Some people..... (kinda long) - I REALLY need your opinions

Bee_Kay wrote: I'll do my best to give you a little background.

Ashley is friends with this girl Toni. They are pretty much best friends, but they go to different schools (different districts).

Toni's stepfather coaches baseball at Ashley's school (which is about 20 miles away). He asked Ashley if she would be manager of the boys JV baseball team, she accepted.

He also offered to give her rides home afterwards and after talking to us about it, we agree and thanked him graciously.

OK.....

yesterday evening Ashley called me really upset and asked that I come out there and pick her up.

Here is what she told me (and her friend Crystal was a witness).

Ashley and Crystal were walking by the bleachers towards the dugout. Ashley heard a "HEY ASHLEY!" Ashley turns around and it was Toni's mom (who has always been really sweet to Ashley. Ashley said "what?". Toni's mom, Steph (who is like 37) says LOUDLY in front of all the spectator and the team "WHO THE H*LL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE????"

Ashley was shocked and she just walked away.

At the end of the game, Steph again confronted Ashley and said "Hey Ashley!". Ashley again said "what?"? Steph started yelling at her "You quit taking advantage of my husband and quit using him for rides home!!".

Ashley replies "But Roger offered to give me rides home my parents offered him gas money and he said it was no problem since on his way home, he drives by our house anyways."

Stephs daughter, Toni, starts yelling at her mom to leave Ashley alone and to quit it.

Steph replies "You better show me some respect! and quit using my family".

Ashley replies "With you acting like this YOU DON'T DESERVE MY $%^&* RESPECT Stephanie and I don't USE your famliy, he offered and YOU KNEW IT!"

So, then Roger comes up and asks Ashley "Are you ready? I'll give you a ride home"

Ashley says to Roger "No I already called my mom.. plus I don't want to take advantage of your kindness anymore (crying)"

Stephanie tells Ashley "Shut the h*ll up and quit saying that to him".

Roger says to Ashley "Don't listen to her"

Ashley says to Roger "No thanks I won't be riding with you anymore".

Toni jumps out of her mothers car (Steph and Roger had 2 separate cars) and runs to Ashley, crying, and hugs her and tells her "I am so sorry that my mom is doing this to you, I don't know why".

Steph says to Ashley "Toni has no right apolozing to you Ashley!"

Ashley, crying, says to Steph "What did I do to you???"

Steph says "You can bet your mother will be hearing from me tonight!!"

Ashey says to her "GOOD! I hope you call my mother and I'll tell her everything you said tonight".

Steph wouldn't answer and drove away. (I never did get a phonecall from her )


I GET OUT THERE and pick Ashley and Crystal up and they tell me the story.

I didn't know what to so today I called the school and reported it, as it is a school function, and the prinipal was p*ssed when I told him what I knew.

So, he is calling Ashley and Crystal into the office to find out what happened and I am supposed to hear back today.


I can't believe some people!!
Roger has been nothing but nice to Ashley and we are so grateful for his kindness..... where can this psychotic behavior come from out of the blue????

I don't know what good could come out of calling her.

What do you think?

CantWait replied: Sounds like she was a little on the tipsy side if you ask me. What some people will do. You're dd doesn't take it to heart.

redchief replied: No good will come of talking to her. She's insecure in her relationship with her husband and sees your daughter as a potential romantic threat. There is nothing I can think of that will make her think differently since it's not really Ashley that's the problem.

Bee_Kay replied: Ashley told me that she was so embarrased since this display was around other spectators at the game and that she felt like a "wimp" for crying.

So I told Ashley.... that it's Steph that should be embarrassed because everyone was glaring at Steph...

and as far as a "wimp" I told Ashley "You are FAR from that. You stood up to a 250 lb woman in her 30's. I'm proud of you Ashley, I couldn't have done that at your age. Steph is the one that made an @ss of herself!!"

mammag replied:
This was my first thought as well. Women can get quite irrational when they feel there is a threat to their relationship (imagined as it is). I just can't see anyone acting out like that because they thought the husband was being "used".

