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Oh my I can't believe what just happened - I am floored and it ain't good


TANNER'S MOM wrote: Well Tanner wanted to spend the night with MIL last night. So, I let him. He hasn't seen her in a while and we don't have the best relationship.

Well I guess when my SIL found out Tanner was there, she sent her little boy over to play and stay the night too.

Her little boy is not very well mannered at all. He is on of those that you gringe and wonder what is gonna get broken when you see them coming. Hide the good stuff. He has a really bad potty mouth too!

Well I called Tanner more than once to check on him durning the day. And then the last time.. It sounded like the cordless phone was dying I didn't think anything of it.

About 15 minutes later Tanner called me. He said Mom I am in Grandpa's room. Which is in the very back corner of the house. He said Colton threw a football and broke the other phone. Then he got real quite. I could hear my MIL in the living room of the house..screaming at the top of her lungs. Using every cuss word I know..cussing the kids. I mean every word I know. I was floored. I said Tanner whats going on.. he said she is mad. I said I am coming after you.

Ain't no body cussing my baby like that..ever. So I leave work and I get over there and she is all calm and asking me why I came. I said I heard you the phone. She said she was mad at Colton cause he broke the phone. I said they deserve discipline then do that.. but don't cuss my son.

In 8 years of marriage I have never heard her use hardly a bad word.. That is why I am shocked.

Tanner said she was yelling at him.. what did you tell your Mom..what did you tell her. And he wouldn't say nothing.. I guess that made her mad too.

Oo the thing I guess that sat her off was.. She told Colton she was gonna call his Mom. And he said I don't care go ahead.. My dad says your a blabber mouth anyway!

And then it hit the fan. Which that was very disrespectful of Colton. But he is a kid..and she is an adult. Yes he needed punished. But that kind of language is not fit for a dog, let alone a child.

I am just floored..needless to say, Tanner won't be going there again.

Anyone know any good babysitters for Springbreak..lol

C&K*s Mommie replied: ohmy.gif ohmy.gif ohmy.gif reminds me of Super Nanny last night, when the overworked and overstressed mother took it out on the kids, when she finally gave them supervision and attention. She cussed at them so much, one of the younger kids (she was 2 I think) used it as her favorite word when she did not like someone. I was floored, to say the least!!

I hope Tanner will understand next time you are reluctant to let him go over there.

Nina J replied: Wow, I would've been scared if I were Tanner. ohmy.gif

Boys r us replied: OMG!!!! I would have been livid!!!! I think that a grown up cursing at a child is HORRIBLE!!!! NEVER an excuse for it..ever!
Much less if it were MY KID! you're a better woman than me Mel!!!

Bee_Kay replied: Wow! What a witch.
Now you know what she is like when she thinks nobody can hear her!! Scary!

luvbug00 replied: poor tanner he must have been scared wittless!!

ediep replied: oh no! Poor Tanner, that must have been upsetting for him!!
I would have done the same thing if I were you!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
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LoganAndAubreesMommy replied: Boy, do I know how you feel! I don't trust my MIL so I NEVER let my dd go there and don't plan on allowing my son to go either. She doesn't understand why I don't want my kids to be around cigarette smoke so just that is enough. My SIL told me that "Her mom just doesn't understand why it's such a big deal for Aubree to be around smoke." SHE doesn't smoke but her husband does (dh's step-dad). She will NOT ask him not to smoke in the house while the baby's there. They think it's "stupid". (Keep in mind that MIL is very closed minded, ignorant and not very educated.) We don't go over there at all. I'm not subjecting my child to that. She's also lied to me before about not being sick when she really was just to see my daughter. She's really a good person but she so selfish and inconsiderate. Any tips on how to deal with pesty MILs?

ilovemybaby replied: Oh my. Well I would never let her see him again. But that's just me...

My MIL doesn't see Abby anymore. Last time we were there she had all sorts of stuff just lying around on the coffee table and dining table. Abby picked up a hat pin off the dining table, small coins and a clip and half an Asprin (medication) off the coffee table. And then when we mentioned it to SIL in an email and she told MIL my MIL said "she shouldn't touch, she should know not to touch". She is 22 months old. Then she said she would let her get cut up by their fan to make a point to her. So Paul and I said she is NEVER seeing her again.

