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coasterqueen wrote: I ask this question, especially for those who breastfeed, because you can't just stuff a bottle in their mouth to make them happy. You would have to pull over to feed or get them out while spouse is driving.

PLEASE PLEASE be honest with your answer. DH and I have had numerous discussions on this and he thinks people would vote his answer more so than mine if people are honest. I'm not looking for a debate and not looking to prove my husband wrong. I'm really curious what you would or HAVE done.

Thank you smile.gif Again, please NO debates on this subject, just your HONEST answer. grouphug.gif

amynicole21 replied: When it was just Sophia in the back seat in the infant carrier, I would sit in the back and lean over her in the carseat to nurse her. Not a lot of room in the backseat for me now rolleyes.gif

Mommy2BAK replied: No, and Blakely hated the car at first, so I had to endure many headaches, and I wanted so bad to get her out, but then again, I know someone who got their child out for just a few seconds and they wrecked and the child was killed.

coasterqueen replied:
YOu actually did that? Hee hee. I'm not laughing, just amazed. I always thought of doing that for Kylie but wondered how comfortable it would have been. We always just pulled over which would send DH through the roof. rolleyes.gif

I know what you mean about not enough room, we have a mini van and I tell you it's gotten cramped in that thing with two car seats in there. tongue.gif

5littleladies replied: Ok, you wanted honest, so I put yes. I don't normally, BUT I have done it once or twice. The only time I can remember for sure was when Madeline was a baby. We were on a youth group trip and in a van full of teenagers at midnight. Maddie was screaming and nothing we did would stop her screaming so we pulled her out, I nursed her, and we laid her down to sleep on the van seat. Again-Not something I normally do.

Usually we just pull off so I can nurse the baby. It is a pain in the rear, but I guess that's life with a little one. happy.gif

JessC replied: I put no,

You shouldnt risk your childs life, its way to risky nowadays. - thats what I believe, just my opinion. wink.gif

amymom replied: I put no. And I never did. We always pulled over and I nursed them. My daughter was a terrible traveler, she would get car sick AND our 6 hours trips that we made at least once per month would turn into 10-12 hour trips with stopping every hour or two. The thought about nursing the child while in the carseat, I never tried but. I would sit near them, and try to soothe them. But, that only worked with my son. One time though we did pull over at night with my son and the police stopped and made my husband get out of the car so they could talk to me alone to make sure I was safe. tongue.gif Embarrassing but reassuring!!!

It is a tough choice to make, My parents didn't have seat belts in their cars, and six kids in a car built for 5 people total. BUT they were different times and we know better now. I guess???

kit_kats_mom replied:
yep, done the boobie surfing myself. rolling_smile.gif I'm just to afraid to unstrap an infant for any reason.

moped replied: No I haven't taken him out but I also have bf in the backseat when we took a long car ride - and when I was by myself I would just try and tune him out - he was fussy in the carseat too - cause he was colicky and some drives were brutal - now he loves his new front facing eddie bauer - and it makes for a fun drive somewhere.

Mom2Boyz replied: No way.....There were several times when Conner was younger that dh had to pull over and let me nurse him, but I would never hold him while we were driving.

mom2tripp replied: Every couple of months we make the trip from VA to NJ to visit my in laws and before I had Tripp I swore I would never be able to feed him in the car and that we would always have to pull over. Well he's almost six months and you can call me the Queen of "throwing my boob over to him in the carseat" excuse my bluntness! I just feed him right there in the car seat and he does fine with it, though it's not very comfy for me at least he's still strapped in. Try it--I'm telling you it works like a charm and if you have little ones back there with you, just cover yourself with a blanket if you feel the need!!!

MommyToAshley replied: As tempting as it was, I never did take Ashley out of the car seat in a moving car. We've pulled over before though. The risk is not worth it. There are probably hundreds or thousands of people that do it every day and nothing happens, but I wouldn't want to be the ONE who did take her child out of the car seat and something does happen. I would never forgive myself.

Jamison'smama replied: Jack----Horrible in the car! Screams the ENTIRE way wherever we go! I wouldn't take him out of the carseat but again, I have leaned over him and nursed. Did it for Jama too!

A&A'smommy replied: no I didn't but i also wasn't breastfeeding I almost did once or twice when she was TINY and we were traveling because we were just going accross the parking lot wink.gif

mama3x replied: Hi Karen!

No I never did. In fact, I pretty much didn't go anywhere in a car with my last 2 little ones - Kyrie was preemie so even more so with her! DS #1 loved the car for the most part so no big problem with him crying (plus living in Hawai`i in town, there isn't far to go). DD loved her car seat, not to say that there weren't crying periods but we left her in it.

As for DS #2, he is a sensitive one and will go on and on and on...but haven't taken him out. We have altered the order of our errands so we end up in the parking lot of the store so I BF in the car while DH buys what we need.

I have thought about it but especially after hearing about someone who took their child out of the seat for the last mile or so of their trip (they got hit seconds afterwards and the little girl died), I don't actually do it.

