Saddness a month after m/c - normal?

flirtycuddle wrote: I had to have a d and c on the 25th of Janurary unexpectedly. I was almost 12 weeks along when I found out about no heart beat and had to have the d and c. I was fine with it up till now seeing as I've already had 4 previous m/c but none were this far or ended in a d and c so this is the first one in that aspect. For some reason the last 2 days I have been a complete emotional mess and I don't get why. I thought since I was ok up till now I would be fine but for some reason I have been crying at everything. I just feel so out of it right now and have no one to talk to. I just want to know if this is normal?

sparkys2boys replied: I have never experienced this so I would not even began to understand it but wanted to offer and maybe day that you should talk to a professional if it keeps up

holley79 replied: I'm sure with all the mommies to be and the new babies being born has been triggering it. I think this is completely normal. not to mention your hormones are probably still out of whack.

5littleladies replied: It is completely normal. It has been 6 months since my last m/c and I still find myself in tears at times. Little things might set it off, like seeing a newborn, or it might be totally random with seemingly no reason at all. I don't think a mother ever gets over losing a child.

BAC'sMom replied: Sorry for your loss

I think that it is perfectly normal. I did the same count downs the first few months after my loss. I still do not look forward to that pg's due date and day of my loss and that was 13 years ago.

moped replied:

I think it is very normal.......I am so sorry you have been through so much

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry honey, I'm sure it is normal!!!

Mom2Boyz replied: I'm so sorry for your loss
I would say it is totally normal. I have had 3 children since my m/c and I still get emotional about it at times. It gets easier, but never completly goes away.

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Bamamom replied: This might not make you feel better - but hopefully it will help you see that you are completely normal - I'm 31. My mom had 2 mc before me and she STILL gets emotional every November and every February. That was your child and you are mourning a loss. I think it's completely normal to mourn someone that is so dear. It's only been a month - just give yourself permission to grieve. Please let me know if there is anything I can do

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: I think that is totally normal not to mention you must have a big change in hormones, too. That would make things worse, imo.

My older sister and I were both pregnant in 1990. I miscarried shortly after I found out I was pregnant. Then in 2000, we were both pregnant again at the same time again. I had an ectopic pregnancy. Every time I see my nieces / send them a birthday card, I cant help but think I could have children their exact age. After all this time,,,it still makes me sad. I think its totally normal.


Hang in there - it does get a bit better over time,,,,but of course you never will forget - nor should you. Hang in there and keep the Faith.

flirtycuddle replied: I just wasn't sure since when I had the other 4 it never really hit me. I was young 16-18 when I had them. I had the m/c without having to go through the d and c and this time it hit me really hard. I have my 2 kids now that are 3 and 18 months and part of me keeps thinking that I should have another baby around August right after my sons 2end birthday. I know my hormones are all messed up and that is part of it, plus been on the pill so that's not helping the hormones. I really thought I was done having kids but now I am starting to want another baby but I know right now is not the right time for me personally.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Honey it is so normal! That baby was a part of your heart and your body already! They were loved by you without ever seeing them! I had a few m/c before Taylor and I have had 2 since her...I think in some ways as hard as the ones before her were (I wanted to have a baby SO BADLY) the ones after her have been almost harder... I knew how wonderful it was to carry a child and it was so hard to have that excitement end with no baby to complete it. I will be praying for you but for now-for yourself-allow yourself to mourn You did suffer a real loss and it is OK to recognize that!