Sad, Frustrated, Angry - MIL vent

amymom wrote: Really long story short.

I am so sad right now, My MIL is upset with me because I can't take her leaf watching tomorrow since I am going to vist my brothers & sister and their families. I am leaving (6 hour drive one way) at 5am tomorrow and coming back on Sunday, I haven't seen my family since July.
My MIL forgot that I told her last week that Billy & I were traveling this weekend. I haven't had a break in so long. I am just so sad.

I said maybe I & the kids would take her on Monday, maybe I would take the day off work, but not good enough, because the WHOLE family can't go. Lee needs to work.

Just so sad.

booey2 replied: Sorry she is being so unreasonable. She may come around, maybe she had a bad day when she tried to confirm the leaf watching with you and she took it out on you. It doesn't excuse her behaviour. Sorry I have never had a Mother-in-law so I have no one to compare her too, but from what I have heard they can be nasty sometimes.

Terri

mom2my2cuties replied: Aww man -

Maybe she was just so disappointed that she wasn't going this weekend she was just pouting?

Didn't you tell us that she had some memory problems? It could be that she forgot all about it - and really had her heart set on it.

amymom replied: Thanks Guys!
Terri, if you ever want MIL practice let me know. Yes it is a long story and my MIL is really good, kind etc. BUT, I take care of her, we live with her, and it gets more frustrating as time goes by. I just want a break grrrrrrrrrr

Tish, Yes, I think she forgot that we told her, and it just saddens me, because I know there is more of this to come, I know this is minor now and it will probably get worse but I just don't want to face it KWIM.


Again, I am so glad I could come here and vent and not be mean to anyone IRL. Thanks.

booey2 replied:
Thanks but no thanks, I have an 82 year old FIL and I think he sounds like your MIL. He is also deaf but I think he maybe forgetting things. DH's grandma (FIL mom) had dementia before she passed away and DH is afraid his dad will become his grandmother so we are in for times like you are going thru.

You can always vent here.

Terri

mom2my2cuties replied: Amy I am very sorry - Both of my mother in laws are good for the most part. And the both live AT LEAST 10 hours away from me which makes me see thier good a lot more.

mckayleesmom replied: Sorry about that Ann, but it happens. Big hugs to you and your family. Have you taken her to the doctors yet?

BTW...what is Leaf watching?

C&K*s Mommie replied:

amymom replied:
Doesn't it sound exciting!!! We go and look at all the leaves that have changed color. TBH it is a very relaxing ride through the mountains, and when I didn't live here I would come up every year about mid-October and take her for a ride to see the fall foliage and I had planned to take her next week. We stop for lunch. Last year, my DD, MIL and I went. We have almost never ALL gone. And my 15 yr old son surely won't want to go, even if free lunch is involved. Especially since he won't be seeing his friends for **Gosh** two whole days

Well, I am off to work now, I better tell my boss I am going to go fall foliage looking on Monday instead of working hard for him.

amymom replied: Hey to look on the lighter side of things. If she forgets things, maybe she will forget our convo this morning and when I come home this afternoon and tell her we are going on Monday it will be all new to her! I can hope right????

CantWait replied: Sorry. I like looking at the fall colours changing, but the season has just begun. Even if she wants everyone to come, why not next weekend.

amymom replied: Well, Lee and I are both taking Monday off from work and than we will drive through the Aidirondack Mountains on Monday and look at the Fall Foliage. I am not forcing my son to go, but will invite him. Mary Beth will have to go since we are all going.

Grandma is happy again. Now she has something to look forward to.

redchief replied: Wow... I'm not sure I would have gone to such lengths to avoid disapointing my mom. Maybe I would, but I'm just not sure. Kudos to you Ann Marie. Have a great weekend too!