Question.... - What would you do??????

punkeemunkee'smom wrote: Ok I will present this situation with no backround information so that there is no bias in the responses......

You are at an organized activity for children. The kids are told to line up differently than they had been lining up for the past 10 activities. Your child gets in line but is standing beside the little girl that she is supposed to be standing behind. The adult in charge grabs your child by the top of the head and pushes them backwards to the end of the line (about the length of 5 kids) while telling them to move.Your child is confused and upset and begins to tear up ..You are standing on the sidelines watching....What do you do?


I will give you my reason for asking and my answer in a few minutes........

Our Lil' Family replied: Kick some "adult in charge" booty for pushing my child around like that!

luvmykids replied: I think it would depend on what you mean by "grabbed by the head"....putting their hand on my kids head to gently steer them is one thing, being nasty and forceful about it is quite another

I'm non confrontational but my kids aren't to be messed with so I'd probably grab that person by the head, put them against the wall, and ask them if they still think it's appropriate

If it was the nice way and my child freaked out anyway I'd probably just say "You're fine, pay attention and lets just have fun."

holley79 replied:
I feel the same way. There is no reason for another adult to lay hands on that child. If the child was not where she was supposed to be the child should have been "told" where she needed to be not "pushed" to the place she was supposed to be.

Crystalina replied: I would be livid if someone man-handled my child like that. If she can do that to my child then she can surely be woman enough to take the lashing she will get from me.

msoulz replied:
ITA!!!! It would not be pretty for her . . . and I am a mild-mannered accountant!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I would definately say something to the person moving my child. I would comfort my child and ask him/her if she wanted to stay or leave.

DVFlyer replied: Depends on how the pushing was done.

MoonMama replied:
ITA!

DVFlyer replied: If a woman pushed the child would it be "Woman"-handled?

Without more details, there is no proof the child was not handled in a calm manner. The child getting upset could be for a number of reasons.

I've guided my daughter and son around by their heads plenty of times and I doubt anyone would look at my actions as inappropriate or "man-handling" them.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: I would be pi$$ed! That adult could've calmly told the child (at eye level with the child) that we are lining up differently this time, and showed him/her where s/he should be.

Calimama replied: Smack her.

No, it depends on how rough she was.

aspenblue1 replied:
ITA! I tend to react then think though.

redchief replied: In all my years of coaching I've never touched a child's head. When physical assistance was needed I always, ALWAYS, explained what I needed, asked if I could put the child in the right position, and respected the childs' wishes.

Except for lacrosse, there we get a little rough, but that was high school boys and they had all the equipment on.

My3LilMonkeys replied:
I agree - if they were being gentle and my child overreacted, I'd do the same. If they were rough or forceful, I'd ask my child if they were okay and let them decide whether to continue or not. I'd personally speak to the adult about it after the fact because I don't think a confrontation in front of a roomful of children is the best way to handle it.

boyohboyohboy replied: I would be VERY upset, at no time is there a reason to put a hand on someone elses child! i would wait till the event was over and she and i would be having a heated conversation and she would be reported to someone,
i also think i would go to the child right then and ask her is she was ok, make her feel better, and let the event occur for her sake, unless she wanted to leave..
but it would be so hard to hold back.

Boys r us replied: I'd be ready to kick some butt!
You are in charge and you may tell my child to do what you think it is necessary for them to do..but don't put your hands on them!

That said, even if you're going to be hands-free with them and just tell them they need to move, I'd prefer you have a bit more understanding that my child was only acting out of routine since this was the first time they've lined up differently...I think that patience and understanding go hand in hand with having a job where you are in charge of children. AND...if you were ballsy enough to do this KNOWING that the child's parent was right there watching...Ohhh see..then I would wonder how badly my child was being treated when there was no one else around to witness it!

Teesa®© replied: I don't think touching a child's head is necessary at all. A guiding hand on a shoulder is more than good enough if any physical contact seems necessary.

With a child, they should be TOLD first, and reminders are often needed. Suddenly changing the "rules" does throw them for a loop. They may have heard the teacher, and may have understood just fine, but it still would have been totally automatic to go in the order they had been before.

Personally, I would have FLIPPED. I would have told the teacher I wanted to talk to him/her right NOW and took it out into the hall. I would have told them under NO circumstances are they to EVER touch my child again and that I would be having a talk with the principal.

I'm VERY protective of my children - maybe a little over protective at times - and I won't stand for a LOT of things. On Wed, a boy pushed my DD down a hill and scraped up her lower back and the top of her bum. Not only will that boy NEVER push another child again, but I doubt he'll EVER go near either of my children again!! lol

grapfruit replied: Ok, I have to know what happened..

Teesa®© replied:
It's been 5 hours now... I want to know the details

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Well, I can't imagine doing that to someone else's kid so I would want my children treated with the same respect. Some people are very hands on and feel they can do as they please with your child. I think it's a violation and it's RUDE!!! I'd grab her by the head and direct her where I think she should go!!! She could have grabbed her hand and gently and kindly walked her over to where she needed to be.

jem0622 replied: That would never be acceptable behavior and I would feel the need to address it in some way.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I posted the story in another thread...Thanks for all the input!

A&A'smommy replied: OH I would JUMP UP and take control of the situation, no one is EVER going to touch my child like that without repercussions.

now I'm going to read the reasoning behind the question