Please hug your babies today - and thank God

My2Beauties wrote: You guys I just heard the most terrible news last night! I am so upset right now. Does everyone remember my friend that was one of my bridesmaids but due to financial difficulties she had to drop out?? Well one of those reasons was the fact that her and her DH had just had a newborn child and they were having some money issues. I was fine with it because she was honest. I mean I was a little upset but I did find a replacement person. Well last night my other friend Gina calls me hysterically crying and she's screaming LeaAnn Oh my God guess what I just read in the paper, OMG OMG (she was freaking out) she said LeaAnn Becca and Tony's baby passed away, OMG LeaAnn she died. She was only 6 months old. She said I just happened to have a newspaper here sitting on my couch from the 26th of April and LeaAnn I never ever read the paper and something told me to just pick it up and read the obits.

No one told us anything, her daughter died on Saturday and we had no idea. Her funeral was the 27th and I didn't even know about it to attend I am so upset right now, my eyes are so swollen from crying. We haven't been able to contact Becca yet, but another friend and myself sent her floweres this morning and I am going to get her a card.

I feel so terrible, here I am complaining about her not showing up to my bridal shower Sunday, I thought she was sort of being rude dropping out of the wedding and then not even coming to that when I went to everything for her and little did I know she was grieving her daughter I'm sorry guys I am a basketcase today! I don't think I have ever been so quick to jump up and hold my daughter when she woke up at 6am this morning! Normally I groggily get up, pout, stomp out of bed upset because she's woke me up. But now my friend doesn't even have the chance to do that with her baby!

I've heard different stories about what happened, but supposedly her dad fell asleep with her and they were taking a nap, she had been sick for a couple of days and the baby rolled over on her face and she couldn't roll herself back over and when he woke up he noticed she was still warm, he tried to give her CPR and she started turning colors and there wasn't anything else he could do! I have to stop writing right now, I'm sitting at work bawling my eyes out! Sorry guys! Just please hug your babies today!

moped replied: OMG Lea-Ann that is terrible - I don't know what to say. They are in my prayers............so sad!!!

Ahhhhhhh

Kaitlin'smom replied: OMG how horrible I am so glad Kait was lovey with me this Am still makes me want to drop everything and go to the sitters hugs her and take her home with me

I knew I should not have read this right now I am

Boys r us replied: OMG LeaAnn!!!! That is so teerible and I can't even begin to imagine the pain your friend is going through!!!!!

DansMom replied: I can't think of anything worse for a family---I'm so sorry for them, and such a devastating shock for you and other friends. I'm so sorry.

My2Beauties replied: Thanks for the P&PT's guys. I can barely work today, I keep thinking about how Tony (the dad) must have felt when he woke up to that sight, I keep envisioning it. They were both very loving people and they wanted this baby so bad, they always loved kids, he is a youth minister at their church she grew up babysitting for the longest time, I mean when we had our first apartment together in college she babysat for income, she always loved kids! Why do bad things happen to good people?? I can't fathom what they are going through right now, if Hanna smacked me in my face and screamed cursewords at me right now, I would still probably hug her! I feel so awful! I keep crying and I'm shaking, she was the most beautiful baby! She had a head full of coal black hair, she was just so perfect and soooo beautiful! God this is so awful! Sorry guys I can't really talk about it at work without weeping uncontrollably so the only thing I can do is talk to you guys! If I start crying I won't be able to answer the phones at work, I keep having to put my phone on Not Ready as it is because I keep getting choked up! I hate this! What's even worse is it will never be finalized for me because I didn't know about her funeral to attend it and I wasn't there for my friend in her time of need and as much as I know it's not my fault because I didn't even know about it, I still feel terribly guilty

DerbyCityGrl replied: Sad your friend and family will be in my prayers

3xsthefun replied: OMG!! That is so awful!! Sending prayers for your friends.

A&A'smommy replied: OMG LeaAnn that is horrible!!! Its Terrible I don't even know what to say ((((((HUGS))))) I will keep her and her family in my prayers...

TLCDad replied: I'm so sorry. Prayers and thoughts for you and your friends family.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: That's awful awful news..I'm so sorry for her family. Please don't feel guilty. You didn't know. Please know we are here for you.

Mommy2BAK replied: OMG! Thats awful, I will keep your friend & their family in my thoughts and prayers.

mammag replied: That is sooo sad! I can't even imagine....... That's how old Keegan is now...I don't know that I could handle that at all.

