Relatives in the Delivery room

MyLuvBugs wrote: Have any of your had relatives in the delivery room with you? Was it a good experience or bad?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I just had my mom...and then MIL came in while they were cleaning Wil up. So of course MIL saw me spread eagle being sewn up, but I didn't care at that point. I don't want her in there this time though because I made the most stupid mistake of handing Wil to my MIL before my own mom. I wasn't thinking and I can tell it hurt her. I may have my mom again if she comes out on time. She stood behind me while I pushed. I liked having her there.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I have DH, my mom and MIL the first time. I hated my mom being there - she was complaining that I shouldn't have gotten an epidural and trying to tell me to breath a completely different way than the Dr. suggested. Then when the nurse said I should try not to scream and save my energy for pushing my mom told me not to listen to her and that I should scream if I felt like it - I was about ready to throw my mom out of the room!

When Madison was born it was just DH and MIL and it was a wonderful experience.

luvmykids replied: My mom was there for the twins, and I loved it. I wasn't sure I wanted her there but didn't want to hurt her feelings, and I'm so glad she was. Not only because she was praying and rubbing my head, but also it means so much to her that she got to see it. But with Macie it was just me and DH, and no epidural, and let me tell you I wanted my mommy!

Brias3 replied: Just my husband for all of my kids (in fact, we didn't even have any relatives in the same country at the time). Not sure if I would have had anyone else in a different situation. Maybe my mom- that's about it though I think. I would have probably liked for her to share the experience if she wanted to but as it stood, I could have even kicked my husband out at many points! When I'm in pain, I like to be ALONE and untouched

Edward's Mommy replied: I had 3 people in the delivery room with me. My DH, my mom and my grandmother (on Dad's side-she's my best friend). It was a great experience. My mom is usually mean and unsupportive, but this was a great day for us. The 3rd time the epidural wore off on me, I kicked Chris (DH) out of the delivery room (I told him "Chris, I'm sorry! You need to leave. I can't stand the sight of you!") and he was breathing partner and my mom immediately stepped up the part and she helped me through the hardest pain of labor. Once I got the 4 epidural, I was looking around for Chris (forgetting that I kicked him out). It ended up in C-Section. But my mom and my Mema (I call my grandma Mema) and Chris we're the best support team I had that day and I couldn't have had a better support team on my side...especially that day.

NEWMOM05 replied: I had my mom,mil, sis and even my dad was there(not my choice, but he was sitting across the room.) and of course my Dh. I was really glad that my Dad was there during labor, because he was really supportive and sweet. I pushed for an hour then had to do an Emerg. C-section so only Dh was there. Wouldn't have Dad in actual delivery room if I was to do it again. labor fine, but pushing. No...

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: with Katy I had Dh, my mom, and MIL the whole time. We called them while walking across the parking lot to the hospital. With Matt it was going to be my mom and my sister but we invited MIL too, they were all in the room while I was laboring (w/ no epi so i wanted to kill them all) when it came down to pushing my sister had gone out to get something and they wouldn't let her back in because there were too many people. I think she is still bitter about that...I would be. THis time I have no idea who will be there. Hopefully my mom stays in town so she can keep the kids if not I am SOL and they might end up with me.

W/ Katy I was well medicated so the whole thing was great, w/ Matt I'm glad they were there but they still all annoyed me. My mom brought dh food and I was starving, dh and MIL were cracking jokes and it hurt soooooooo bad to laugh, and my sister kept telling me I needd to hurry so she could see "her baby"

5littleladies replied: With Madeline and Megan I had Dh and my mom (not my choice-she came in without my say-so). With Brianna and Alyssa I made sure my mom had the other kids so she couldn't come. It was much better for me that way. I actually don't mind people coming in to visit me during labor, but for delivery I prefer that it just be me and Dh.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Not while pushing, but my whole family came in and out during the labor part. I kind of wish I'd had my mom with me while I was pushing but at the time I just wanted it to be me and Dh. When the time comes again though, I might want it to be just Dh with me again.

Chiflata2003 replied: My mom was there all through my labor. She stayed out of the way if needed be, and didnt say anything about pain control. She had to stay out of the OR when they did my c-section but was there when they put me in recovery. I loved that.

Dh's parents/family was visiting relatives in Mexico at the time, knowing that was when I was due, so they missed everything. Ended up coming home the day I had dd and came the next day to visit but brought the whole family I mean grandparents and some cousins too. I wasnt happy about that, so next time they arent going to come.

booey2 replied: With Matthew it was just me and DH and the nurses and doctor. With Thomas I asked my sister if she wanted to be in the room with us and she jumped at the chance. She even drove an hour to get here at 8 night and drove home at 1:30 am the next day. I figure she isn't the godmother to Thomas so I wanted her to have a special bond with him too, she is Matthew's godmother. She also arrived just before I got my epi and after I got it she commented on how different I was behaving, I guess I was a lot nice once the drugs kicked in. She never had an epi and has 4 kids, the biggest being 10 pounds 13 ounces, ouch.