Alice replied: I didn't breastfeed, so maybe that nullifies my answer. But no tantrum in the world is worth the risk of taking that baby out of a carseat in a moving car. Pulling over is one thing. But if the car is moving, they're in the carseat.

jdkjd replied: I have sat in the backseat and just popped the boob out and leaned forward with a blanket draped over us.

Not confortable by any means but it kept the car moving and kept the baby happy.

kimberley replied: Nope here too. it is just not worth the risk, kwim? with the boys, we just pulled over and when Jade was little too. but now, i am a car surfin' nursin' momma rolling_smile.gif

5littleladies replied: This poll just reminded me os something. I know a woman who, while she is driving, will pull her baby out of their carseat and nurse them-While she is driving mind you! ohmy.gif That woman makes me sooo angry! dry.gif

RayaJoysmommy replied: I am interested to see this question and know that I am not the only mommy who is totally against this.

Recently in our community one of the ladies we knew and spent time with was killed in a car accident. Her son was only bruised and scrapped. She was traveling to her parents home less than 15 miles away and her DH was following in another car right behind her. She reached back behind her to retrieve something for her son and her hand slipped on the wheel and she swerved and was hit head on by a semi.

So now I won't even reach back to hand a pacifier back I pull over everytime. If we think about it we have probably all have reached back while driving for one thing or another.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: No way! I have breastfed in the car where I was leaning over the carseat with my boob in his mouth, so I was out of my seatbelt, but NEVER would I take him out. I use pacis so I haven't experienced a total melt down in the car. He is typically pretty happy in there, paci or no paci.

jcc64 replied: Wouldn't take her out, but I did "boobie surf" , as Cary calls it, many times. The most humorous one was while dh was driving in midtown Manhattan traffic. For those of you unfamiliar with NYC, there are always LOTS of people on the street, and they get very close to the cars when stopped at a crosswalk- got lots of pretty hilarious looks, but it beats a screaming baby.

JAYMESMOM replied: I voted yes because I have when my daughter was around 7 weeks old. We had to travel to W.V. for my brother-in-laws funeral and we were following my in-laws who refused to stop. We had no idea where we were going so I sat in the back and would take her out to feed her and put her back in when she was done. We did this going up the mountain the day of the funeral also since I had to keep her nursing to stop the pressure in her ears.

I didn't really do it after that since anywhere else we go she can wait till we get there or I would stop and feed her.

ferocity302 replied: For those who breast feed......... Can't you pump just for the car ride?

I know........ nipple confusion..... but isn't that minor compared to risking your own life or the life of your child?

Just a thought. I breast fed when the babies were small but only for about 3 months. I supplimented with bottles though and then went to straight bottle.


Thinking about this....... bawling.gif my babies are 11 and 14 now....... oh those days were so precious when they were so small.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I voted No but I had thought about it a few times but I just could not risk her safty. I did have to pull over into a big empty lot and get in the back and nurse her a few times.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
This is what we always did. happy.gif Scotty was always SO good about pulling over to let me feed the babies. It didn't matter how many times we had to stop, either. wub.gif No matter where we were (restaurant, mall, park), he was always so accomodating and wanted to make sure I was comfortable and I had everything I needed. wub.gif (sorry, just remembering the good ol days) happy.gif

Just want to add that those of you who are pulling over and taking the baby out to feed them, you need to make sure you pull into a safe place to do this. Never pull over on the side of the road. A lot of accidents happen like this, too. wink.gif Find a parking lot or another safe place like a roadside park. (granted you aren't alone...if that is the case follow those safety precautions as well)

coasterqueen replied: Okay for all those who "surf" how in the heck do you do that if you have more than one kid in the car. With Kylie we always pulled over. We just don't go anywhere because we can't pull over for too long or Kylie gets fussy and it's understandable. I can't even imagine "surfing" for Megan. We have a minivan and there is two seperate seats in the middle of the van. Each girl is in a car seat in each seat. I would have to stand or kneel my big butt somehow between the two seats to lean over to feed her. But that doesn't sound safe either. dunno.gif

coasterqueen replied: BTW, I thank all of you for being completely honest with me. grouphug.gif

I will be honest with you. I never once took Kylie out of her seat because she usually slept except when she wanted to nurse and we'd pull over or a pacifier would suffice til we got pulled over.

With Megan I've taken her out twice now BUT only on our country road. I know that's no excuse and we could still get in a wreck on it, although not too many cars on that road...just deer..which still is dangerous. And the only reason I did that is because there is no where to pull over on our country road and it's pretty long so letting her scream would be awful. So I would sit in back and nurse her (those two times) while DH got us home or got us to my moms which is closer. blush.gif Oh and the pacifer..well Megan doesn't like it and so I could put it in her mouth to calm her down...wouldn't matter. rolleyes.gif

b&bsmom replied: I voted no. I didn't breast feed either but on a trip to Va (6hrs) when my dd was about 3 weeks old I found she just wanted to know I was there so I would let her hold my hand or get in the back and sit next to her stroking her hair. My ds however on a trip to Tenn. which was about 14 hours I think he hated being backwards so on the way home I ended up switching his seat forward he was about 10 months old. He was in a convertable seat so I was able to switch it and my doctor had told me with my daughter that her neck muscles were strong enough to turn her around a little early and my ds was even stronger so I felt it was ok. I would never take them out while driving though. Just to dangerous in my two cents.

mom2twins replied: I voted no. I never take the twins out of their carseats. When I was breastfeeding,
I did seat in the back seat and bf them if necessary. It's not worth the risk. I don't think I could live w/ myself if something happened just because I wanted to get them quiet. Things happen so fast, you never know when the car will have to stop suddenly or something. I've seen what can happen when children are not in proper car restraints too many times to risk our girls. So if they get fussy in the car, we just pull over.

