Oh well, she didn't make it

toady_buckshot_noodle wrote: Tori didn't make the cheerleading squad. She is very sad. She truly doesn't understand. They had 26 girls there. They picked 15. The 12 that cheered for footbal were picked (of course)and 3 others. She said she did not miss a step in the "try-out" routine and did not mess up once. (she would say so if she did) There were girls who admitted they messed up but they made it anyway.

From what we were told they DID NOT HAVE A UNIFORM TO FIT HER.!!! She wears like a junior's 13. All the girls that were picked are skinny. I am furious!!! How can a school do that to a child??? I mean, geeez, she is not FAT and they make cheerleader uniforms every day of the week.

I feel like they are telling her she is not good enough because of her size. She is in the "popular group" and make straight A's, I mean 3 100's on her report card!! But this was a major blow to her ego.

If you here of an irrate mom suing a small town in SC school district you'll know it is me!!!

I feel like I'm caught in a bad 80's movie.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am sorry that she did not make it. IF it is a 'size' issue then I would be very angry as well! But one thing for her to remember is that there are 10 other girls besides her that did not make it...It is a hard lesson that we don't always get what we want even when we work hard for it! She shouldn't let it get her down she sounds so smart and has a ton more to offer-focus on that and there will be something out there that she will excel at as her own wonderful person!

mckayleesmom replied: Sorry for her....I think it is just as rude to assume she didn't make it because of her size as it is if they didn't pick her because of that reason. I really hope you are not thinking about sueing. Remember...there were other girls that didn't make it too. I would just start pointing out some of the reasons why not making the squad is probably for the best...grades, time consumption, etc. I think the best thing here would be to step aside and let her deal with this on her own...you can't fix everything...kwim?

mckayleesmom replied: Did her friends make it?

MommyToAshley replied: Aweee, I'm sorry. It's got to be tough to watch your daughter go through this and not make it. (I am not looking forward to those days) I can only imagine how much she wanted to make it. But, the best thing you can do is to be there for her. I'd let her know it's ok to feel the way she does. And, reassure her that there is nothing wrong with the way she looks. If that's the reason she didn't make it... that's plain wrong. I'd encourage her not to give up, are there any other sports or hobbies she is interested in the meantime?

CosmetologyMommy replied:
as much as society makes it not to be, size is everything. i am a big girl and always have been and i love the same stuff skinny people like. i am sure ur daughter does too. and size 13 is perfect size if u ask me. i was that size b4 my son was born...............

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sorry she didnt make and it sounds like all the wrong reasons not to be picked.
Erin is trying out for cheerleading and the coach asked her if she was going to drop 3 to 4 pounds Erin looked at her like she had 9 heads and laughed Erin only weights 103 lbs.

CantWait replied: I'm sorry she didn't make it. Probably for the best if that's the only reason.

toady_buckshot_noodle replied: Mckayleesmom:

Yes, her friends made it. One of them was the biggest one picked, she wears about a 9.

I am not ASSUMING that her size is the reason. That is what we were told. No, I am not thinking of suing.

But honestly, how would you feel if your daughter was shunned because they did not have a uniform to fit her???

gr33n3y3z replied:
I would hurt so bad in side if it were my daughter
But I do hurt everyday inside for my daughter.
and to see the hurt in your child is 100x worse in you as the parent

mckayleesmom replied:
I would be hurt, but I wouldn't let her know that. I would dust her off and remind her that an organization that discrimintates against anyone is not one that she wants to be apart of, nor do I want her to be apart of. Just try to get her interested in another activity instead. I find it horrible that they would tell the girls that. When I was in high school we had a few heavier cheerleaders....one probably wore a size 18 or so...and she did a great job.

jcc64 replied: I'm sorry for your dd. I have a 13yo ds who is in the midst of trying out for the school basketball team. He made the 1st round of cuts, but I'm pretty certain he will eventually be cut, also for size reasons, although different ones. He is a phenomenal athlete and in great shape, but he is not tall- obviously a liability in basketball. It's hard to watch him go out there everyday and kill himself trying and know it probably won't work out for him in the end, but on the other side of the coin, there are some painful, but valuable life skills to be learned as well. As my high school coach once said- it's easy to be a winner- your true character comes out when things aren't going your way. Remind your dd of that, and try to keep your own bitterness under the surface as much as possible, for her sake. You don't want her to adopt a powerless, victim mentality. I believe that is what McKaylee's mom was trying to say. Good luck and hugs, god, this age is a mine field, isn't it?

toady_buckshot_noodle replied: Good points everyone and she is handling it well. She's still doing the cheers at home!! Nothing gets her down for long.

jcc64 replied: Good for her! Sounds like she's already developing some great coping skills. Maybe this will be an opportunity for her to find her true calling. Besides, cheerleading is really not a whole lot more than standing on the sidelines, cheering the accomplishments of others. Tell her to go out and accomplish something herself.

MM'sMama replied: OH honey I am so sorry big hugs to her

ITA with Lisa on that

SO glad to hear she is not letting it get her to down. That was so RUDE on there part and that is just plain WRONG that really makes me wonder and people and schools for that matter!

So sorry

mom21kid2dogs replied:
WoW!! Did you post bring up all kinds of painful memories for me! I made the 9th grade cheerleading squad CONDITIONALLY because they . . ., yes, you guessed it . . .didn't have a uniform to fit me. I was a size 12. I lost 30lbs (per my "condition") during that summer and actually cheered football season. I suffered a severe knee injury during basketball season and left the squad. My only solace about the whole thing was that those 4.5 months were pure torture for me. I hated ever minute of it, mostly because of the girls who also made it. They were nasty, awful people. Chin up, Tori~things are not always what they seem!

toady_buckshot_noodle replied: Oh, I forgot to mention that the coaches are mothers to two of the girls that made it. They volunteer and have NO other affiliation to the school. They are not employeed there or anything. Just thought it was interesting.

Tori's okay now, she says she just wanted something to do this term. She played tennis last term and is trying out for softball next term. She sys she didn't want to be "bored". BORED!!! She is in honors classes with all A's!! On the go constantly with friends and worried about being bored!!! Gotta LOVE her!! (Now if I could only use my own telephone I would be okay!!)