SOOOOOOOOO FED UP!!!!!!!!

kimberley wrote:

i just can't take this freakin garbage anymore!!!!!! for those who dont know, the boys' school called CAS on me last june implying someone at home may have hit Jacob but the truth is, Jacob got bumped AT SCHOOL but that was the only way the could CAS to come running. they were mad because the boys were often late and think my living situation is weird and unholy

well i had a worker come do monthly home visits starting in august. she came for 2 mos to start the assessment, then got sick so we got a new worker in oct/nov who started from scratch she was supposed to do her final assessment today and meet Patrick (boys' dad) for the first time. she came and said she has no real concerns but is NOT closing the case and booked again for february. she also said a nurse needs to come inspect Kaleigh . fine.. it's their job, i will have to suck up the embarrassment and inconvenience.

just before she leaves, she asks to see where Kaleigh sleeps, so i took her to my room. then she asks where dh sleeps.. umm DUH in his bed!! she then tells me that the nurses recommends that only one parent sleep with the child for safety sake or in a crib. i told her i am not comfortable NOT co sleeping at this point and i dont think kicking DH out of his own bed is gonna happen either. i told her i co slept with the rest and they are fine. dh is a very still sleeper. she continues on spewing her "recommendations" about it and i had enough. i don't give a rats arse what city hall is recommending to save their own arses... you WILL NOT come into MY home and tell me where i can and cannot sleep with MY CHILD!!!!!!!!

i have put up with their monthly BS visits, given consent for them to talk to every doctor, caregiver and relative i know, they have met with the school, interrogated my boy, had me take them to shrinks and every kind of doctor known to man and embarrassed my life but they WILL NOT tell me i have to kick my dh out of his own bed! what kind of freaking BS is that?! i am so tired of being harrassed by them and the school i feel like i am on the verge of going Postal on all of them or taking my family and moving to the woods!!!!!!!

Insanemomof3 replied: GRRRR I would be fed up too! I would tell her where she can stick that BS!

booey2 replied: Kimberley, that is just not fair. Hugs. We are having smaller issues right now with the public health telling us the boys immunization records we not up to date so Matthew was going to be suspended on Feb 10 if they were not updated. I did everything right, sent the form to the school, school says they sent it in but we still get this form yesterday. I made a couple calls and all I needed to do was give them the dates of their immunization, I also found out Thomas's needed updating too. What is going on with our local organizations, can't they just leave us alone.

luvmykids replied: I don't even know what to say. What about your parenting is so far out there? I'm so sorry you've had to put up with this, like you don't have anything ber to do? And they don't have anyone to "watch" who truly is harming their children?

C&K*s Mommie replied: oh Kimberly, that is more than horrible that your family has to deal with that. Pleasing to know that you are sticking it out, and sucking it up just to get it over with sooner.

But you are right, no one can come into your home and tell you what to do. Sure ideally it is her job to tell you, but to make demands (the way it sounded) would make anyone lose it.

Keep your DH in the bed, plenty of people around the world co-sleep with their youngins in other countries, and even in this one. (like us ) No one is knocking down there doors, commanding one parent to GET OUT.

Anyhow, best wishes sticking this garbage out for the next waste of time appointment, and 's for you!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: awww kim... i'm so sorry about all that. I hope everything gets better!!!!!

luvbug00 replied: WTH!!! I'm sooo sorry Kimberley What jerks! I don't know one person who had problems co-sleeping. we did it until Mya was 3.5 and still do occasionaly ( ok, a little more then occasionaly ) I remember when you mentioned the first coupple visits. would you be able to get a laywer and have them find out what you can do to make this stop? It's NOT healthy to be this stressed and upset. This is not good for your own health, your children ( since some of them still need you for their nutrition.) What kind of crap are thease people putting into your childrens heads? This me off beyond words. I hope you can get them away and soon!!

MyLuvBugs replied: Can you get a lawyer to fight it at all? I'm not sure what sort of rights or laws there are to protect you, but it really does sound like harassment b/c they don't approve of the way you parent. I'm so sorry.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: What a complete load of bunk. Sorry you are having these troubles. What really irks me is that they are spending time and resources "hunting" your family when kids are abused and neglected for real. Sorry, Kimberly.

ammommy replied: I'm sorry that you are going through this. These people are wasting time on your "case" while a real problemed family goes unchecked. I hope it ends soon for you.

coasterqueen replied: What a ....well I can't say what I think that person is. I would print out all the info you can on safe co-sleeping and shove it in their face!

kimberley replied: i contacted a couple of lawyers last june when this first happened. i *can* fight it but it makes me look bad.. like i have something to hide they suggested i just comply with the investigation and they will close it but how far am i supposed to bend here?!?! this should have been over months ago but because of summer, christmas, and the first working getting sick, it has been 5mos of headache!



omg i cannot tell you how much this makes my head spin. there are children truly in need and they are wasting time and resources on my family!!!! they even brought presents for the kids at christmas and i felt like a total heel!! we turned around and gave them to the chum/city christmas wish fund so they would go to a needy family. the boys' dad was horrified when he found out about the presents and drove them down himself.

