Skimpy clothing?

ilovemybaby wrote: Was having a discussion with a friend about this today and just wondered what everyone thinks about letting a young girl wear short skirts and those tiny tops that reveal a lot. Or clothing with suggestive/rude writing on them.

I personally will not EVER let Abby wear that kind of clothing. Not until she can do so without my consent. And hopefully she never will.

There are too many sickos out there.

Also what would you do if your MIL gave you skimpy clothing for your daughter?

I would throw it away or rip it up. JMO

luvmykids replied: NO, NO, NO. We've just lately begun dealing with this with my 11yo stepd. Right now the rule is shorts have to be long enough for her to bend over without anything showing and shirts have to come to the top of her pants with her arms raised.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Well my 2 year old wears short skirts but I don't think thats quite what you mean.

When she is older we will discuss it and ultimately she will have the ability to choose her own clothes - but mom/dad will always have veto power.

My MIL is not a skimpy clothes type of person so I can't imaging that will ever be a problem for us.

Buckles&Chains replied: Hmmmm.... it depends what you mean.
I wouldn't let her wear crop tops or anything, unless she was swimming... but short skirts I'd porbably be ok with. As lonlg as they weren't tight or provocative in any way.
No heels and no rude or offensive symbols or writing.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I don't have a daughter, but if I ever do the answer would be no. I hate it when I see little girls dressed like that. Monica's rule is a good one - I think that was the rule when I was a kid too. Actually not just when I was a kid, but as long as I lived in my parents house.

kimberley replied: over my dead body! lol

ilovemybaby replied: I don't have a problem with short skirts and shorts. As long as you teach them which way to pick something up (instead of bending over, bending knees) when they are in public.
My main problem is with those really tiny tops that show their belly button. And clothing that says rude things. I don't see why a young child needs to wear that stuff.

I don't want my child to have to be hot in summer when everyone else is wearing shorts and tshirts.

As long as clothing is the right size for the child and not showing their chest or belly or bottom then that's ok.

MM'sMama replied:
I couldn't have said it better myself!

1lilpeanut2love replied: NO, NO, NO!!
NEVER

I know how the opposite sex iS!!!

Nina J replied: Nope, but we may have different ideas on what skimpy is. To me, skimpy is revealing clothes that make people look twice, it's kind of hard to explain my idea. I would defiantly not let my daughter wear skimpy clothes.

5littleladies replied: Absolutely not! And they won't be wearing skimpy clothes when they are 13, 14, 15...You get the idea. As long as they live in my house they will dress with modesty. And I hope I raise them well enough that they will NEVER dress that way.

C&K*s Mommie replied: with everyone!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Not in a million years would a girl of mine dress in skimpy clothing. I even dislike bikinis on little girls. But that is just me. And I don't have a girl.

gr33n3y3z replied:
yep same here

mckayleesmom replied: Nope....I don't even like most of the Mary Kate & Ashley stuff at Walmart.....half that stuff is hoochie wear. Some of it is cute, but some of it is appalling.

BTW...I do let McKaylee wear Bikini's in the summer, but she is 2 and usually swimming.

luvmykids replied:
Some of these kids lines are not much more than adult clothes in kids sizes, why do they think I want my daughters to wear the same things I wear?

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Me too. Some of them are really cute but there is a line KWIM? A 2 year old budda belly in a bikini is cute. But then what is still a little girl? I have always had Tay in a one piece and no clothes that show her tummy or anything that if it was on an adult or older(teenage) girl would be considered sexy. A friend of mine has always dressed her daughter in revealing clothes and now she is 7 and it is way too much! She doesn't look like a little girl she in a cute outfit-she looks under dressed!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I just checked the poll, do you mean to tell me that no one here would let their young daughter dress like a hoochie? I am shocked! LOL.

ashtonsmama replied: Definitely not...I see all these little girls, some maybe 8 or 9, in miniskirts and tight shirts, and it makes me so sad! I wonder why their parents let them out like that! I certainly wouldn't/won't!

ilovemybaby replied:
LOL

danahas4monkeys replied: No we have this discussion all the time! My oldest daughter is 11 and we argue constantly about her clothes! I always win lol I tell her when she is old enough to get a job and buy her own clothes then she can have more say with her clothing choices!

Dana

MamaJAM replied: No...not at 12...not at 16....not as long as they live under this roof (and hopefully they won't wear skimpy clothing when they are on their own as adults).

