Our 27 Kids

Anthony275 wrote: people on tlc right now with 27 kids: 23 with mental disabilities, 4 of their own. 15 of them have down syndrome
this is worse than the duggars

mom2patrick&jalin replied: How is it worse than the Duggers, you cannot even compare the two and my opinon on the Duggers is different than yours. Anyway, it seems to me they are giving homes to children who are less likly to get one.

Anthony275 replied: more hectic, more money spent on grocceries, you know

mummy2girls replied:
its no where near the duggers my dear. yes its more kids and such but these people have taken in special needs kids with mental to physical disabilities. that i think is the most admirable thing is to even want to take them in. yes more groceries and such but i think they will experience such a positive experience ever!

punkeemunkee'smom replied:

How is that? The Duggars made the choice to have as many children as they did and raise them in the home they were born into. These people made the choice to take other's children in and give them a home...they are BOTH parenting big families-BOTH by personal choice. What either family does may not be for everyone but special needs children VS natural born 'normal' children does not make one more valid than the other. No one has any idea of the positive experiences the walls of the Duggar's home holds just like you have no idea what the truth of the experience (positive or otherwise) this family feels...I find it odd that people who 'take-in' children are championed while people who choose to have a raise children of their own-be that 5 or 10 or 17- are somehow looked down on. If my tax dollars are not supporting them then I say it is NOT any of our business if Michelle Duggar has 17 more!

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I don't think she means the choice thing... I think she means that children with mental \ physical disabilities might make life a little more difficult, that the children aren't maybe as independant as children without those disabilities.

In any case... I used to work with disabled children, ranging from mild autism to cerebral palsy to "vegetable", and I will always cherish those moments spent with those kids just as much as I cherish the ones I spend with my own. I can vouch that there is something about a child with a disability that makes my heart just melt. I can't imagine having 23 of them to care for at once.

mummy2girls replied:
i didnt mean by choice. i mean because th duggars yes decided to have them naturally and that is awesome. If they want to all power to them. With these kids they are special needs they choose to take in kids that have alot of mental disabilities and alot of them are just given up because the parent couldnt handle a child with the disabilities. It sad because these kids are usually pushed aside by people who dont care and for a coup0le to take them in is just amazing! Its very admireable of them to take them and they will get a experience out of it like no other. So im not saying at all what you are saying , it just came out wrong my statement. They both are awesome parenst to do this and want to take it all in... i just feel its diff when its kids with alot of disabilities and a combo of them.

holley79 replied: I love that family. I saw it on TLC also. Comparing them to the Duggars are like comparing Apple and Oranges sweetie. This family has opened their home and hearts to the "unwanted". Children with special needs are a lot more work for thsi family, I'm sure, then what the Duggars are contending with.

coasterqueen replied:
Yes, I agree. This family can't ask the help of the other kids to help the other kids. Right? Maybe so in many ways, but I think they have to do the majority of it themselves. I admire them very much for taking on such a huge responsibility and having enough room in their hearts and enough love to give these children. I still disagree with the huge family issue, but in this case these are kids who didn't have a home for whatever reason so being part of a big family is better than none at all. Kudos to that family.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I don't see how anyone can look down upon someone trying to give a child, whose parents gave them up or who do not have parents, a stable loving home! Those children might not even have a chance if it were not for this family. God obviously gave this family an amazing gift.

Anthony275 replied: i meant to say that there's more stress with everything- special diets, medication god knows howe many times a day, and cleaning up affter everybody

holley79 replied: Things can get misconstrud online sweetie.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I think that's pretty obvious there will be more stress with it, but I think there are people who are gifted and equipped to handle it. Everyone handles different kinds of stressors in a different way. Things that I can handle, may not be what others could handle, and visa versa.

Kentuckychick replied:
I don't think you can look down on a situation like that... you just have to look at the situation and pray for that family, for strength, guidance and a whole lot of patience.

I do think it's sad that we live in a world where one family HAS to adopt 27 disabled children... I mean I'm not putting down anyone who marks "non-disabled" on their adoption form (because honestly it takes a special type of person) but I just wish we had more of that type of person.

I have seen this family and they do handle it amazingly. With disabilities life is completely and utterly unpredictable. There are some disabilities that make having a routine and schedule nearly impossible and others that make it almost a necessity. I could honestly see a child with a disability throwing the Duggar household into complete shambles. It would be interesting to see (though I would never wish that upon them) how they would handle a disabled child.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
ITA

Calimama replied: That's amazing.