Restaurant Rae was open last night - DH's boss came over with wife

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: Okay, this is going to be long...Well I think I've just discovered my BIGGEST pet peeve in the world...bare with me here...PLEASE don't take offense. Well as you all know, we had DH's boss and wife over for dinner last night for the first time. As you recall, the boss asked DH several weeks ago at work what I was making and actually chose what he wanted when DH gave him a few options. Rude, IMO. I had the opp to meet the boss and his lovely (sarcasm) wife at the company BBQ on Friday before we had them over. They were sweet and asked if they could bring anything. I asked them if they were allergic to anything or if they didn't like a specific food...just trying to make them feel comfortable to tell me upfront...wouldn't hurt my feelings. Well they said "oh no, anything is fine". So anyhow, here's Saturday night...I put a few apps on the table...simple food, salami and cheese, some olives, crackers. Pretty basic IMO. Well the boss asks me what kind of cheese...I'm thinking "who cares, just try it". Asiago okay...just like a basic parmigian...is it that darn scary looking, it's just white cheese! I also had a few artichoke hearts just to spice it up a bit...you know, a small antipasto platter to go with my Italian themed dinner. Boss doesn't touch the artichokes..no big deal. Well the wife absolutely doesn't touch a thing...not even cheese and crackers. Now please! Anyways, so the boss mentions that his fav restaurant in San Francisco is an Italian place...I say "Oh good, I'm making Italian tonight, so you must like Italian"...Wife replies in sortof a neg tone "Well he likes it". Okay. IMO she could have kept that one to herself...but oh well. So for dinner again I make it really simple...iceburg lettuce wedge with chopped tomatos and a little blue cheese. Iceburg to me is about as basic as it comes and I know not everyone likes blue cheese...but they were okay with the blue cheese...but wife picked around the salad sorta spreading the lettuce in one flat smoosh...didn't eat one tomato. The rest of dinner is again simple to me...chicken pieces with tomatos, mushrooms, basil, and white wine served over...now how American is THIS?...mashed potatoes!!! Well the boss says "this is great", but again, wife smushes it all around, taking maybe two bites of chicken. Whatever, you can't please them all and I don't even know why the heck I try...but this has got to be my biggest pet peeve ever because I literally feel worked up over it (which I know is stupid)...PEOPLE WHO ARE AFRAID TO TRY NEW THINGS!! It just is, I'm sorry!

Okay I don't want to sound like a super controlling psycho, or sound like I'm critisizing other's taste buds, but please, oh please...it just urks me when people turn their noses up to just about everything. It's one thing to be allergic or a vegetarian or it's against your religion...but to just not try something because it looks "different"??? It just doesn't make sense to me! I would rather someone say straight out to me that "hey, Rae I don't really care for mushrooms, but dinner is great" or "OMG, I usually don't like blue cheese, but this is actually really good, I'm glad I tried it". But nope, wifey just turned her nose up and pushed her food around...literally...never said thank you until her husband said it. I could go on and on about how I didn't care for this woman...but you all are going to think I'm the biggest BEOTCH in the world!

Okay I have to say a couple things because it's funny...and well, I guess I'm a BEOTCH! GOD HELP ME! I consider myself a fairly social person or at least I can hold my own in a conversation. Put me anywhere and I can fit in, or at least TRY to fit in. I'm not saying try to be fake...but try to have fun!! Well the wife was literally as dull as they come. She's sweet...and I wouldn't necessarily say shy, but don't you hate it when you ask someone a few questions to break the ice or just to get conversation going and they literally never take the lead? They just answer your question and it stops there. They never ask anything about you or they never expand on what you asked them...just a simple yes or no and that's about it! Strange to me. She literally picked up my Pottery Barn catelog and started flipping through it!! Perhaps it's me who bores her??!!! But again, just try and act like you're enjoying yourself at least for your husband's sake.

Anyway, I just really had to get this off my chest. I'm shocked if you read it this far! I realize that this is my DH's boss...and I did my duty by having them over...but they don't have to be my best friends right? I can just imagine that they didn't like me either and were complaining about the "strange" dinner on the car ride home! LOL! Again, I hope I didn't offend anyone. I just grew up trying all sorts of funky foods I guess.

A&A'smommy replied: Well to me that sounded WONDERFUL. And kudos to you for trying... she does sounds like a bit of snob the part of her picking up the magazine and reading through it made me think that... but who knows maybe she is on a weird diet or something... anyway sorry you didn't have a good time!!!

amymom replied: Wow Rae I am sorry you went through that. I can't imagine doing any of what she did. Oh can we come for dinner? I promise to try everything? Your food sounds wonderful!! I am not very good at socializing and wish I did more of it. I do big family dinners but one on one are uncomfortable for me. Can I come and practice?

