R boys so different 2 girls?

gabriella wrote: Are boys naturally louder than girls? The reason I ask is because Sam is so much louder, clumsier and forceful than his female cousins and friends. Can I get Sam to speak to me more gently? I'm sure there's no hearing impediment because if I whisper, "Do you want to go to the park?", he hears me loud and clear However, I have to raise my voice to get his attention. I don't like doing this because I feel he is consequently following my example and also being loud. How can I get his attention whilst remaining gentle yet firm myself?

Thanks in advance,

Gabriella x

luvmykids replied: Just speaking from my own experience, yes, boys are definitely LOUD! Colt's "normal" speaking voice is about 3 decibles louder than mine or my girls'. He's naturally rowdier, louder, more energetic. The funny thing is, personality wise, he's the mellow one

To answer your question, I actually speak a little more quietly to him, then he has to quiet down in order to hear me. If that doesn't work, I'll touch his shoulder and say "Look at mama, I want to tell you something"

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: Matt is definately the LOUD one. I can handle the loud and the constant need to jump off of things and climb everything much better than Katy and her "girl" ways

gabriella replied: Thanks you two,

Monica,

It's true when I put my hand on his shoulder he pays more attention (like he's come out of his own little world) and more so if I'm holding food I'm going to try speaking to him more quietly from now on........

As for girlie ways I had to giggle because I've just had my sister over with her two kids, Ben and Meg. OMG I'm stuck for words when it comes to Meg and her girl things that she does. I shouldn't say without asking my sister first but she makes me She's four and absolutely gorgeous, face of an angel but a little monkey

my2monkeyboys replied: I only have 1 boy, so I don't know much as far as the differences, but Will is definitely loud and active! I usually will squat down to his eye level and make him look at me when I say something to him. Not every little thing of course, but the things he needs to know ASAP, like, we're leaving now so put up the toys, etc.

Brias3 replied: I don't know what age your son is but I'm guessing that has something to do with it. My almost 3-year old is L-O-U-D LOUD. Everything is spoken as a shout with him I completely remember this stage with my now 5-year old girl as well, so I'm not quite sure gender plays a role. Either that or I just have loud children

I always tell Mason that I won't respond to him until he speaks to me in an indoor voice. Of course, that warning is after many careful reminders! For him, I also think it has alot to do with having to compete with two siblings for my attention. He feels that being louder will make him more noticed I'm guessing.

Good luck! You'll be out of the "in need of earplugs" stage eventually

gabriella replied: Thanks Bria,

Sam is 19 months old. You have made me think of another question to put out on the board.

look forward to your response,

Gaby x

mckayleesmom replied: Right now Russell is 1 and Mckaylee is 3.....Russell is the quieter overall......although he can scream better then his sister. He is also my calmer child......He is young yet though...he might take over soon.

gabriella replied: Brianne,

It 's funny you mentioned Russell might take over his sister because this evening while Sam was playing with his friends (two little girls, both older than him), he was keeping up with them and all their stunts and tests. Sam's only 19 months and his friends are 5 and 7yrs

He looks three compared to his Spanish friends. I only hope this doesn't cause problems in the future with people expecting more from him

Boo&BugsMom replied: Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but overall, I have had many more louder boys than girls in my classrooms teaching pre-k. A couple months ago it dawned on me while I watched my 3 girls (all aged 4) playing quietly with dolls and the kitchen set, making "lunch" for each other, while my 3 boys (aged 4, 4, and 2 1/2) were loudly playing cars and crashing them together hollering at each other. I think we are just all together hard wired differently and there is clearly a difference between boys and girls behavior, on a whole in general. But like I said...there are exceptions to the rule of course. I've had a few doozies for girls in my classes, but usually those were the ones with serious behavior problems caused from home.

gabriella replied: Im still laughing......."Doozies". I've never heard this before.

It's just as well I'm not back in the classroom just yet, otherwise I'd be slipping some new vocab in

(secondary art school teacher )

I loved your comments TannerBugsMom

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I think by far my worst one was a girl, 4 years old, who would throw chairs when she didn't get her way. She would bite teachers, throw things, and scream at the top of her lungs. What is more sad, is that all of this was learned behavior from home. Her mom was not a very good mother, to say the least, and the apple didn't fall far from the tree in that one!

Oh wait, there was a 3 year old little boy who called me a stupid **tch my first day of work. Also, learned behavior from home...dad called mom that all the time. Some parents just amaze me sometimes. You really see so much when you teach that you wouldn't see otherwise, it's crazy.

I don't know...I guess I've had doozies with both genders. Yikes! Im sure being a secondary art teacher has had it's shining moments for having some winners too!

gabriella replied: OMG behaviour (I'm English) like this from babies It's really sad how some children are raised and if we think about it too much

All I have to say is "Dangerous Minds" Nobody was killed in my school (as far as I know?) but the drugs and the knives were very much present and for real. It was my first teaching post and first interview and I was offered the job.......what can I say I was completely oblivious and naive. A nightmare the first two years then in my third year I loved the little......darlings My worse students became my best and I really loved them. They were tough as nails, foul in every sense of the word but once they gave me the benefit of the doubt and they could see I wasn't going to walk out on them they became lovely young people. I remember crying every week my first year. Don't get me started.....it's midnight here and I have to get some shut-eye

What every teacher must have is a sense of humour wouldn't you agree. I like yours

night x

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Oh totally...and A LOT of patience. Right back at you!