Prom

MM'sMama wrote: When we were driving home from my nephew's birthday party today I asked Luci about prom. I asked her when it was etc.

Well its this friday! After I got done freaking out thinking how can we get it together by then. Last year it was in May end of May.

I asked her if she planned to go.

She said "I dunno I don't think I really wanna go". Now I would never force her to go but I think she will be sad if she misses out. Now this is her Jr. yr so she can go next year but still. And she went last yr with her sisters and some other friends. I think partly its because she doesn't have her sisters here this yr (they returned to their father in Mexico right after they turned 18).

I don't know what to do.

Should I leave it alone, if she doesn't want to go she doesn't? And if she decides she does want to go try to pull it together really fast?

I'm going to call her school tomorrow and see if tickets are even still available. They are $60 man that is crazy. But I also don't want to waste the money if she doesn't want to go and also not have tickets if she does want to go.

luvmykids replied: I wonder why she doesn't want to go ... this year is everyone going with a date or something maybe? I think I would just say "Hey, if you're not sure about prom we need to start thinking about it ... if you're positive you don't want to go thats fine but if theres a chance you do we don't have a lot of time ..." Maybe find a way to encourage her to go and let her know she can go, but doesn't have to.

I'm not much help but she sure sounds like a sweet girl.

MM'sMama replied: Thank for the advice. I did let her know that. And she does have a date is she wants to go and all of her friends are going. I tried asking her why she doesn't want to and she just says eh I dunno just doesn't sound fun.

Now last year she seemed liek she had a blast getting ready getting her hair and nails done, picking a dress, and getting pictures taken (we went to a really pretty old house and garden and took pictures). I just don't know.

luvmykids replied: Sorry I'm not more help! Someone else with kids her age will probably have better advice.

MM'sMama replied: Hey now I really appreciate your advice. Thank you.

luvmykids replied: I didn't think you didn't, I just wish I could have a magic answer for you, I know how much you love her and want her to be happy and I always wish I could "fix it" for everybody!

CAMSMOM1 replied: Do you think she feels bad asking so late? Maybe she has a hard time asking for the money, since it's expensive? Let her know that you talked to your DH and you both really want to buy her a dress, ect. And show her how excited you are about it. I know I felt bad asking for things, especially if I didn't give them any notice. kwim?

MM'sMama replied: Thats a good thought Ann I didn't even think of that I'll give it a try.

Ditto I always want to fix everything too.

gr33n3y3z replied: Erin is going to the Prom but she knew she was going with or with out a date lol
But she has a date.
Her prom is the end of this month.
She has her dress ordered for a few months now and it came in 2 weeks ago and its being Altered now.

As for not knowing if she wants to go or not that was me also
I did go after all it was fun.

I hope she goes and enjoys herself

holley79 replied: Just ask her one more time. Say that you will be more then happy to get her ready to go if she really wants to go. If she doesn't want to go then maybe she can have a "girls night" with some friends or something. I would leave it up to her. I didn't go to mine and to be honest I'm not sad about it at all.

MM'sMama replied: Thanks guys.

I'm really sad but she says she does not want to go and that there is know real reason. So I'll leave it at that I guess. Hmmmm Mayby I'll keep her home from school friday and have a girls day out.

Nina J replied: I guess if she's made her mind up, it's done. I like the idea of a girls day out though

Maybe something happened last year and thats why she doesn't want to go this year? Or it was boring last year and she thinks it might be the same way this year?

She might want to go next year. Plus, since she can go next year if she regrets not going she still has the chance.

MamaJAM replied: I wouldn't press the issue. If she doesn't want to go...that should be it.
I didn't go to a prom until my senior year (and, honestly, that was such a boring night I wished I had saved the money that time). I've never regretted not going to more than one prom.

Oh - and about the money - WOW that's really good. My prom was $75 per couple (and that did not include a dinner...the year before I went it was $90 per couple and that did include a crappy meal). And my prom was in 1991.

Bee_Kay replied: That's too bad she doesn't want to go. I went to both my Junior and Senior proms. I wouldn't push it either.

I just found out that my SD went out of town to buy a maternity prom dress (I honestly didn't know they made them) *sigh*

CosmetologyMommy replied: I almost did not go to my prom. I would tell her to GO! Some of my friends really regret not going now. She will remember it forever!

JAYMESMOM replied: I would really think she doesn't want to go because her sisters aren't there to go with her. That is understandable and she probably doesnt want to go and remember all the fun they had last year.

Defintely let it go and do have a girl's day out on Friday.

The last thing you want to do is push her to go.

But having a teenage sister she may change her mind on Friday but let it be her coming to you.

MyLuvBugs replied: I went to Prom 3 years in a row, but DH never went. I asked him once if he feels like he missed out by not going, and he said..."Not really." So, maybe she's like that? Maybe stuff like that doesn't mean much to her, KWIM?

But from my perspective....I HAD SOOOOOO much fun, that I can't imagine not going.

mckayleesmom replied: Im with Ann....It sounds like she just doesn't want to ask for the money....

MM'sMama replied: I just don't know, but I hoping she will go next year. But I'm going to keep her home friday and go have a girls day out. Maybe shes just feeling blue. I talked to her school and they were so great about it I explained everything and what I think might be the reason why and they know her past. So her asst. principal he holding 2 tickets ($60 each ) and if she changes her mind and wants to go she can.

jacobsmama replied: that is very nice of him to hold the tickets for her...

OH yeah and has anyone told you that you are a great mother?? Alot of parents wouldn't even ask or think to ask or try to find out why they don't want to go? KWIM..So just in case you forgot...


YOU ARE A GREAT MOM.

MM'sMama replied:


Thank you! I am seriously over here teary eye you are so sweet to say that! Thank you so much! I think your a great mom too! You have know idea how much that means to me.