun replied: OMG! That is so awful what happened to your friend! I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers!

kimberley replied: oh hon, i am so very sorry that happened to your friend. how awful! i am glad the nurses are keeping the cops away. nothing worse than being interrogated when you are the victim . p&pt her way. you are such a good friend, Kirsten.

redchief replied: Where in the Ghulag do you live again? That's horrible!

Emeraldsmom replied: That is just terrible. I am so sorry for your friend. She will be in my thoughts and prayers. I can not believe the police treated her like that.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Thanks everyone! She was discharged yesterday and we kept pretty busy. We went to Walmart and then the Salvation Army, just being goofy and keeping the mood positive. When we got back to her house, she was okay until it was time for bed. We didn't get to sleep until 12:00 this morning and then at 2:30 I was awoken to her crying. I stayed up with her and tried to calm her down the best I could and when she finally went back to sleep I went back to bed. I asked her about it this morning and she doesn't remember waking up or crying or even talking to me lastnight. She said the nurses in the hospital told her the same thing. I really hope that I am supportive, I really don't know what to say. She's been a wonderful friend to me and I plan to be here for her as long as she needs me.

lisar replied: That is so horrible. It is my worst night mare to be raped. I am sorry that your friend has to go through this. Keep us updated on weather or not they catch the person who did this.

Lisa