3'smom replied: The food sounds great to me. Sounds like you went all out. I'd eat it all!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
You are welcome over any time!! I realize I have a huge issue about wanting to please everyone and I become overaly critical of others if they don't seem "amused" by my attempts. So it's really more MY issue than hers. But YES, I say she's a total 'you know what' just because..haha..and I admit, I'm a total food snob! Don't hate me...

kit_kats_mom replied: maybe she has an eating disorder? Wierd

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied: Sounds good to me i got hungry just reading your post. You can't please everyone at least you tried if they came to my house they would have got burgers and hotdogs off the grill

paradisemommy replied: thats just downright rude and i don't think it's just you..i'm not a big social person but put me in an environment like that and you would never know how uncomfy i am....

your food sounds wonderful and i guess i'm like you cause i'll eat everything off of my plate - even if i don't like it and tell the person it was awesome...but thats just how i was raised!! LOL

kel replied: oh yum!! im got all hungry just reading your "menu"
sounds like the bosses wife isnt a fan of good food..
id let it go....you did good:)

Jamison'smama replied: From another side--I am the world's PICKIEST eater. I actually don't like being asked over for dinner because I am so ridiculously picky. I always hope for a cookout where everything is pretty simple and plain. However, we have been to plenty of dinners where I absolutely did not like what was served but ATE IT ANYWAY. I may leave the olives on the plate and eat the rest or eat everything but the blue cheese and I certainly could handle the crackers for goodness sake. I understand a person being picky but not rude. It sounds like you went to a lot of work and that in itself is worth a lot. On the other hand, my DH would have LOVED what you served and would have eaten enough for the both of us!

Insanemomof3 replied: SHEESH! If it were me, I would have tried it. I am allergic (bad) to mushrooms, so I would not be able to eat the main course, but I would have at least said something nice about it. God, I had people who are like that.

Sounded like you did a wonderful job though. Just don't invite them over again.

ions_momma replied: It sounds to me like you made a great meal! She sounds kind of like a snob and also pretty rude if you ask me!

luvbug00 replied: The menu sounds wonderful and boss sounded nice!! But to pick up a magizine at someones house while they are trying to entertain you. UNBELIVABLE!!! That is rude and I would have Not taken that as gracefuly as you did at all. Be proud that you were a polite, entertaining and graceful to her and her husband. Hats off to you!!

MM'sMama replied: Oh honey I am so sorry you had such a yuckie night. That menu sounds so wonderful (I'll be there in 10 minute lol). I agree I hate when poeple are like that when your trying your best to be a wonderful and polite host. You did a wonderful job be proud of yourself

Josie83 replied: That is so RUDE!! xx

JAYMESMOM replied: She was just flat out rude. I have been in situations and been bored out of my mind and pretended to enjoy myself. The food sounds awesome.

mammag replied: She sounds like my sil. She doesn't seem to know how to act in a small social environment. I think she does okay when it is a big group because she can fade into the background but when it's just a few....forget it. I made Buckeyes (peanut butter and chocolate candies) and she said they were too peanut buttery. She will complain about food if she doesn't like it (just rude imo when you are visiting someone) and she even does the reading thing. She actually fell asleep on the couch when she was at my other sisters house. I guess we aren't exciting enough for her.

For me, it doesn't matter if I don't like it.....I'll eat it and pretend it's good (yeah, I'm a people pleaser), I'll sit and try to think of something to ask (even if I don't like you or have anything in common with you), and I would never let you know if I am completely bored out of my mind. I guess it's because I'm sensitive myself so I'd never want to hurt someone's feelings who went out of their way to make a nice dinner for me.

gr33n3y3z replied: It sounds like you cooked a meal for a king.

If there is a next time fix her PB&J lol

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Now we know why he asked, huh? His WIFE wanted to know!

That was incredibly RUDE of her!! I've experienced my fair share of people like that. Scotty's cousin's wife is the only person we've had over that doesn't gobble everything on the plate and ask for seconds. She pushes everything around, too. We dont' like people who don't eat!

Rae...can I come over to your house for dinner???? I bet you are a fantastic cook! The blue cheese wedge is my very favorite! And that dish sounds fantastic.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
YAH, that's totally it...she was probably nagging him to ask...he's actually really sweet! I'm glad DH has a good boss...but the wife isn't coming over again. They just moved here, so I invited her to join my Girl's Night Out group...she totally hesitated like she really didn't want to...whatever! They mentioned having us over next time...we'll see what we get!! I imagine pasta from a can or something...LOL!

ammommy replied: Sounds like wifey-poo didn't really want to be there. Hopefully you have done your pennance for the year and won't have to have them over again.

