Recent loss

favre4fan wrote: We lost our precious baby @ 15 weeks and we are absolutely devastated. It happened so suddenly and unexpectedly I can hardly make any sense of it. I had some bleeding and went in to the doctor only to find out our baby had already passed this was on the 23rd. We were just into the perinatologist on the 7th and the baby was kicking around and everything was perfect. Judging by fluid accumulation and swelling the baby passed sometime after that appointment and it just breaks my heart, I had no idea, no signs except maybe the day before I was cramping. I ended up having a D & Cthat day and I am physically healing well and the bleeding has just about stopped but how do you cope emotionally? I took a week off from work and it was the hardest thing I had to do was come back, for the most part my coworkers were considerate but I just want to think about the baby all day every day and it just hurts us so much. I am still waiting on a report back about the baby but the doctor warned me that sometimes there is no reason. I need a reason give me something anything I don't know how I am going to handle it if they say there was no reason. Thanks for listening.

cameragirl21 replied: how awful and sad, i'm really sorry for your loss.

CantWait replied: I've never suffered through a m/c so I have no advice.
I just wanted to offer some hugs, and say I'm sorry.

my2monkeyboys replied: I'm so sorry... this must be such a hard time for you all. Lots of prayers and .

jcc64 replied: A loss in pregnancy is one of the most wrenching experiences a woman can go through. I am very very sorry for your loss, and I wish you strength and hope during the grieving process.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry for your loss!

sweetgirl replied: I'm so sorry.............words from anyone will probably not help, but I pray that you will trust God, for the WHY question. Just cryout to Jesus and mourn this loss, time and God will heal your awful gut renching pain that you have now. You never forget,but you will feel better....in the future. God bless you and your hubby, lots of hugs..... Peige and Landon

A&A'smommy replied: I am SOOO sorry I wish I could say something to comfort you!!!

mummy2girls replied: i am so sorry to hear that this happened! i suffered some losses and its the worst ever! The last one the doctors had no reason and they couldnt figure it out at all! And that hit me hard its like they dug that sword into my heart just a deeper and its hard to cope and accept. But as time went on it did get easier. It is a very hard loss my dear and you will not see it now but as time goes on it will be easier to handle. Things will happen that will make you angry... like everyone around you will stop talking about the baby and such... and that will hurt but alot of people stop talking because they dont want to hurt you. Its a tough situation and when people havent gone through it they dont understand! Just know that your child will nto be forgotten. What things you can do is plant something in the childs honor, light a candle on those certains days you want to remeber your angel, release balloons with a letter attached to it that you wrote to your angel. buy a journal and everytime you feel the need to vent or anything write in it it helps to release all that hurt, anger, sadness and even happiness. What i have always believed is that when you see a butterfly, catch( but dont hurt it) and tell it a message you want your child to know and then release it, that butterfly will then fly up to heaven and tell your angel it:) It gives me peace to know that this does happen. It maty sound wierd to most but coming from a mom t hat suffered liosses it has alot of meaning!!!!!!!!!

cameragirl21 replied: [/QUOTE]when you see a butterfly, catch( but dont hurt it) and tell it a message you want your child to know and then release it, that butterfly will then fly up to heaven and tell your angel it:) It gives me peace to know that this does happen. It maty sound wierd to most but coming from a mom t hat suffered liosses it has alot of meaning!!!!!!!!![/QUOTE]
that is actually a real legend, Shelly.
http://www.amazingbutterflies.com/indianlegend.htm

Mommy2BAK replied: I am so sorry for your loss. May the Lord help you and your family through this tough time. You are in my thoughts and prayers

mummy2girls replied:
wow thats cool!

aspenblue1 replied: I am so sorry for you loss.

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