Yay no more MIL!

My3LilMonkeys replied: Poor Tanner!! Good for him that he called you!

A&A'smommy replied: WOW I would be pretty dang mad there is NO need for anyone to cuss at a child!!! ohmy.gif

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Oh poor Tanner! Sorry you have to deal with that Mel, especially when it's your MIL and she's family. Can DH have a long talk with her? I would be so mad too.

mommymonster replied: Poor little guy! hug.gif I would not put up with that kind of behavior from an adult to a child. You did the right thing buy going to pick him up. thumb.gif

redchief replied: For the record, and I already know you don't need me to tell you this... Mel, you did absolutely the right thing. Deal with your MIL when both of you have had a chance to settle down. Sorry you had such a stressful day. sad.gif

~~*Missi*~~ replied: wow i know i talk like a truck driver sometimes but never to my kid or ESPECIALLY someone elses!

WOW sorry !!
babysitters no except grandparents lol its all we use.

luvmykids replied: Geez, I'm proud of you for not hauling off and smacking her upside the empty head on her shoulders ... not that it would be good behavior but I don't know if I could help myself on that one. Poor Tanner, of all the sweet boys ... hug.gif

1lilpeanut2love replied: I am so sorry to hear that!! Poor little Tanner!! Mean ole MIL!! URGGH!!

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm glad you went to get Tanner he didnt deserve that nor did the other kid

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well Dh did call his mother in law..he asked her what in the world was going on. She said that Colton had been pushing her all day. He had been smart mouthing and acting awful. He even took a bottle of some kind..and found a hammer..and busted glass all over her couch while she was in the restroom. She said that she had called his Mom over and over and she still hadn't came after him, he is still there BTW. And that she finally lost it. She did say she was sorry to Tanner and she cried.

I am tellign you I have been married to Randy for 8 years and I have never heard her cussing. That is why I am so shocked.

Randy told her that he understood that Colton was out of hand, which he is. But no child deserves that. And not to ever cuss our children again..which she cried some more.

He also told her that when Tanner calls us, not to give him the 3rd degree about what he says and not to play that.. don't tell your Momma thing. I explained to Tanner, if someone says Don't Tell.. first thing you do is tell. I told him how proud I was of him to call me at work when he didn't feel comfortable. I was so glad he remembered the number.

Aww it was a long night!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif I"m glad Randy spoke with his mother. That poor woman must have been at her wits end. sleep.gif I hope they pick up Colton soon so she can rest.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: growl.gif I am still mad and sad for Tanner's sake! That probably broke trust issues with his Grandma that may never return! He did the smartest thing when he called you and you know that means how much he trusts that his momma is going to be there for him NO MATTER WHAT!!! hug.gif I am sorry that it all happened. And just an aside-I am glad she said she was sorry and I understand how Colton was driving her nuts BUT doesn't it irk you that she cried? emlaugh.gif smash.gif My MIL used to do that and I always was left wondering(just the smallest bit) how much of it was genuine and how much of it was to get out of whatever it was that she had done to upset us! dry.gif emlaugh.gif I am awful, I know! What a big pain in the rear it all is! wink.gif hug.gif

Bee_Kay replied: You know.... My mind keeps going to one thing in particular about what happened....

Did it cross her mind to bring Colton home if he was behaving so badly??


jem0622 replied: I am so sorry this happen but grateful you could witness it over the phone and act accordingly.

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DVFlyer replied: It's nice to see two people acting like mature adults in this situation..... Mel AND Tanner. smile.gif Tanner's actions speak well about his trust in Mom. smile.gif thumb.gif

TANNER'S MOM replied:
Aww thanks DV..

it really does make me feel good that he listened and he called me when he needed too.

All those endless house of repeating my work number and extentsion paid off!

DVFlyer replied:
I thought it was the beatings....... wink.gif


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