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Repeat - Who do you want in the delivery room?


MyBabeMaddie wrote: I know there was this same topic posted about amonth or 2 ago but I didn't pay attention because it didn't seem real to me. Anyways, is it weird that I'm thinking about asking my mom to be in the delivery room with me and my boyfriend? He FLIPPED out when I suggested that I might want her to be there. He said "she wasnt' there when we created our baby so she doesn't need to be there to see her born!" He's SO simple minded he also said "i dont want to remember our daughters birth and your mom being there." I told him that I think he'll be so overwhelmed with the birth he won't notice my mom's presense. So who does everyone want/have/had in the delivery room?

1lilpeanut2love replied: I had my SO, my aunt, and my cousin in the room with me. I really wanted them to be in there since my MOM was not able to be with me[she is in heaven]. Once I got in the room I didn't give a s*** about who saw me or what they saw!! KWIM! They were there for me even when I was throwing up from eating breakfast before I went to the hospital. It made me feel good that others were able to share in my joy!! The only thing that annoyed me a little is they were talking to much. I just wanted to concentrate on the labor and not the voice of others. LOL

HTH! I only wish my mom had been alive to see me deliver my baby!! sad.gif

MyBabeMaddie replied: I'm really sorry to hear about your mom, I can't imagine how hard it would be to lose a mom, especially at your young age. I feel stupid for asking but what is a SO?

luvmykids replied: With the twins I had my mom and DH, I wasn't going to have her there b/c DH didn't really want her but I couldn't say no and ended up being so glad she was there. It was not only such a huge moment for her and I to share but she was actually more calming than DH, it was one of those "I want my mommy!" moments!

With Macie it was just DH and it was kind of nice just being the 2 of us, but I wouldn't have minded at all if she'd been there for that one too. In fact, I was on the phone with her through a lot of it LOL!

If you want your mom there I say do it, SO is an important part of the decision but I feel if it's you in labor and you in need of support that she could give you, it's your call. hug.gif

A&A'smommy replied: well I wanted just jeremiah (my dh) in there with my but my MIL would have been in there if I hadn't had an emergency c-section where i was knocked out.. my mom couldn't be in there she couldn't stand to see me in pain. BUT anyway SO mean someone we have the abbreviations at the top if you ever have questions about them its right above "my controls"

1lilpeanut2love replied: Sarah-- SO means Significant Other. Like a boyfriend! Don't feel stupid for asking!! wink.gif

Yeah I lost my mom when I was only 8. It's been hard, but I have managed!

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MyLuvBugs replied: Well, the first time I just wanted it to be Dh and I. I've NEVER wanted my mom or dad in the room b/c they just make me tense. The mere thought of it rolleyes.gif

But this time, I was hoping that my SIL and new BIL would like ot be in the room, but they aren't into it. My SIL's exact words "I still want to believe that baby's come from storks." laugh.gif Oh well. THeir loss. I think it's a GREAT idea to have your mom there if you feel like you want her there. hug.gif

AlexsPajamaMama replied: DH, my mom and my favorite cousin were in the room when I had Alex smile.gif

ediep replied: I had my mom and Dh in the room when I delivered Jason. I think I'd want it that way again...or maybe my sister

Momof3inMe replied:
I remember that day very well!!! I had the job of putting the blanket down when he was born!!!!! hug.gif hug.gif

Momof3inMe replied: When I had the boys it was my mom and 2 of my aunts.

With Em I had just DH b/c I had a c section.

3xsthefun replied: I only had DH with me both times. I really didn't want anyone else in there with me.

ZandersMama replied: I had mom and DH and as much as I love him he was useless, I could not have done it without my mom. As for DH opinion, YOU are the one pushing out the child, I would tell him that when he pushes one out he can decide who is there to see it. tongue.gif

ashtonsmama replied: With Ashton I had Ryan (my DH), my mom, and my older sister Allison (and my MIL in there for only part of the time, not when I was pushing, but more in the early labor stage)...

I liked having all of them there.

And this time, I'm not sure yet, haven't really discussed that with Ryan or thought about it myself much so far.
dito.gif to what ZandersMama said...it's YOUR delivery, you can decide (IMHO).

PrairieMom replied: With the boy it was just Me and DH, and I wouldn't have changed it for the world. It was a wondeful expereiance. This time I am hoping for a repeat! my sister really wants to be there, but I told her that it was something that was intimate between DH and I.
Her reply? " We can be intimate!"
um.... no, we can't. huh.gif rolling_smile.gif rolling_smile.gif rolling_smile.gif
She will probably be waiting out side in the hall way tho! laugh.gif

holley79 replied: I had my mom and my husband in the delivery room when I had Annika. I'm sorry but a girl wants her mommy at a time like that. I'm glad that I did. DH was a little weird about it at first but he figured if something happened at least my mom would be there with him.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I had both my mom and DH in the room when I had Wil, but I will only have DH with me this time. I really enjoyed the support from my mom. Although I'm an adult and a mom myself, it still felt nice having my mom nurture me while I was going through such a tremendous experience, one that is both painful and emotional. Plus, it's nice having someone to hold the camera!!! laugh.gif

My3LilMonkeys replied: With Brooke I have DH, MIL and my mom.

With Madison I had DH and MIL. I discovered from the experience with Brooke that I didn't want my mom around - she was just too critical of everything I chose and very counterproductive. Having MIL there didn't bother me at all - she was very supportive, and it meant a lot to her that I let her be there.

ilovemybaby replied: Just my DH and Abby if I go into labour during the week when my parents and sister are working because they are the only people who can babysit her.

My mother probably wouldn't want to be in the delivery room and I don't want her there. It's bad enough having nurses and the midwife looking "down there". blush.gif We've never been that close either.

Chiflata2003 replied: Well if I decide on a repeat c-section then it will only be dh. If I decide on having a vbac then my mom will be there as well as dh. None of my inlaws are allowed to be there, not even come to the hospital after the baby is born. They brought the whole family to see me after I had my c-section for dd, and I was so angry because I wasnt feeling good and I had to sit there and talk with everyone. It sucked.

lisar replied: I had c-sections with both so only one person was allowed in with me. On the first one I had my aunt go in with me because she is an RN. And on the second I had my DH go in with me. I wasnt married with the first and the Sperm donor is no where to be found.

*~MakalaJocelann~* replied: I definatly want my dh to be in the delivery room with me, but thats it because I would feel uncomfortable with anyone else in there.

ilovemybaby replied:
That is so rude. That's kind of what happened to me. I had unexpected visitors who did not phone or ask first. I was soooo tired and I had a natural birth. But it was the same day I delivered. And I delivered at 4.34am. I had visitors from about 10am onwards. I never got a chance to sleep. mad.gif
This time I'm going to be saying "no visitors" until I'm ready. Only Paul and Abby. Everyone else can wait until I've got breastfeeding out of the way and had a good sleep and food/drink! tongue.gif

ithinkiminlabor replied: Sounds silly, but I'm such a private person, I almost don't want anyone in there at all. But I know I'll benefit from my husband's presence and encouragment, so he'll be there for sure, although he is not allowed to watch! At first that really upset him, but then he came to me and told me he didn't want to make the experience anymore uncomfortable then it already had to be, so he would respect my wishes.

If the rest of my family didn't live on the other side of the country, then I would let my mom and sister in the room too... but they can't watch either!! haha. happy.gif

KingMom replied: Just my DH during the long day of labor, then in the c-section, it was just him also.

TheOaf66 replied: well call me old fashioned but my wife and I agreed that it was only going to be the 2 of us in there, I think it is something that should be shared between the parents but I do not oppose of other people doing it a different way.


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