We have a very strict dress code in our family...and "skimpy" doesn't fit ANYWHERE in that code.

coasterqueen replied: Nope, not in this house. I don't even like Kylie (and never have) wearing dresses short enough that the little panties that come with them show. ICK! I buy her dresses extra long, always have. I'm not even a fan of the bikini for kids. I bought Kylie one once but wasn't crazy about it. She just wore it in our backyard in the pool that summer, not out in public.

Chiflata2003 replied: No way! I am hoping that I will teach my dd to be respectful of herself to not do so even when she's out of my house and able to do it (cuz she isnt doing it while living here).

luvbug00 replied: I'm way late on this but I have to add my dos centavos. (2 cents)

Define skimpy.

Mya wears terry cloth shorts ( think 1970's gym class), spagettie straps, she had a bikini until she was 2 ( a gap triangle terry cloth thing ) and then now 2 piece bathing suits ( more sporty style) She wears halter tops and she has one hawiian thing that shows her tummy. She pretty much wears what I wear shrunken. which brings me to Lovemykids comment about why do I want my kid wearing what I wear. for me it's simply because she likes what i wear. we are often walking arround dressed the same. be it bohemian skirts with a tee shirt on top or a halter and jeans. She is also a hudge fan of punk clothing and I'm all for self expression so if she wants it and there are no curse words on it she can have it. I Do not let her wear anything with writting on the bum or segestive comments ( AKA ANY tee shirt by abrocrombie) But that is my limit for her. I don't let her judge people by how they look , I want her to learn that a "hoochie" is a person no matter how they dress and a "nerd" is a person no matter how they dress.

coasterqueen replied:
ITA! This is a good thing to teach kids. Thanks for reminding me of this.

jcc64 replied: I have a 13 yr old ds, and I am perpetually amazed at how the girls in his class dress. You all know I'm pretty liberal across the board, but when it comes to this issue, I'm old school.
As far as the bikini on a 2 yr old thing- I think we're talking about 2 very different issues. I don't think there's anything suggestive about a little child in a 2 piece bathing suit on a beach. Corey has a few bikinis, and I like them b/c they're easier to get off when she has to pee.

BAC'sMom replied: NOPE! And her Daddy won't go for it either. He says she's not dating till she's 35. Will see.

luvmykids replied:
Sounds like our house ... DH told Colt if a boy talks to Kylie to "beat him down"
Thanks a lot daddy, it's taken me months to undo that one!

3_call_me_mama replied: Nope. Not here. I HATE to see littel girls dressed like trashy adults. IMO that's how it looks. I dont' allow teh bikini's, halter tops, short skirts/shorts, writing on teh butts of clothes etc. I refuse to shop at places that dominate their clothes with these items. When my kids are of age adn if they decide to dress like that I'll still voice my dislike for it but they are old enough to make that decision for themself. We mainly shop at places like oshkosh because tehy tend to carry classic kids clothes. Occassionally they might carry 2 piece swimwear or somethign that I dont' care for but nothing revealing or skimpy. I will NEVER buy clothes from Limited Too for my kids. Just bad taste IMO

ilovemybaby replied:
I don't see a problem with clothes as long as I cannot see down my childs tshirt or top, their belly button or bottom in public.
There are just too many sickos out there. It makes me uncomfortable thinking that someone could be looking at my daughter like that. I would rather have her dressed in a tshirt and pants or dress or something like that when we are out.
Not to say she can not wear a crop top and shorts or mini skirt at home.

But I can't even wear revealing/skimpy clothing myself. I am just way too self conscious and I hate men looking at me. So it is really a personal thing.

And you are right about not judging people by what they wear. Some people don't even have a choice as to what they wear. I used to get teased all the time at school when we had mufti-days (when we could wear whatever we wanted) because all my clothes were 70s clothes handed down from my mother. I hated it but she would not buy me modern clothing.
Abby is only 22 months and I don't like putting her in the old kids clothing my mum kept in her glory box. I know no one is judging her but I would just rather put her in something modern than in a frilly lacy dress with embroidery on it. Crazy huh.

luvbug00 replied: I love frilly lace things as well don't get me wrong. But I'm not going to stop her from wearing things ( withn reason As I listed before) Just becuase of what other people may think of her or me for that matter. I've let her have many thing most parents find objectable but it doesn't matter to me because she has yet to judge somone by what they are wearing, but she will voice her opinion on what one says or how they act. I can't dress as "Hoochie " as I used to in high school ( keep in mind I'm only 24) Nor do I really want to. Sure i may have made some bad clothing choises for her when she was really little. I wasn't the most mature person then. But I've decided on how I want her to be raised and letting her make choises for herself is one of them. I've set my rules and when she looks for clothes with words she lets me read them and tell her if it's ok . That is how I know she understands there are minor limits but her choises are endless.