Edited to add: It was great having just Dh there for the first one but even better with my sister for ds#2, I didn't feel like I had to make small talk with DH because my sister was there to fill the gap and it was nice to have my own family help hold my legs while I pushed on not just dh and a nurse.

kayla's mama replied: I has a revolving door during labor, even nurses from the recovery floor where coming down to see me, guess I was there to long But when it came time for the action....it was just me and DH.....and Jimmy Buffet I had Kayla to the Lets get drunk and (I can't finish the title )song.

MyBlueEyedBabies replied:
That is the greatest thing I ever heard. ******time warp****** dh made me a tape when I went to Germany for an exchange program and that was the "theme song" it was the first song on it and it was playing in the background whenever he was taling to me. I love it.

MyLuvBugs replied: You all have had such good experiences and things to share. I love it! We're going to ask my SIL and new BIL to be in in the room this time around. Not sure what they'll say. My Husbands side of the family is a bit odd when it comes to this kinda stuff.

I think if I had my parents or my inlaws in the room I would be WAY too uncomfortable. Actually, I know for a fact that my mother would drive me batty. I really hope that my SIL and BIL will be there. I really wish that I had gotten to see a live birth before I had Lorelei, so maybe it will be a good experience for them. We'll see.

Thank you all for your stories.

ilovemybaby replied: No way. The only one in the delivery room was Paul. And of course, the midwife. And the nurse at the beginning but she left as soon as she gave me the gas mask.

My mum is squeamish so she probably wouldn't even want to be in there LOL I would not want my MIL there. Or my sister or SIL.

It's bad enough having the midwife and nurses see down there

ZandersMama replied: I had DH, mom and my grandmother and i wouldnt have changed a thing. mom was perfect, she was right there with me i couldnt have done it naturally without her

1lilpeanut2love replied: I had my SO, my aunt, and my cousin in the room with me. I really wanted them to be in there since my MOM was not able to be with me[she is in heaven]. Once I got in the room I didn't give a s*** about who saw me or what they saw!! KWIM! They were there for me even when I was throwing up from eating breakfast before I went to the hospital. It made me feel good that others were able to share in my joy!! The only thing that annoyed me a little is they were talking to much. I just wanted to concentrate on the labor and not the voice of others. LOL

MyLuvBugs replied:
I know exactly what you mean!! I'm usually completely against male doctors down in that area, but I tell ya....after a while.....I really didn't care, I just wanted the kid out and someone to catch.

I guess I just worry that I will offend my SIL or BIL by asking them to be there for he whole thing. KWIM? They're pretty private, and even though it won't bother me to have them be in the room seeing stuff, it' might bother them. Make sense?

3_call_me_mama replied: It was Dh adn MILand my mom in with me for both kids. My dada and FIL came in as soon as they were out though.. with Cameron I was still being sewn up from a small tear butI didnt' care. Im not a modest person anyway! LOL Oh adn My mom sent pics out to all family and friends of Cameron at birth, and she got a really um nice shot of teh Dr while he was sewing me up. Basically i'm spread out and the back of his head is all that is blocking the world from seeing everything. She didnt/ even think when she sent it.. not good!

PrairieMom replied: When I had the Boy it was just me and DH in the delivery room. My sister REALLY wanted to be there, and was hurt that I wasn't going to let her. (she ended up being out of town anyway) I told her that it was something that was intimate between me and my Hubby. to which she replied, " we can be intimate!" um... actually, no we can't! This time it will be just DH and I again.

ashtonsmama replied: I had my mom, my sister, and my DH in there with me...and I loved it because they were all really great supports and encouragers...

CantWait replied: My mom was in with me for my second baby. I loved having her there because I know how proud she was to see her grandson born, she was also the photographer. I thought she might be a little pushier, but she was there when I needed her, didn't talk at times when it wasn't needed, and let Ron and I have our time with baby as a family.

CAMSMOM1 replied: I had a party in my delivery room! I remember counting at one point, and I had 20 people in my room while I was in labor!

During delivery, I had 5 people in the room. I was suprised my OB allowed it. It was a big room, and they stayed out of the way.

I had Justin, my sister, my Mom, my best friend & my MIL. It was really nice to have their support. Justin was holding one leg, my sister held the other leg and my Mom held my head! And my best friend took pictures, and MIL video taped. I had a very difficult and scary delivery, so it was nice to have the support & encouragment.

If I had to do it all over again, I'd have them all in the room. It really made it special.