Rude Behavior

momofone wrote: I accidentily knocked over my daughters toy and she said what did you do that for? So I took away the toy. Anybody's elses kids talk rudely? She seems to do it everyday and it doesn't stop even after punishments. I'm at a loss. Help!

My2Beauties replied: How old is she?

momofone replied: 7 1/2 going on 15

My2Beauties replied: Oh I thought maybe she was a toddler in which I'd say that's perfectly normal and just ignore it and they'll eventually stop. At that age I'd start taking priveleges away or possibly a favorite toy away for a while until she apologizes. I'm not sure what to do at that age, I guess it depends on their maturity level. Sorry I can't help more.

momofone replied: Thanks

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied:
Mine is 8 and does it all the time too. I called her name last night and she yelled "What" all snotty like. I told her that was sassing and not to do it again. She said ok, and then asked "what" nicely. I said please come here, and her response with a major dose of attitude was, "in a minute". I walked out to the livingroom and spanked her butt. Although, that doesn't work as much anymore. Most of the time I use timeouts, that seems to get her worse than a spanking.

momofone replied: I have to do something stronger than what I am doing now which is taking her toys away cuz it is not working. I get the attitude too. When I was a kid once I was disiplined I changed . She doesn't seem to be changing.

holley79 replied: Oh goody, look what I get to look forward to. Gosh got it from Brandon now I'm going to get it from Annika.

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied:
Something that worked for a while was I put liquid soap on her tongue. It was just for a couple of seconds and then she rinsed it off, but the attitude stoped for a while. I know it sounds cruel, but when you have tried everything else sometimes you have to go to desperate messures.

Something I did have to do was explain to her in words she understood what sassing and back talking was, and that sometimes even the tone of your voice is what makes stuff sound nasty too.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: my mom used to do that to me.

What ened up working the best of all is that someone pointed out that the way I was talking back to her was the type of attitude she'd always use with me.

She stopped, so I stopped. Kids are very perceptive and often mimick their parents. Not saying you guys talk like that to your kids, just saying that was my circumstance.

momofone replied: Thanks for the tips.

momofone replied: she also has mini-meltdowns when she doesn't get what she wants. Is that still normal at this age?

Maddie&EthansMom replied: My dd is 7 1/2 also and yes, this is very normal for the age. Not that it still isn't disrespectful and shouldn't be corrected, but it is so normal. It's always a matter of correcting behavior, no matter how old they are. It never never ends does it?

The mini meltdowns are normal as well.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Have you explained to her HOW to talk to you? This always helps with my children. If they answer me in a rude or disrespectful tone I'll tell them so and have them try again. Or I'll reply to their "What?" with a "Yes ma'am" (correcting them) and they'll say "Sorry. Yes ma'am." Or if they say something in a snotty tone I'll say "A better way to say that would be ________." Sometimes they dont' realize that the tone they are using is not right and they need correcting and some guidance on how to say it the right way.

momofone replied: I'll have to try that thanks.

My2Beauties replied:
I agree. And I also agree with Rocky. I noticed when Hanna does that I have to sit back and think about the attitude or tone of voice I've had that day and normally it's not a nice one, I've been snippy or irritated because I'm trying to clean/cook whatever and when she asks for something I'll say wait a minute or hold on...like oh good grief why'd ya have to ask that now sort of tone and then later when I ask something of her she'll say "Whaaaaaaaaaat" or No or something of that effect So with kids, it's definitely, monkey see monkey do!!

ZandersMama replied:
I did that to Zander and I never will again. I was having a hard time with him biting at the time. So, the next morning I am making breakfast and go to check on him and he is sitting on the bathroom floor eating shampoo Zander - 1, Momma - 0

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied:
I do that too. I have told Meg that something she said sounded very mean and snotty and she then tells me that all she said was "this". I then explain to her yes you only said :this", but when you say it "like this" it sounds very bad and she agrees with me. I do think a lot of it is she doesn't realize the tone in her voice is was makes it bad. I remember doing it to my mom too. She hated it.

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied:
Meg is a drama queen. She by no means would do it on her own just from the reaction when I did it to her.

lisar replied: Lexi is only 6 and she does it already. its the talking back that drives me insane the most I think. She just gets into trouble for it.