~~*Missi*~~ replied: When sabrina buys her own clothes and lives in her own house or apt. Well then she can wear whatever she wants. I hope that at age I have raised her right with values and morals that she won't feel the need to "show her goods" to get noticed. I would rather her get noticed for her achievements etc..... (sorry but that is my opinion)

I walk down the street and see girls wearing this stuff and think omg if you ever ever ever try to put that on i will burn it and ground you for LIFE! lol

luvmykids replied:
happymom, I'm not judging you or your daughter for your clothes. What I meant by that is that I personally don't want them in shrunken versions of anything that on an adult is "sexy". Do I wear halters and spaghetti straps? Sure, but one time I had Kylie in a terry cloth scooter and jacket, kind of retro, from Old Navy. Didn't show any tummy, not overly short, etc. But someone commented that Carmen Electra had an outfit like that. Ewww. She's a hot chick but I don't want people thinking that when they're looking at my 4yo.

I don't want my kids to judge people based on their clothes either, but it's also a fact of life that people will be judging them and thats just not the way I choose to present them.

To each his own, I just wanted to clarify my earlier statement.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: No way will my daughter dress like that. My cousin and I were just talking yesterday about girls clothes. She had to go buy an outfit for her 6 year old daughter for pictures and she said that they couldn't find anything because everything was to skimpy. Come on people they are little girls make clothes that are age suitable!!!!!

ilovemybaby replied:
Yeah I like frilly lacy dresses too but as long as it is not what Abby wears every day... I can only take so much LOL
And I think it's great that your daughter will judge someone by the way they act instead of what they look like. You've obviously brought her up very well And I have seen a few pics of her in your siggies/posts and I always think she looks very cute and smart.
And I think it is good to give kids choices when it comes to their clothes. I'm glad you do that. I plan to do that for Abby too. As long as she goes out with her top and bottom both dressed HAHA

My2Beauties replied: I think you have to define skimpy. I mean to me, a tank top is not skimpy but to some it is. So I think it depends. I don't care about bikinis, I always had one as alittle girl, Hanna has a bathing suit, but she had a bikini last year, Desiree has both. Mostly we swim with family in someone's backyard, very rarely do we swim in public anyways, except last year when we went to Holiday World. But shorts and skirts have to be a certain length definitely. They have to be to where NOTHING shows when she bends over and I mean nothing. But shirts I'm not as bad about. Now a tube top or something is out of the question, but tank tops and stuff are fine. Also as far as remarks on the shirts, Desiree has some that say Cute or Drama Queen on the front of it, but none of them say like "boy crazy" or "sexy" or anything. Hanna has had little baby outfits with Cute Baby written on the butt before, but that was it, after they are able to walk around themselves, I don't really agree with writing on the butt. Desiree has some pajamas with writing on the butt, but that is the furthest she goes out of our house with them. I have seen her wearing shorts with All American Girl on the butt before and I said something to her about them. We were at home and didn't go anywhere, she said her mom won't let her wear them out. I think that's fine as long as she doesn't go places with writing on her butt, it doesn't matter what it says it just draws attention. And believe me, OMG, Desiree gets PLENTY of attention from boys older than her. When I take that girl to the mall she has 16-17 year old boys looking at her and she is 10 Scary! She looks all of 14-15 herself though so we have to be careful with her.

MommyToAshley replied:
Wow, Jeanne, this is the second or third time today I found myself agreeing with you. It's nice to be on the same side of an issue with you. Ashley has a couple of two piece swimsuits, and I find it so much easier to take her to the bathroom. A wet one-piece is so hard to pull back up.

I don't think anyone wants their child to wear skimply clothing, but we all have different ideas of what that is. And, so do our kids. I like the idea of having a set of specific rules to follow. I think when Ashley gets older, I will do that. She'll still have the freedom to choose her clothing, within a set of guidelines.

holley79 replied: Annika will be dressed like a school marm if I have any control over it.

But really I think that little girls' clothing is getting way too revealing IMHO. Tanks, shorts that kind of stuff doesn't bother me. What bother's me if half shirts and shorts/ skirts that don't cover their hinnys.

We live in Pensacola which is a beach down and my FIL has a pool. Annika will be in a 2 piece probably because like another mom said, they are easier to get on and off when they have to go potty.