So frusterated with my fiance - Might get long.

Mom2Boyz wrote: Today was 3 years since Larry and I went on our first date, and he barely acknowledged it We don't never do anything extravagent to celebrate it, but
normally we go to the same places we went on our first date. Well, when he got home, I was figuring the check book, and he asked how much we had left. When I told him, he got upset, and said we couldn't go anywhere because we couldn't afford it. We don't have alot of money, but I think we could get by with going and at least having one drink or something and at least acknowledge that we've been together for 3 years!! I just said fine, and went in the kitchen and started dinner, and he started playing some stupid game on the stupid xbox. When it was ready I told him, and he didn't even answer me, just kept on with his stupid game. So I ate, and let his get cold!!!! 2 hours later he decides he's hungry, then doesn't even eat half of what I made because it had gotten cold . Needless to say, we barely spoke all night. When he got ready to go to bed, he told me he wasn't trying to be angry towards me or mean to me, he says he's just stressed about our finances. We have been pretty broke lately, trying to keep up with the bills, and put a little back for when we go to Vegas, but what good does it do to get yourself that upset about it? I don't like not having money either, and having to live paycheck to paycheck, but It's not like we're going hungry, or without electricity, Conner has all the things he needs. We just don't have extra money like we did when we were both working. I'm afraid he's going to want me to go back to work soon He mentioned it tonight. He doesn't understand though, by the time we pay for daycare, I'd barely be bringing home any money anyway. I don't know if anything I've said here even makes any sense, but thanks for listening anyway.
If anyone knows of any get rich schemes, let me know

A&A'smommy replied: I SOO know how you feel!!! I'm sure you have seen me vent on here a few times.
((((BIG HUGS))))) I am SOOO sorry! My husband and are living pay check to pay check sometimes without buying groceries I just try to remember that my mommy lives close, I get to stay home with my baby and some day it will be better! As far as day care I agree sometimes there is no point BUT if you have to maybe you could find subditized care or a sitter. And maybe you could do something this weekend to celebrate three years! Maybe go on a picnic or have a nice dinner by yourselves, or take conner to the park or something.... (((HUGS)))

amynicole21 replied: I'm so sorry, Amy. I know it's been a struggle for us making the change from having lots of disposable income to very little when Sophia was born. You figure it all out eventually. I hope you guys can work it out soon.

jem0622 replied: Oh honey I know it. Sounds like you are both frustrated. What if you worked opposite schedules so that you didn't need daycare? That's what DH and I do. Because we still needed for him to work when he stopped working his full time day job. Just something to think about. And it would give him more bonding time with the little man.

HUGS

bellymonstersmama replied: I'm so sorry. Dealing with the stress of money is never fun.
I have been lucky enough to have my dream job of staying home with Annabella her first 6 months. but time is almost up now and I want to cry just thinking of leaving her.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I know how you feel! DH and I live paycheck to paycheck and it's really hard. We do take in students and that helps out a lot, but there isn't a lot of money left over. Things have gotten so bad with us that we finally had to beg the bank to give us a consolidation loan and then we remortgaged our house. We really needed to do all of this because we just could not pay the bills anymore. Things will get better!

coasterqueen replied: UGH! ((HUGS)) Sorry your evening was ruined by money. I get so angry that we all have to worry so much about money.

We live paycheck to paycheck too and completely over extend ourselves, . We fight about money CONSTANTLY and I hate that. That isn't how a couple should be, fighting over money all the time.

Have you looked into home daycare? Around here they are at least $60-$75 a week cheaper than going to a regular daycare! It makes a big difference for us. We wouldn't even know how we would afford regular daycare if we had to pay those prices. Our home provider is very good too, well most of the time, lol. She can't do as good as me, but next best, lol.

Also, what about something like a home based business where you can sell things and make your own schedule. I'm a HomeStyle Specialist for AtHome America on the side besides my regular full-time job and my part-time cleaning job. LOL. Do you think I need another job? I can make my own hours with AHA and bring in as much money as I want that way. Something like that would at least give you some extra *spending* money for those special occasions AND you could do it in the evenings and not need daycare at all .

Mom2Boyz replied:
I havn't even really looked into any daycare at all. I'm REALLY ANAL about who I want to leave him with. I don't even like leaving him with my mil.

As far as working from home goes, I've talked to a couple of people about different things, and am suppose to have a phone interview tomorrow with one of them (wish me luck ) Hopefully something will work out

paradisemommy replied: how about looking into taking in maybe 1 or 2 other kids (babysitting) so that you could still be home with him all day AND make money at the same time. i'm not sure about all the rules and what you have to do (getting a license and such) but i don't think it's THAT complicated. growing up, i used to babysit and take over a few home daycares and boy they raked in some serious bucks..and i really got shafted come payment time..but that's another story ANYWAYS..off the subject, sorry, have you ever thought about that?? sorry you're fighting..my ex and i used to ALWAYS fight about money..it's the pits

Well Wisher replied: I totally understand you. May be you could look at taking a part time job when your husband is at home. That way he can look after the baby when you work. Like evenings, nights or weekends. That way your baby will be safe and you do not have to pay for day care either

kimberley replied: i feel your frustration and DH's. i am sure he would like me to go back to work full time but i can't fathom having someone i don't know take care of Jade. right now i bartend one night a week when DH is home and that buys our groceries for the week. it helps. money is very tight here and DH would love to go away or go back to school and we just can't afford it and it makes me feel like a villain when i say no because i know he is disappointed. maybe your DH felt that way too. hang in there and good luck with your interview today.

btw, if you find that get rich quick scheme, pass it along! lol

My2Beauties replied: I dont' know where you live but here in Louisville, simple customer service positions pay somewhere between $12 and $14 bucks an hour and that makes for an OK paycheck. If you did it full time and found an at home daycare you would have plenty of extra money, or you could do it part-time night like 3 night a week or so and make a couple extra hundred bucks a week. I know how you feel, I hate working and being away from Hanna all day, it's the pits, but we couldn't live if I didn't work. DF is a roofer and he sometimes gets his full 40 hours when we have nice weather, but lately all this rain, his rain days off are killing us. So I know how you feel. Me personally would go stark crazy being in the house all day, you might find it refreshing to work! But then again, It drives me stark crazy that I am not with Hanna, I wish I could work part-time but, alas, I can't! Hope you figure everything out honey, sorry to hear this. Money isn't something to fight over, you can't take it with you when you're gone, and it never brings happiness! That is one thing I'm glad about, no matter how broke we are we never fight about it, we just get through it. I grew up with nothing so I'm doing ok right now and still really dont' have a lot. I know couples fight over money a lot, but if he brings it up again, let him know it hurts you that something so silly is making him upset, because you will live through it!