That's just my opinion!



redchief replied: Please... PLEASE, Pull over and take care of all of you smile.gif

amynicole21 replied:
If you have two separate seats I can see how it would be difficult. I guess standing over her would be the best bet. I was always more willing to risk myself being unbuckled than getting her out. I haven't tried this with Nora yet, just with Sophia who was able to hold up/turn her head by herself at that point. I think it would be pretty difficult with an infant... but worth a try!

kimberley replied:
none of my kids would take a bottle or i definitely would have done it instead of nursin' surfin'.

Karen, we usually just pull over if we have all the kids in the car. we have a small car and the boys never go in the front so no choice there. it is probably your best option since you don't have bench seats.

jem0622 replied: I only did this when we were traveling to and from Tennesse with my oldest son. That was a long drive from MD!

Otherwise I leaned over them in their seat to nurse.

lisar replied: In no way shape or form would I take the kid out of the car seat while driving down the road. Thats why they call an accident an ACCIDENT you never know when they are going to happen. I am sorry if I offend anyone who said yes but thats just my opionion.

Lisa

~~AvaMcKaylasMom~~ replied: Nope, I would never take Ava out of her carseat while in a moving car. I've just heard too many horror stories of people who have lost their kids in car accidents when they aren't in their carseat. I could never live with myself if anything happened. There have been times when we've pulled off the road somewhere and I've had to nurse her though.

tammyhopkins replied: I have to be honest and i think by taking your child out of the car seat you are risking alot. I have never done it but Josh was never really fussy in the carseat although my nephew could be and i can remember jumping over the seat to get in the back seat with him to help calm him down. I think if anything you should be the one without the seat belt not your child. Just my opinion

JilliansMom replied: I would have DH pull over, THEN take the baby out and feed. It's just TOO risky to me, to take the baby out of the carseat while going down the road.

sunshine girls replied: I said yes, because I've done it once when Gwen was choking.I climbed over and I just grabbed her out of her seat, it was just kind of like an immediate reaction thing I thought she was dying. I'm thankful that I did that though, and I've always thought about that morning dh wanted to take his car and I wanted to take my range rover, we took my car. If we hadn't taken it I wouldn't have been able to climb over into the back so easily. And dh couldn't have pulled over then because we were on the interchange between highways 5 and 110 in L.A and the traffic was busy as usual. If I were in that situation again, on that interchange and one of my kids were choking I would do the same thing.
We are frequently on the interchange between 5 and 110, but if Gwen or Elle were crying when they were little I never got them out, only that once with Gwen. If they were really stressing out dh would pull over, or if we were close to home I usually got out while the gates were opening and walked up the driveway soothing them while dh drove. It worked well though they liked the walk up the driveway.

CantWait replied: Nope, for obvious reasons, I don't see how anyone could. Anthony was a huge screamer all the time in the car, we just pulled over. Even when he was only a day old and we went up to the mountains, we pulled over in the middle of the night to bf.

sunshine girls replied:
If you were in the situation I was with Gwen, what would've you done?

If you've ever been on that interchange you probably know how busy it is and how hard to pull over, but if you havn't it can be quite difficult.

Just wondering what other people would've done smile.gif

Jamison'smama replied:
Choking?? Of course, I would do whatever was necessary and be thankful I wasn't driving so that I could. I would make sure they were cleared then back in the seat. Thank goodness she was okay--how scary!

angelhair replied: no i would not while my hubby was driving. its to dangerous all it takes is a moment to get in a car accident love dee

MyLuvBugs replied: No. I wouldn't do that. I'd be too worried about a car accident and killing my child . But screaming for me it easy to ignore. I just carry earplugs on long car rides. laugh.gif

massagemommy replied:
I have enough milk to BF (still going strong at 9 months) but I was always lucky if I could pump more than an ounce a day . . . so no, I couldn't pump for a car ride. Does a bottle do the trick for some babies? For ours it's not usually hunger that's the problem anyway . . .

I did vote No, though -- I think our son would have a ball in the front seat w/us but between airbags and zillions of cars on the road, it doesn't seem safe to me. The poor thing HATES car travel too, so we've just had to stop taking trips anywhere. The 3-hour drive to see my inlaws is just bearable now that he's forward-facing, and we just stop whenever we have to for nursing & "nature breaks" -- if he can run his toes in the grass & watch birds or a river for 20 minutes, he can handle another half hour in the car.

ckrenee replied: I voted no but at times I do think about it. She hates the car rides!! My daughter cries and she looks me right in the face as if to say Hey mommy, hold me please! I just have to keep her amused for as long as it takes until she falls asleep snooze.gif .

Carla


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