So Frustrated :(

Bee_Kay wrote: I took my daughter out to lunch a couple days ago, we had a nice talk about her moving back home.

She said she really wants to. Her reasons
#1 she knows she needs help (her exact words)
#2 she is tired of being poor (found out she sold the new bed set I bought her (sheets, comfortor and dust ruffle) because she needed money.
#3 The trailer house she is in is freezing cold all the time
#4 She misses her family and wants to be "home"

That was yesterday. I talked to her again about it yesterday asking her if her mind was made up about moving back home. She said that she isn't going to change her mind. (I told her that if she decided to move home, I had ALOT of work to do to get it all ready).

She asked me to call her today so we could get some of her things over here (get her clothes washed and the ones that don't fit her anymore, get them clean and packed), and take care of the rest tomorrow.

So, I was up pretty late last night getting her bedroom ready... getting the bed ready, dresser ready.. just getting everything in her bedroom set up.

So, I've tried calling a few times today and there isn't an answer either at BF house or his cellphone.

I am really getting concerned that she may have changed her mind (of course, with help from the BF).

Just needed to vent a little. Thanks for reading.

MyLuvBugs replied: Have you tried just going over there to see if she's there, and ready?

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm so sorry I wish she would come to her senses and move back home and let you guys take care of her and the baby.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I hope everything works out well

C&K*s Mommie replied:

Bee_Kay replied: My dh and I stopped there today.... nobody was home.

luvbug00 replied: How fusterating!

Bee_Kay replied: I know

I realize that there really isn't any advice to give that hasn't already been given and tried by us.
There is just a certain relief to whining a little bit sometimes

Thank you all so much for letting me vent and for the advice and most importantly, the support.

jacobsmama replied: I'm sorry that you are going through this. we are here for you.

Edward's Mommy replied:
We are totally here for you!!!!

MamaJAM replied:

Bee_Kay replied: Thank you all

Although I left messages for her yesterday, I didn't hear from her all day.

Funny how she can be so loving one day, and just shut it off the next.

We'll see how it goes today

mckayleesmom replied:
Have you ever wondered if perhaps your daughter is intimidated or even scared of her boyfriend? To me she sounds like someone in an abusive relationship of some kind. They are always willing and ready to leave when they are around friends and family, but once they try to do it...they back down.

Bee_Kay replied: I don't believe that it's to the point of abusive yet.

But, I definately believe that it is a controlled relationship.

From what I understand, when she mentions to the BF that she wants to move home, he turns on the tears and threatens how he will allow his life to go to h*ll if she moves back home.

I guess he guilts her into it.

Rather than seeing it as him being controlling, she once told me "But he needs me".


ETA: When she was here last week until about 9:00 pm, I found out (a boy at school told my younger daughter) that the BF spent that evening at his ex-girlfriends house (the same one he cheated on her with).
My younger daughter mentioned it to my older daughter who replied "Oh he was only there for like 2 minutes".

The boy that saw him there said he was there for the whole evening.

It is driving me crazy. When she was over a few days ago. She apparently told her BF that she would be back at his house at about 3:00 that afternoon........ I KID YOU NOT.... my phone rang at 3:03! He called because she was 3 minutes late!!!