Jamielou replied: Sounds like you did a good job to me i love chicken anything even if i didnt like it i have enough respect to not be rude about it ya know... she sounds real snooty...sounds like you really love to cook

mckayleesmom replied: Ok...I have to be honest...If I don't like it, I won't usually eat it. But I will pretend to....maybe shove it in a napkin when they are not looking or mix things around to make it look like I ate it.....Im really good at it too....I HATE mushrooms and until last year..my mom thought I loved her spagetti ( I would always throw it away when she wasn't looking or put it back). This is how that conversation went at our house

Me....."I hate anything with mushrooms in it"

My mom......."I have been sneaking mushrooms in my spagetti sauce for years and you never noticed"

My sister...".Yes she has....she has always thrown it away when you arn't looking"

BTW...can I borrow your Pottery Barn Catelog?

jcc64 replied: I'm thinking maybe she has an eating disorder.
I don't have a lot of patience for picky eaters either. I hate to cook in the first place- and I'm fine if you don't like my food- but what I can't stand is when kids come over for a playdate (which is virtually everyday in the summer b/c we have a pool), and won't eat ANYTHING I offer them. Actually, I don't care if they don't eat, but what they expect is for me to present a long list of menu items until I arrive at something that meets their approval. After I've ticked off 3 or 4 things and still haven't pleased them, my attitude is, "Why don't you wait until you go home to eat?" I don't run a short order kitchen for my family- I have them trained to accept what's offered, fix something themselves, or be hungry. I'm very impatient that way- so I feel your pain. Very bad manners on the part of your guests.

JessC replied: OMG the nerve of that lady!

She should have at least tried, you spent the time to make a wonderful and delicious meal, she should act like shes grateful. KWIM!

Your menu sounds WONDERFUL and Im sure it was yummy! Feel free sharing recipes!

moped replied: That sound slike people that I would just say things to get their goat!!!! LOL....but that is just me!

Who cares, you have Wil - the cutest little baby!!!!!

kidsarecrazy replied: Wow...I was wondering how it would go...

The thing you have to remember is that it's her problem/his problem and not yours...Plus that means you're probably off the entertaining hook for another year or so! Maybe your hubby will have a new boss by then! (fingers crossed)!!

amynicole21 replied: I bet she hates going places to eat because she's picky, and she was probably having a little temper tantrum about it Trying to punish her DH for taking her somewhere. Sounds like a little brat to me.

Like Brenda, I'm the world's pickiest eater. I still would have tried to eat some of it, though... just not the artichokes, mushrooms, tomatoes, olives... lol - guess that doesn't leave much! The mashed potatoes & chicken sound yummy though!

dolfinrse replied: I have to say that I am a picky eater, but what you made sounds really good!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
You're SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO right girl...Who cares??!!!! Sorry to be so overly dramatic. So when are you all coming over??

coasterqueen replied:
I was going to say the same thing. Coming from someone who has severe food phobias I can relate. I'm a nervous wreck when going over to someone's house for dinner or even attending the montly luncheons I have to attend for work. I'm always in constant FEAR of what they are going to feed me. If it's not something I've eaten before I freak out and don't eat it. If I was to try it I'd throw it up instantly, I know, I've done it before. It's totally mental for me and I've been to several specialists to help me out. Believe me it's not easy to deal with. I try to put on a good face and say "oh, sorry I ate a huge lunch, or I'm dieting" but I know they know something is wrong. I finally had to start saying what my issues were. Most people look at me with weird looks and it makes the rest of the evening very uncomfortable. So I stay away from lots of events/dinners because of this issue.

My DH has helped me to try a few new things that I've either liked or didn't like and threw up...in the 13 years we've been together but I don't have much during that time to add to my list.

coasterqueen replied:
I do this to my Dh sometimes too.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Karen, I'm sorry about your ED. I've been there too, so I should know better. If you want to talk about it, please PM me, or we can start another thread under WH. I think it's a very important topic and it seems that more than just you and I have gone through it. I'm actually meeting this women out for drinks and dinner this Friday...so we'll see how that goes. You know I don't hold grudges! I was probably just being overly judgemental of her just as much as she was of my cooking.

coasterqueen replied: Aww thanks. I wasn't there in your situation so IMO she might have just been a snob, ya know. It's so hard to tell.

Thank you though.