Share your experiences - of bad parenting in public

redchief wrote: I was just musing over the last couple of weeks. Some summer visitors absolutely amaze me with their "parenting." Here are a couple of for instances.

1) There was a motor vehicle crash last week. The accident happened when a teenaged driver drove the wrong way down a split road that runs through the center of our town. The accident was minor and there were no injuries. The mother of the teen witnessed the accident and stormed to the scene berating her obviously embarrassed and frightened teen daughter in front of emergency workers, police and the occupants of the other car. Lesson? Mom has no problem belittling her daughter in front of perfect strangers. Wonder how she treats her child behind closed doors.

2) Mom is in a local convenience store with a pair of rambuncteous 4-5 year old boys. The kids ran around the store oblivious to how busy the store was on a holiday weekend. Mom told them gently that if they didn't behave they wouldn't get the treats she had for them (a box of donuts was firmly wedged under her arm). She repeated this a couple of times that I heard. As they got to checkout, one of the unruly boys knocked into an older lady who was carrying a half gallon of milk. The milk was dislodged and fell to the floor making quite a mess. The mother berated the poor woman for not being careful and splashing her kid with milk. Lesson? It doesn't matter what you do in life, the consequences are someone else's fault.

Do any of you have examples of horrible parenting to share?

C&K*s Mommie replied: My own....

As for others I cannot think of any right now. I will ponder this throughout the days, and come back when I remember.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: Ah yes I have one. I was at work the other night. Oh by the way I work at Target for those who don't know. LOL! Anyway I'm usually in the infant department. Well this woman must have had 4 kids and they were all obnoxious. They were all running around and dumping clothes on the floor. Well she was completely ignoring them and just shopping. Meanwhile here I am tired and just want my section clean so I could go home on time. Well the most obnoxious of the bunch decided he was just going to pull 5 or 6 shirts off the rack and throw them on the floor. Unfortunately for him my TM (teamleader) Saw this and said something to his mother. The woman high-tailed it out of there after that obnoxious kid screaming in tow. I just don't see how you can go into a store and let your children destroy the place.

zdk753 replied: There is only one that I can think of right now. There is a woman who comes in to my work every Wed. & Sat. to buy lottery tickets. She always has her 4 or 5 yr. old son w/ her. She is always yelling at him to go do something or quit bothering her. And I mean yell loud enough where everyone can here her. The whole time she is in there she is pushing him away & telling him to go on. This poor child just continues to try & love on her & saying "mommy I want you". It is so sad to watch. I just want to pick him up & hug him. It's heartbreaking watching him try so hard for some affection.

3xmommy replied: I've got two.

1: i was at the dollar store.. there was a small girl... 1-2
she wanted a toy. her mom said no. kid cried. alot. loudly.
mother reached back.. in minivam,..she KICKED the nurse.

Other than that ive seen TOO MANY kids sitting in HOT cars without the windows down

My3LilMonkeys replied:
We had a woman come in for an interview a while back with her baby in a car seat - probably a 3-4 month old. She didn't call ahead to ask, she just came in with him. When the interviewer asked, she said she didn't have a babysitter but it was his naptime so he would be ok. Since it was a group interview (5-6 people all filling out paperwork together, including a 12-minute skill assessment test, before the one-on-one interviews) we offered for her to leave the baby with us in reception. She refused, stating that no one but her ever watches the baby (um, what are you going to do with him if you get the job??). He then proceeded to wake up about 1/2 way through the skill assessment and cry while the mother ignored him, saying "shhh! Mommy's busy, you have to wait."

Needless to say, she didn't get the job.

redchief replied:

OMG how did you keep from asking that nutbag how on earth she thought she would be hired after that? I wouldn't have been able to help myself.

paradisemommy replied: i went to a mcdonalds play area and was letting taven get some of his energy out - there were a handful of parents there but a few that sat down and did not check once on their kids. there was a little girl - looked to be about 5 or 6..she climbed to the very top of the side and proceeded to spit quite a few times..i jumped up and very loudly told her.."hey you need to stop spitting or climb down here and get off right now"..the aforementioned parents again not once turned to look and see whose child i was yelling at but i had EVERY parent staring at me like i was the most horrible parent in there..i grabbed taven as fast as i could, put his shoes on and as i was going out to the door was telling taven..(very loudly)..yes, baby, you aren't supposed to be spitting off of the play area..that's just really nasty and disgusting..

redchief replied:
Ewww... Don't blame you for speaking up. That's gross.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
I think I would have had to call the athoirites on that one.

TheOaf66 replied: gotta love how some people go to places and just let other people watch their kids, it is like dropping them off at a daycare to them...sad

PrairieMom replied: I won't let Ben play n the mcdonalds play land any more. He once got pinned in there by alittle girl about 5 years old. she wouldn't let him out, of corse, no parents were watching...
DH finally went in to rescue him. Th little girl had the gal to tell DH that he was to big to be going in there.

mckayleesmom replied: Well...mine is my fault...Whenever we go into public places I tell Mckaylee to behave because "mommy doesn't want to beat you in public". If she acts up I say "Do I need to beat you in public?". Of course I don't beat her for real, but its just something I say to keep her in line. One time she was acting up and I went to grab her and she ran from me yelling "please don't beat me mommy, Please don't beat me mommy"..... . Needless to say...I don't use that anymore...Now its 2 warnings and she has to ride in the cart.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Just the other day, we went to the miniport at the mall... and there were these 3 women there, with about 10 kids between them. Well they sat down with their Subway and let the kids go wild, they weren't watching them. The kids ranged between 2 and 10 I guess... well one of the girls was beating down on other kids, and pushing the kids down the slide... before they were ready I mean... well one of the other parents went and interrupted the 3 women's really loud talking to ask which of them was one particular girls' mother... because the girl in question had been trying to beat up her daughter for the last 5 minutes, and the mom needed to watch her kid - this wasn't a daycare center.