Prayers for your friend.

Sunflower04 replied: Sorry for your friends lost.

My2Beauties replied: Here I wanted to add her obituary:


Abrayah Corinn Benzick

BENZICK, ABRAYAH CORINN, six- month-old "precious" daughter of Philip A. "Tony" and Rebecca Osley Benzick of Louisville, passed away, Saturday, April 23, 2005, at Kosair Children's Hospital. "She was deeply loved and will be missed by all who loved her." She was preceded in death by her great- grandfather, Mr. Philip Dempsey. In addition to her parents, she is survived by her grandparents, Charla Shown, Robert Osley, Victoria Dempsey and Larry Benzick, and her great- grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. John Benzick, Mr. and Mrs. James Osley and Barbara and John Sabak. She is also survived by her great- great-grandmother, Mrs. Robert Short. A celebration of Abrayah's life will be held at 1 p.m. Wednesday in the chapel of Arch L. Heady-Cralle Funeral Home, 2428 Frankfort Ave., with interment in Cave Hill Cemetery. Visitation will be after 11 a.m. Wednesday.

Mommy2BAK replied: that obituarary is heartbreaking

PanthersGirl replied:

Thats horrible...i don't even know what to say. I will be praying for you and your friends

gr33n3y3z replied: that is so sad
I'm sorry to hear that
prayers to the faimly

chloe&tysmommy replied: OMG that is horrible!! I can't even imagine what they are going through right now They will be in my thoughts

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

LeaAnn I'm so sorry you weren't able to be there. I can't imagine the pain they are feeling right now. God, that makes me so sad and ill at the same time.

They are in my prayers.

mom21kid2dogs replied: My prayers are with her family and you! What a horrible trauma. My sister's friend lost a baby at 10 months and that child was 2 weeks older than Olivia. I still think of her and her family all the time. It must be an unbearable pain!

My2Beauties replied: Update: My friend Gina finally talked to our friends. She asked them if they were ok and how they were coping, they said there are ups and downs, sometimes they think about her and smile and other times they think about her and start crying. Becca (the mom) said that she didn't realize how much her life had changed in 6 months with her child and now she has to go back to a different routine. They haven't been staying at home because its too painful. However, Tony (the dad) goes there to take showers during the day and sits and says that he thinks about those last few moments, it keeps playing over and over in his mind! It did happen that way, he found her tried to do CPR, and everything he could to bring her back and nothing worked, she started turning colors on him and she passed right there right in front of her daddy! I have Becca's # where they are staying, so I am going to call her tonight, I can't do it now because I know I would be crying hysterically at work. It's just so terrible - if you guys knew this couple, they had so much love to give their child - so much love, they love children, they are so happily married and in love, this baby would have just been their world, their pride and joy! Here I go again! The thing that upset me the most was Tony said that HE was sorry no one got in touch with us to tell us, he has nothing to be sorry for, and Becca said that she wanted to contact me (but my number was at her house and she didn't want to go there) so that she could tell me why she couldn't come to my bridal shower That made me cry even harder because I was saying stuff about how I was sort of mad for her not showing up and then she said that, I feel like such a butt

kel replied: i am doing the ugly cry right now!
omg! that is just so aweful! i have often said if anything happens to kira you might as well just kill me too cause i would never recover..the worst thing ever is to hear about a childs death! i cant think of anything sadder than that!
im so sorry for your friend and her dh!
dont feel guilty..you never knew..all you can do now is be there for her.
i had such a terrible afternoon with kira today and right now im really grateful even for that..
im soo soo sorry!!

kimberley replied: oh LeaAnn, i am so very sorry for your friends' loss. how heartbreaking you are all in my thoughts and prayers

JAYMESMOM replied: I am so sorry for your friends loss and the grieve you will all share. Babies passing has never been anything I can handle since I lost my baby cousin in highschool.

My prayers are with you and your friends and family.

Don't feel guilty for not knowing - how could you. Just be there to support her now. She will need all the support she can find.

Emeraldsmom replied: Oh I am so sorry. That is so horrible. my prayers are with you and your friends.

MommyToAshley replied:
So sad!!!!

My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and her family!

amymom replied: so so sorry for you and your friends. Take care

jem0622 replied: I am sorry to hear this. I couldn't imagine what they are going through right now.