So here's a deep thought fo ya - a personal one! LOL

Boys r us wrote: My friends and I always have a 'Friend's Thanksgiving' the middle of November. So we're doing it next weekend. Now there is one "friend" in particular that no one really cares if she comes or not, but we really like this one dish she makes that none of the rest of us know how to make..would it be bad to invite her and have her drive 3 hours to come just b/c we want her souffle?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Yikes. If it was me, I wouldn't want to drive 3 hours because people liked what I can cook. If you don't care one way or the other, but she seems to enjoy your company, invite her. If you really don't want her there, then yes, it seems rude to invite her for souffle.

kimberley replied: you guys are bad! lol

invite her one last time and GET THE RECIPE!

MomToMany replied: I think it would be a little rude. Guess you can't really call her a friend then, can you?

So why is she still invited if no one likes her, or does everyone just "pretend" to like her for her souffle?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
Yeah, have everyone bring the dish and the recipe so she doesn't feel singled out. Great idea Kimberly

moped replied:
ITA!!!

Boys r us replied: Well, she's been a long time friend of all of ours for over 10 years..we've all been friends that long. But she moved away and doesn't make that much of an effort to keep the friendship up. It's not like any of us DISLIKE her, it's more like a we could take it or leave it kind of deal. Here's a better way to explain it, if one of the rest of us couldn't make it for the date planned, we would all rearrange it and do it on a day when we could all be there b/c it wouldn't be the same without anyone person invited..well except for her. I don't think anyone would really miss her if she couldn't come. Make more sense. But we're all talking about how she HAS to come b/c it wouldn't be thanksgiving without her souffle!

Kind of cold hearted..ahh sure..maybe..but none the less it's true.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well sometimes we invite people out of habit..

Would she notice right away if she didn't get the invite?

I agree... invite her... get the recipe. Take time to talk to her after the Holidays about what is lacking. And if it doesn't change.. next year you have the recipe..lol

JAYMESMOM replied:
I agree with Mel!! Maybe she doesn't realize that she is being distant,etc. or her live could have changed and she is not able to keep in touch so much. Let her decide "after the holidays"

Invite her this year and have everyone bring recipes and that way you have it for next year.

coasterqueen replied: I'm kinda torn on what to say. IMO I wouldn't invite her just for her souflee. I would be inclined to talk to her about her being distant, though. I don't know. I just couldn't invite someone for just that reason.

Sorry I'm no help.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am not the one to ask here I spend 2 days bakeing 15-20 pumpkin and pecan pies this time of year and again at Christmas because people like my recipe and ask me to make them one and it has snowballed every year!

A&A'smommy replied: LOL what if you just asked for her recipe? I don't know I wouldn't want to leave her out BUT if you don't really care if she is there then don't invite her because that is not nice

A&A'smommy replied:
Mel you are so wise!!!

ITA with Mel!!!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: As harsh as it may sound, I'm at a point in my life where if you're not a good friend to me, meaning you don't keep in touch or you don't make an effort to call if something significant happens in each other's lives, well then you're out. I don't have time for that. It's not worth it to me to pretend to be someone's friend just because we have history...JMHO.

Hey, if you want, I can send you a souffle recipe!!! I'm not coming down on you Nichole, please don't think that, but I would definitely not invite her just for the food or recipe. I think it would be nicer to just let the relationship go and not invite her, then have her come all the way out and accidently overhear someone mention you only wanted her recipe. I'm sure she'll sense a bit of a cold shoulder even if you say you guys don't hate her, kwim?

MommyToAshley replied:
ITA

MommyToAshley replied:
LOL!

3_call_me_mama replied: I wouldn't invite her and see if you actually miss her and the souffle, if you DO miss BOTH then call her or email or whatever her adn tell her you missed her and that thanksgiving wasn't the same without her... or her souffle:)

gr33n3y3z replied:
I agree
It is very rude

CantWait replied: Yes, it's definetly rude. I would call her and ask if everything is alright. I've been on both sides of this fence before. I've had friends that haven't called or made an effort ot keep in touch with me after I've moved, and I've just had to move on with my life. At the same time though, I've been the one that doesn't make the effort to call or write, or even send an email because of things I have going on in my life. Many always say it only takes a minute to write a short hello, but sometimes when you're feeling low, and things around you seem to be buzzing, a minute seems much longer.

I hope that things work out. I guess the real question is, how good of friends were you all before she moved? Then maybe your answer would be you don't just want her recipe but her friendship back.

MM'sMama replied:
Abbie can I come over lol LMBO?

I tend to spend forever baking too LMBO so I'd be a bad person to ask too lol