Ok here goes...

holley79 wrote: We have a day position that is coming open here at work. After the past couple of weeks of being lathargic and not the "mommy" of the year to Annika, I am debating on whether to take a day position or not. I have spoken with a friend of mine that is a SAHM not far from the SO. I would still pay her but also keep her two boys now and again to kind of offset the cost.

The reasons:

I will be home in the evenings for bedtime.
When she is old enough, we can have sit down dinners as a family.
I can get back in the gym, get my energy up and hopefully be a healthier mom for her.
Shawn and I can actually spend some "quality" time together instead of my always being tired on my days off.
I would have weekends and holidays off. (Big thing for me)

Are these reasons enough? I totally trust my friend with my daughter. I wouldn't do it other wise.

I think this was actually just me putting things on "paper" to help convince myself that this is what is best for not only me but for Annika. I think I'm losing my mind.
Ok enough, thanks for listening.

luvmykids replied: Oh Holley go for it!!

I'm amazed at how you've done such a great job as a mom working a night shift and I think you could continue to do it, but the thought of all the things you mentioned sounds so great! You could actually have a "normal" life! (no offense!)

KUP but I say grab it!!!

MyLuvBugs replied: ITA! It sounds like this is really the best for you and baby girl. And maybe the tiredness has been one of the things causing probs with breast feeding? Who knows, but it does sound like it would be the best thing for you. KUP!!

~~*Missi*~~ replied: I honestly think those are the BEST reasons. I am very big on family dinners and spending quality time (kids and no kids) with DH. Plus you included things for yourself going to the gym not only is time for just you with no distractions (well sweat) but time for you to work on being a healthier you.. I think you have very good reasons for it. I know that just from your reasons I would take it if I was being offered it...

All new moms get tired and think they aren't being "great" mommies when rest assured you are doing the best and MOMMY OF THE YEAR YOU ARE! don't understand estimate yourself your a great momma. BF and being a new parent is hard. It takes time, shoot at 18m I still have days where I think I can't get out of bed 10 more minutes please.... I get up and get to running after Sabrina and it all goes away..

I would vote for you for mommy of the year. Because your reason include YOU, ANNIKA and DH... That is MOTHER of the year and wife. You thought of everyone involved not just things for you or one of them...
Missi

C&K*s Mommie replied: For the QT with the family and DH, that alone would convince me to go for it!
But the other reasons sound fabulous, too. Nights and weekends & holidays off, bigger plusses. I would say go for it.



ETA: If you take that position, and you become adjusted to the new schedule, one day we could meet for lunch or something in the future.

A&A'smommy replied: oh hun I think that sounds awesome and you would be MUCH happier!!!!

holley79 replied:
Thank you Missi that is really sweet of you.

Thank you everyone for listening to me. I am going to keep my fingers crossed that I can get it. If I don't get this position then there will be others opening.

I have to do what is best for my , DH and myself.

You guys are the GREATEST

Nina J replied: I would go for it, it sounds like a great oppourtunity

amynicole21 replied: Oh yea, sounds like a much better situation! Go for it!

JAYMESMOM replied: You have denitely thought of all the right reasons to go for it. You are a great mother and this will just help make you greater.

Prayers that everything works out.

3xsthefun replied: I agree with the others, I say go for it!

BAC'sMom replied: Go for it and good luck

coasterqueen replied: I can't remember Holley but right now you and DH are on different schedules right so one is always home with Annika? IMO I think you should take it. I think it's much healthier for a family, especially one where both partners have to work anyways, for both to work during the day so both of you can spend quality time with the family in the evening/weekends, etc. I don't think I could ever work opposite shifts of my husband just so our children has one parent home with them always. It just wouldn't be healthy for our family. I LOVE that we all sit down to dinner together and would never have it any other way. My mom and dad both worked during the day but my dad worked very late and we either ate very late to sit down to dinner with him or we ate before he got home. Just didn't seem like a family to me that way. Maybe that's why I was never really close to my dad, I felt like I barely saw him.

I'll stop rambling now. I say go for it! Annika WILL be ok, trust me

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Holley, you have been burning the candle at both ends. Of course you've been short tempered and miss you husband. I say go for it. Day positions are best for most families.

moped replied: I really hop eyou get it - I think it owuld be so much better for you and your family. I am still amazed that you guys have to go back to work so early after having babies..........

ashtonsmama replied: to all of the above. I would go for it, heck no would I be able to work nights like you...you amaze me!
Good luck, do KUP!

CantWait replied: Sounds like you've made up your mind. Good Luck, I'm sure this is what's going to best for you guys for sure.