Oppinions:(

mummy2girls wrote: yes im asking for honest ones. This could be just a hormonal thing but I talked it over with marcus and he sees it the same way. He is going to deal with it for sure not me as this concerns his sister!

Yesterday I booked the day off for my doc app't and because jenna had the day off from school i wanted to have a jenna and mommy day. I had Marcus's sister come with me( she offered too) so she can stay in the waiting room while i get my "exam". After the app we went to see marcus's mom at work and chatted for a bit. Then off to McDonald for Lunch.. this is where it gets odd...

My SIL had 3 hours sleep because after work she went out with her friends from work to a club. So she got to bed at 330am and then the kids woke up at 630am. She ordered mcdonalds for everyone( a treat for us for taking care of her kids so much). she sits down and hands jenna her happy meal and then her daughter her happy meal and her other daughter her happy meal. Then jenna wanted her chocolate milk. so nicely jenna says Aunty can i please have my drink? She turns to jen and says YES JENNA give me a sec... in a snotty tone. Jenna didn't know how to respond so she hangs her head and says yes aunty. Then i was looking at the cd they got in thier happy meal and jenna said to me for the 5th time can i see it mom. So my SIL grabs it from my hand and says nope now its mine. OK if it was me i would of said jenna you asked too many times after i told you to wait so you will have to wait until we get into the van before you get it. But instead my SIL says to jenna... I bought lunch so i get it. Jenna says are you kidding aunty? she says NOPE its mine. Then she says Oh look jenna i have one for my truck and now for my house as she is holing up jennas cd. at this point jennas face dropped. She got up and went to get a cloth and jenna started to cry. I whispered huney aunty is just being funny, she is not in a good mood as she already told you, dont worry you will get it back. Then my SIL comes back to the table and jenna says.. aunty? no answer... Aunty? still no answer. Aunty im talking to you. JENNA i heard you i have ears that work fine! jenna didnt know what to say. Then jenna says are you really keeping my cd? she says YES I AM! I turned to her and said Jenna cried when you left. She did? AWWWWW I didnt mean that to happen! Aunty im sorry. i appreciate that jenna but still your not getting the cd im taking it home. As we were walking out she hands me the cd without jenna seeing so when she saw her go towards her truck jenna got upset and started to cry saying aunty has my cd. I looked at jenna and said huney i have it. The whole ordeal was horrible. It broke my heart ... I told my SIL i didnt appreciate that at all what happened. She said well thats what i do with chloe.. if she keeps asking over and over i take it away. I said yes i do too but i dont rub it in her face when i take away. and thats what you did to jenna. Thats fine if you take it away from her but to tell her its yours now and not getting it back thats mean. i just take it away and say you will get at this time etc etc etc. not oh look what i have now, nope you dont get it, nope its mine!!!! I was so mad! She then picked marcus up from work later and told him she had jenna crying because she took something away. When i told him what truely happened he got mad! he said im going to talk to her, she was bullying jenna and i will not tolerate that!

So am i hormonal or do you see what she did as someone who is 31 picking on a 6 year old. They offered to take jenna while we go for my NST tonight but after what happened and what im feeling i want jenna with me:) I still cant get that mental pic out of my head!

Boo&BugsMom replied: First of all, I would have gotten mad at her just taking the CD away. I do not think it's apporpriate for people to discpline other people's children when their parents are right there to do it...UNLESS it's a horrible unruly child whose parent is clueless and wont say anything...which is not the case here. I think she was over the line and I think she was acting like a child herself!!! She had no right to even take the CD from her, and she had no right to taunt her with it. She is YOUR child, not hers!!!

No, it's not hormones at all...it would have taken everything I have to not slap her upside the head!

mummy2girls replied:
oh i know. Thats what i said to marcus. its diff if she was alone with jenna then yes discipline her but with me right there... I was not happy. If i did that to her children in from of her man heads would of flown! We do need to sit down with her and talk to her because she has been doing this alot lately. Like for easter after dinner she says who wants sundeas.. jenna and her oldest one comes running I DO I DO!!!! She then says no jenna you didnt eat all your dinner so you dont get any same with you CH****( her daughter) ..excuse me.. thats my daughter if i want her to have dessert i will. Plus at dinner jenna ate 3 quarters of her dinner and i told her she could have dessert if she has more furit and veggies which she did. I dont force meat on my child if she doesnt want it because i give her protien in other ways. As long as she eats the other healthy food so be it. BUT nope she didnt agree... So i think its time over due for a talk!

Insanemomof3 replied: I would have been very angry. I don't think its just your hormones. I would have felt the same way, poor Jenna.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Oooooooooo, she so would have gotten a huge head rollin' from me! That stuff is NOT cool. She needs to worry about her own kids and not yours. Geesh. What a piece of work.

mummy2girls replied:
and i think her kids will rebel on her because of how she is with them. My thing is if jenna wants to play with toys and have them strewn all over the house so be it as long as she cleans up... She says to her daughter nope we can only play with this and thats it. Very controlling in many ways and her daughter is very disobideint. She is always says C**** ( her oldest) that is P**** ( her youngest) give it back. OHHHH P**** your so cute. so she is enforcing negative attention to her oldest while being nice and sweet to her youngest! everyone sees it!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Wow, that's super childish. That's going to cause resentment towards the two siblings sooner or later too. Also, doesn't she realize she is acting like a child when she acts like that???? If she doesn't allow her kids to act like that then she should be leading by a better example! Ugh.

julesmom replied: I would be very annoyed. You are correct, not just hormonal.

She sounds jealous to me!

mummy2girls replied:
jealous?

moped replied: Shelly, you are not hormonal about this, she was wrong and the whole thing was wrong.

A&A'smommy replied: wow i would have been mad too

julesmom replied:
Jealous that your dd is so well behaved and polite and hers aren't?

cameragirl21 replied: wow, Shelly, that's terrible, I'm sorry you and Jenna went through that. I definitely think your SIL is way in the wrong here BUT had I been in your place I think I would have handled it differently.
This is jmo so take it for what it's worth but I feel you should have intervened on your daughter's behalf...just because your SIL was buying lunch does NOT mean she gets to control what happens at the meal. I don't think talking to her alone will solve anything so I think you should intervene when something like this happens to drive the point home that you will not tolerate her treating your daughter this way.
Had it been me, I would have said to her, right out in the open, in front of the kids, "(SIL's name), are you really going to take that from Jenna...are you REALLY going to take a toy away from a six year old, do you really want that CD that badly?" I bet challenging her in front of her kids would do the trick to embarrass her enough to put an end to this.
But if she insisted, I'd say, "Fine, come on, Jenna, let's go get you another one." And I'd take Jenna up to the McD's counter and explain to the teenager who works there that your SIL just took your child's toy away and she is so selfish that she won't give it back and would it be possible for you to pay for another one. And I'm 100% sure they'd give you another one free and that should sufficiently drive the point home to your SIL that you won't tolerate this. If you sit by and let it happen she'll keep doing it, I guarantee it.
Again, I may be wrong and too aggressive but I don't tolerate that kind of cr@p being doled out on kids, be they mine or someone else's. If I saw here treating another kid that way, that wasn't mine, I'd do the same thing, as long as the kid wasn't hers, obviously. I know you don't like conflict but imo people like that need to be put in their place and the kids need to see that it's wrong too or they'll think it's ok to be treated that way and to treat others that way.
Again, jmo.

Calimama replied: Wow, what a jerk. We would have left. My SIL can treat ME anyway she wants.. my kid.. not so much.

aspenblue1 replied: How sad. I would have been livid and probably told my SIL off.