Oh baby! oh baby!

wcs40110 wrote: I don't understand how anyone can really PLAN a kid. Dakota's 15 months and I'm already wondering when the heck to start at the second one. I really don't want the lil ones too far apart but theres sooo much to think about... like how I just got my body back, OOhh lala!

I'm in no hurry but wondering if anyone else has had this issue.

Calimama replied: YES YES YES YES YES. I feel like if I wait TOO long it'll be harder, but then I also think that I'm ONLY 20.. I don't want to have another one soon. But then DH is 27 this year and he's so ready. I don't know, I'm in a similar boat that you are.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: I want another almost immediately after I have one! I've been wanting #7 for the past, oh, year or so. Abby just turned 1, and I still haven't had a period yet . When she returns, I'll probably get pregnant again soon after that.

luvbug00 replied: mya is 7 I wanted another 6 years ago...ahhh alas maybe this year.. ( more like better be this year)

lisar replied: Right after I had Lexi I swore I wasnt having anymore. It took me about 4 years and then thats when I wanted another so I got Raygen.

Mommy2Isabella replied: We knew we wanted our kids close together .... when our daughter was about 8 months we started trying for number 2

PrairieMom replied: I want mine 3 years apart. I have it planned right down to the month I need to start trying.

A&A'smommy replied: I wanted another one for a LONG time but then we weren't financially stable enough to have another baby. Then when we were I got my body back (yeah it took two years!!!) made a BUNCH of friends and partied a little bit (because yeah I was 17 when i got pg and married) but just a little bit we also had fun with alyssa and wanted to spend as much time as we could with her. THEN last summer one of my VERY good friends got pregnant and I got MAJOR baby fever and so did dh so we tried and here I am 5months pg and looking for to it being over

5littleladies replied: I think it's really hard to decide when you want #2 because it is really a personal preference as to how far apart works best for you. My first two are 19 months apart and I love how close they are in age. Our 2nd, 3rd and 4th are all about 3 years apart and I don't care for it. I was hoping to avoid that length of spacing again for my next but sometimes our plans don't work the way we hope. Other people I know prefer that large spacing between kids. There are pros and cons either way. That was totally not helpful was it?

wcs40110 replied: Ya see, Dakota has a half brother who is 6 years older than her and they will probibly never be close cuz he lives in ark and were in Mi. Growing up i had a bro 8 years older than me, a sister 6 years younger and a bro 8 years younger. I always said I didn't want them too far apart so I'm thinking no more than 3 years, so i have to start trying like... in a year. (dakotas 15 months, 9 months for bein preggie...) I guess a lot can happen in a year so that could work. Right now I just got gone breastfeeding like 3 months ago so I'm enjoying some freedom, going to school, but in a year I'm sure I'll have enjoyed my freedom and should be about 6 months into a new job so that sounds reasonable. You guys all make me feel better. I want another but thinking of staying up all night agian SUCKS!

PrairieMom replied: The things that I thought about were daily life things, like, #1 needs to be old enough to walk beside the grocery cart so #2 can ride. ANd #1 needs to be able to walk in a parking lot so I can carry #2.
I also planned mine so I would have them late spring / early summer so we would be as far away from cold and flu season as possible. If my baby is going to get RSV I would rather they were 9 months old than 6 weeks old. KWIM?

I also wanted their birthdays to be close together, because we live so far away from extended family, I wanted them to be able to be here to celebrate everyone's special day. Ben was the 14th, and Al's is the 31. If (IF ) we have another I want to shoot for May 1, so they are all 2 weeks apart.
I know that most can't plan like that, I am really blessed that so far it has worked out for us.

HuskerMom replied: We always knew we wanted at least 2 kids so after Keith was born it was easy to decide to start trying again after a while. But now we're not sure if we want a 3rd. If we do we want them to be close in age since Keith and this baby will be close in age. We do know that after we're 30 we don't want to have any more kids so that's about 3 years away for Dh.

Before we had any kids I thought I wanted 4 but now I'm not so sure I want 3. But I'm also afraid that we'll decide not to have a 3rd and then change our minds when it's too late and regret the decision, kwim?

It's so hard to decide!