SAHM's I have a question?

MoonMama wrote: When you first became SAHM's did you find yourself bored and restless. I became a "professional" SAHM as DH puts it as of last friday. I worked from the time I was 15 on so its very different and hard for me to get used to for me. I know once Braedin is here I wont have any trouble filling my time. But right now I find I am bored out of my mind and restless as all get out. I'm up and weird hours now (I was used to getting 4-6 hours of sleep a night, so sleep and resting is hard for me), my house is now cleaner than ever before, all new baby items are clean and put away, I have gone through a Saduko book of 160 puzzles in 5 days, and I think DH is sick of seeing me come by his work and calling him so many times a day. I have way to much time on my hands. Any suggestions?

amymom replied: Suggestion: Come clean my house too, Pleazzzzzzzzze
Laundry and dinner too would be nice!!!

It is hard, but enjoy the silence and consider it a mini vacation before the baby gets here.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
This is what I suggest too

I stopped working the week before I was due, and Alex came 6 days late...so I was home with no baby for two weeks
I visited with my mom alot, because she had come home (Maine) from Florida to be here for the birth

Your time will soon be filled with baby baby baby!

MoonMama replied:
Um...Know one is here to take your request right now please leave a message....BEEEEEP!

kidding

I would if I could seriously, I am that bored and restless.

ediep replied: It does take some getting used to,and I get bored staying home all the time so I try o get out of the house every day. We go to the gym, playdates, park, Target, errands.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: When I quit my job to stay at home while I was still pg with my first, I was really bored and didn't know what to do with myself. That all changed after Andrew got here ~ I don't think I've had time to be bored. I do get sick of staying home all day every day sometimes, but being a sahm isn't whats making me stay home- it's lack of money.

I'm sure once your baby comes you will find you're not bored nearly half as much.

MoonMama replied: I'm glad I'm not alone here. I know I'll be to busy too even think of being bored once braedin is here. But for now I'm just so blah. It doesn't help that I don't have very many friends. I'm married about to have a baby and they are still into partying and living it up. But I have never felt a need for that kind of thing though and I'm happy with my life the way it is. Oh well. Sorry I'm so whiny.

Jamison'smama replied: I had to find projects to pass my time when I was pregnant. I worked up until I had Jamison but still felt stir crazy waiting. After Jamison there was a lot to do but in the beginning it took a lot of getting use to. I had a career for many years then it just stopped. I found it helpful to make a list of things I really wanted to do/learn and started working on it.

What about planting an herb garden, getting an early start on Christmas shopping (it'll be a lot harder with a baby), read the classics, learn to use photo editing software....wow, I need some free time to do some of these things

Hang in there!

C&K*s Mommie replied: I became a SAHomer when our oldest was 1yr old, so my time was filled with being with her most of the day, until our second came along.

Hang in there! Nope you are not alone.
What about mothers groups, or womens groups for SAHM's? While you may not have a baby in tow, I would doubt they would exclude you from joining their group. You could learn some things in prep for your baby to be.
Maybe you could take on a hobby in the meantime. I have a friend who is pg and has a 1.5yr old, and she creates nice gift baskets as a side hobby/business. She loves it!

Bamamom replied: Ok so I'm going to throw in an opinion that may not be so popular. Things may not improve as much as you think when you're little one gets here. There will be a honeymoon period - for me it was about 7 weeks and then you'll find yourself thinking, "Uh - what do I do now. He just lays there. He's cute and all but I'm a little bored." I felt like such a bad mom when these thoughts first started surfacing. And they didn't go away. Tripp is almost eight months old and there are still days - sometimes ALOT of days - when I think I would like to go back to work and have some good old fashioned adult conversation/stimulation. But I know that in my heart of hearts I really do want to be home with him and watch him grow. I recognize that we are extremely blessed to be in a finacial situation where I can stay home with him. But it still harder than I ever thought it would be.

Didn't mean to be a downer. I just wanted you to be prepared cause I wasn't. Of course I live in a small town - if we had a Gymboree or something it might be a little better.

Enjoy the rest before the little one gets here. Those first few weeks are exhausting.

luvmykids replied: It is definitely a big adjustment! I agree with Edie, some days I have to really force myself out of the house but it makes a big difference in the cabin fever department.

boyohboyohboy replied: HI! I have to say I went thru the same thing, I hated being a SAHM for about 3 months. Then when the baby came, I already had a four yr old, I started to see I couldnt get the house as clean as I wanted, and take care of two kids.
But once I got myself into a routine, it all started to fall into place. I also found this place, and it helped to talk to others about what I was feeling. I also started to do some reading, and find some hobbies.
I also didnt have a car for a yr, so I was not able to leave the house.
So now that I do, I do go out to the park or places where I dont have to spend money.
ONce the baby comes you will enjoy the time you get alone to just sleep..
pm me if you have more questions.
good luck

holley79 replied: Enjoy your time. I was only out of work 1 week before Annika was born and I wish I had taken off sooner.

BabyOwen427 replied:
Okay, where do you live? You sound just like me. All my former friends are still in the party, college mode
And I am sitting here at home, with going

I have been going to different neighbor's looking for another SAHM. I am sure the people in my neighborhood think I am the crazy lady with a baby.

mom2my2cuties replied: I am generally bored, and with only 1 car, it makes it hard to really get out much. My husband is great about staying home late so we can, but i hate to ask that of him.

We have been trying to find more things to do at home or within walking distance of home (i.e - THE GYM so I can get this extra 100lbs *gasp* off. )

MoonMama replied:
You sound just like me! I'm in Colorado.

Nicole, I love you ideas and I was in a mom's group for a while but I felt like the odd man out always. Most had been there for a long time (having just had a 2nd, 3rd or 4th baby) or were way older and looked down on me (I wasn't good enough for there little group), or joined with a friend, or my favorite well not really but the one that ticked me off the most.."you husband is how old and your how old" *insert shocked face here*. He's 33 and I'm 22 "yep thats right lady 11 years older!" Her DH by the was was in his 40s and she was 30.

Thanks everyone for the support and help, it makes me feel so much better to know I am not alone in this. And that I have found a place to connect with other parents where I am not pushed outside of the circle so to speak. I am absolutely loving it here so much!

my2monkeyboys replied: Yep, that sounds about right. Esp. since you're home without your baby yet. I took off starting on a Monday, and that night (actually 5am) I went into labor, so I didn't get much time off without him. It is a little boring sometimes, though I think it's being in the house all day that does it, not the NOT being at work, KWIM? On days when you're feeling espcially bored or depressed, make yourself go for a walk. With the weather cooling off soon that will help you to get outside more too. Just plunk him in the stroller or back-pack-thing and set off for a while. Just that will help alot.
Even though Will is almost 4 now there are still days when we just have to leave... go to the local park, walk around the neighborhood, the grocery store, whatever. Being in the house all day will drive you crazy!
For now, I suggest what was said earlier... Christmas shopping would be great if you have the money for it now, learning to do something you don't know, reading, etc. Once the baby is here it will take a while for you to get any free time to do these things. (I still have trouble making time for myself, though I think it's more my own fault now.) Also, drive around your neighborhood during the day and see who you can see that is a SAHM too. I know, a little "stalker" sounding, but hopefully you'll find someone you can hang with and talk to.
Anyway, hope this helps!

MoonMama replied: Thank you for the help and advice. I am very thankful to have found PC. You all are the best thank you so much.