I think it's best for you to continue to pick her up and for her to avoid this crazy woman.

I'm glad she stood up for herself though!

mckayleesmom replied: Ok....it sounds to me like she is jealous of your daughter. Perhaps she is under the impression that something inopropriate is going on between your daughter and Roger. Maybe she has been fed some wrong information.

BAC'sMom replied:

Ditto! Sounds like to me that she's jealous. I bet if you do a little research this is not the first time this lady has gone off the deep end. JMO

Kaitlin'smom replied: I agree with Ed that was my first thought. Sounds like she deffinalty has isses and nothing to do with Ashley, she should be proud for standing up to her, she was in no way a wimp. If its not inconvient for you just pick her up your self and advoid the crazy lady

Bee_Kay replied: Yeah, that is the first thing that came to mind..... but OMG Ashley is 14 years old! I didn't realize women could be THAT irrational about girls!

I asked Ashley if Roger was ever "flirtatous" around her and she said no, never! All they talk about is baseball and kids on the baseball team.

I just don't understand.

For a grown woman to verbally attack a child at a school even is just beyond my comprehension!

AlexsPajamaMama replied: I agree with Ed, I had the same thoughts about her being threatened/jealous.

WTG Ashley for standing up to that crazy lady! She is soo not a wimp for crying!

Bee_Kay replied: The principal called me just now and he said that he had talked to Ashley and her friend Crystal.

He got the whole story and he said that because it wasn't on school property that there isn't much they can do about it, but he advised Ashley that if anything like that happens again that she should immediately call the police.

JAYMESMOM replied: First let your daughter know she does not need to be embarresed for breakingd own and crying for being attacked verbally by an adult.

Second this woman has serious trust issues and probably some other mental illness or addiction issues. It is defeintely not a rational approach.

I would however continue to pick her up myself so not to open her up to possibly more assults.

Let us know what happens

Halo42101 replied: To you & Ashley.

Bee_Kay replied: Oh shoot....

I forgot to add what Ashley told me.....

Awhile ago, Toni called Ashley and said "My mom said she is happy that you are on the baseball team because she wants you to keep an eye on Roger to see if he is seeing other women out of town'.

Ashley said that she wouldn't "spy" on Roger.

Do you think that is all it took for Steph to get that mad at Ashley???

C&K*s Mommie replied: Ed and Brianne hit the nail on the head for me. Marie's comment was probably true too. Sad that she would yell at a teenager for something so innocent and trivial.

Never would I encourage a young person to raise their voice to an older person, but since she felt threatened, I say kudos to Ashley for standing her ground and not feeling intimidated by that woman acting like a child.

mammag replied: I doubt it was just that she said she wouldn't spy on him....

I do think that was the first tip off that the woman was a little wacky.....who says that to their 14yo daughter, to tell a friend.

C&K*s Mommie replied: It is not Ashley's place to get in the middle to act like a spy for an adult affairs, such as a suspected affair. She was wrong to even think that Ashley should do that for her, let alone following yesterday and the shouting that she did at Ashley.

~~*Missi*~~ replied: honestly reading it.... it sounds like Stephanie thinks your daughter is putting the "moves" on your husband and its jealous.... like she is threatened or something by your daughter... which is stupid in my eyes she shoud have more faith in her marriage and husband but that is so what it sounds like

I think you handled it well and let the principle handle the school end of it. but I think you should call and ask this mother where the heck she gets off talking to your daughter a CHILD TO HER like this???

Bee_Kay replied: Thank you all for your replies.

It does make sense that she she feels threatened, but it's hard to accept that someone could possibly think that of my daughter.

But, it's Steph's problem, not Ashley's.

Also, about questioning the trust factor in their marriage..... yes, you hit the nail on the head. Roger did leave Steph last year for about a month for another woman.

But, to drag Ashley into it.... a child? It's just sick.

Again, thanks everyone.