3xsthefun replied: It really is a bunch of crap. I'm so sorry you are going through all of that. I really hope it ends soon for you!

A&A'smommy replied: OMG does she have a freakin clue HOW many children co-sleep with BOTH of their parents and are FINE today!!! Kimberely I'm SOO sorry I would say that if they don't close this case soon that I would find a lawyer who would help you.. they are taking things a bit too far especially seeing that your kids are fine and happy!!

jcc64 replied: Wow, Kimberly, that's a real invasion! I'm sorry you have to deal with that! I often wonder what someone like that would say if they came to my house. Corey has yet to spend one night in her own bed. She thinks my bed IS her bed! That's a personal decision, a cultural decision- in many parts of the world young children sleep with their parents far into childhood- it's only in wealthy western nations that kids are relegated to their own rooms. Who's to say which way is right? Throw that back at her next time.
If worse comes to worst, is it possible that you could just play her game? Tell her what she wants to hear and send her on her way. Nod your head, say yes, he'll sleep on the couch or the floor or the dog bed or wherever she thinks he should sleep. Shut the door behind her, and then do your thing as before. Is that an option? Some people just need to feel superior and have the last word. Let her have it, and then ignore her. It's the passive/aggressive creed. I live with someone who's perfected it to an artform.

DansMom replied: Unbelievable. Daniel coslept with both parents too---still does for the second half of the night. She's wrong, you're right! I agree with Jeanne about taking the "whatever lady" approach and getting her out of there. They can't enforce their recommendations on this, so you can ignore them.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Kimberley I can't believe you are still having to deal with this! I thought it was over a long time ago. I'm so sorry. I hope they close the case soon. I'm praying for your family.

kayla's mama replied: OMG, how invasive. Sorry you have to go through is Hopefully it won't last much longer.

CosmetologyMommy replied: Ok what is so weird about your living situation???????? No one in the world but you cosleeps, right???????? What losers! I would have been mad also

kimberley replied:
no that's not it. my ex (the boys dad) rents my basement apartment. it is a self contained unit with a separate entrance and we hardly see each other because he owns a bar and is always there. people think it is twisted because i am married with the girls' dad. what they dont get is that we are all working together to give each of our best to ALL the kids and if that means we put up with each other, so be it. the kids are, and always have been our priority. my marriage is happy. my ex has his own social life i dont care to dig into. the school has been trying to find fault with this arrangement since we started there because i am sure they have some image of satan worshipping, cult-like sex den in our home

i will try to do the "whatever" approach but i have to tell you, it is really hard to suck this one up because it is soooooo fundamentally wrong in every aspect!!

C&K*s Mommie replied: WTG... Best wishes to you & all of this aggravating mess the school has put you in.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I am so sorry Kimberley. How very frustrating. there is nothing wrong with your living arrangement or co-sleeping. I did with Kait for the first few mohtns since I was nursing, granted DH was to scared to sleep with her so we slept in another room but still if he want to he would have, nothing wrong with it.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sorry this is still dragging out like this
I agree they should be finding cases that need their help
and I know your not one of them
Hang in there hun

jem0622 replied: I have a gf who went through a similar experience and I am very sorry you are going through it too! There are kids beaten to death or near lifeless. Why not rescue them? She, just for the sake of compliance, did whatever she had to do to get them to move on and leave her be. It was pure hE*# for her family!

HUGS to you

BAC'sMom replied: WTH sounds like BS to me too.
Hang in there

CantWait replied: WTH, that is total BS. I'm so sorry Kimberley, but I'm glad that the boys father is being so supportive with this also. Best wishes and hope everything gets cleared up REALLY SOON

holley79 replied: Your a better person then me, I would have gone postal. to you sweetie that it will end soon. Why don't they go after the sleeze and leave the decent people alone.

fashionmumofboys replied: Sorry, you are going through this aggravation with the School.

Hoping they close your case real soon.

They should be after families with children that brutally beaten up, instead of wasting they time on silly things like this.