So the mom got up, said something in her language to the other 2 moms, who laughed really loudly - and went to chastise her daughter. About 10 minutes later... the girl was at it again. This time, the miniport supervisor told the mother that if she didn't watch her children, she'd have to pay the daycare rates if she expected others to watch her child. The mom got all snitty and went to chastise her totally obnoxious daughter (who I believe was about 3 or 4) again.

So anyways... you guessed it...about 10 minutes later... the girl is at it again - and so the mom and child get kicked out. Then she's all peeved, because her other 2 friends don't "back her up", and so they all leave - but not before the mom pulls up her darling daughter's dress and whacks her a good couple on the butt... then they all left, and the woman was yelling back that she'd put in a complaint, yadda yadda yadda... then one of the men who was there with his kid yells back - This isn't a daycare centre, you need to watch your own kids, so Go Ahead and see what they say...




*sigh*

mom21kid2dogs replied: Well, the one I wish I had a quarter for every time I've heard it is (Said to crying/screaming child) "If you don't shut up, I'll give you something to cry about" I always just want to say "and that will work how, exactally?"

holley79 replied: I'm sure I have plenty but just can't think of any right now.

It never ceases to amaze me on how people do with their children. There are a few that I would like to choke.

Jackie012007 replied: ohhh yeah... I had to go to the County Office yesterday to apply for medicaid because I have insurance through my college but it runs out in July... so I dunno if any of you get foodstamps or wic or whatnot, but I was in the same office where they make you wait in line like cattle and there was this woman who probably weighed about 5-600 lbs, who could barely walk or dress herself, huffing and puffing to the poor foodstamps lady about her foodstamps and she doesn't get enough yadda yadda... meanwhile this women felt the need to bring her 3 bratty kids and infant in... she lets what looks like a 7 year old push the little umbrella stroller that the infant is in... well the girl pushes it back on its hind wheels and it fips over with the baby in it, the baby HITS THE FLOOR and instead of running over to the baby like any SANE NORMAL parent would do, the lady runs over and starts SCREAMING at her daughter who was pushing the stroller, she's like an inch from her daughters face and SCREAMING ... then smacks her in the face!!!!!!!! THEN, after a good few minutes of crying, checks on the infant... OMG!

I had to leave, I was so upset by this (HORMOOOOONES)... CUZ OMG I was so close to saying something to this idiot. Then she lets her other two hellions run wild in the teeny tiny office, and they tripped a little girl who slammed onto the tile.... I mean my god, it sucks that we all have to be there but don't bring your 8million obnoxious brats with you... and if you do, make sure they behave!! The people in that office irritate me... I dread going there but I have no other means of insurance because DF and I aren't married yet!

Boo&BugsMom replied: When we were at the local library not too long ago I swear I saw what looked like a 7 year old with a pacifier in his mouth!!! UGH! WHY!?!

A lot of my stories are about lack of parenting. I see it way too much. People bribing their children with toys or treats is one I hate. I will admit, that once in awhile I will see something cute and cheap...like $2, point it out to Tanner, then he will ask if he can have it. Most times I say no, sometimes I will say yes, but I always tell him if he acts up it will get taken away and he wont get it. I really can't stand it when people always bribe their kids to behave, like saying "if you are a good girl I will give you some candy" everytime they go into a store. Then they always expect something, or wont behave unless they have a treat waived in their face. It's a learned behavior.

The worst ones are the type that let their kids act like animals in public. It's almost like some people think that because they are not home, they don't have to do their job! Even worse are the ones who scream at their children really loud.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I would have lost it right then and there! I could not have stood there and let her treat her kids that way. How horrible those children's lives must be. I wonder if it was one of those "I have 5 baby's daddy's" type situations...geesh! What is wrong with our world?!?! Stupid people just should not pro-create, period! I know as parents, we all make mistakes and we learn from them, hopefully. But this is an example of someone who should have had a hysterectomy at birth!

Jackie012007 replied: It makes me sick that there are so many great women in the world who cannot have children no matter what they do, yet the scumbags who should be sterilized end up with 6 children who they treat like crap Yeah yesterday was a rough day at the county building... that place skeeves me out

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I'm sure you see lots of "winners" there.

luvmykids replied: Just the other night I was at the grocery store, it was around 10pm (mom gave me a night out and I spent it grocery shopping LOL) and first of all I couldn't believe these people had their kids out that late, why couldn't one have stayed home and put them to bed? Anyway, the kids were of course whiny and tired and saying they were hungry, the man was cussing at them like no other and telling them to shut up or he'd beat their a**, then they gave the younger one a box of cookies and let him open it, when the older one reached for some the woman smacked him upside the back of his head and said "You know better, those are his cookies and he'll scream if you eat some". They were maybe 2 and 4.

ashtonsmama replied: I guess leaving my baby in his carseat on the floor of Target and almost walking up to the checkstand without him would count?

PrairieMom replied:
most of my bad parenting moments happen at Target

Boo&BugsMom replied: I have one we saw at the zoo this last weekend...a pregnant girl was smoking...tisk tisk!