OMG (vent) - How could this have happened?

Mommy2Be wrote: Okay so today I had my first prenatal appointment and the doctor said she wanted to due an ultrasound because I am already starting to show and at 8 weeks this isn't normal (duh lady even I knew that). Okay so I had my ultrasound and she said I am almost 13 weeks and that my due date is 06/24/2005. Then she proceeded to basically call me stupid for not realizing I was pregnant sooner. First of all I had my AF in October and it seemed completely normal so no I didn't realize until the fallowing month. I had no symptoms until mid November etc etc. So Tyler and I and we told the doctor from the get go that 8 weeks was only our guess. Then she went on to tell me about how if I did anything I shouldn't have been doing during the first month something might be wrong with my baby and pretty much that I was a bad mother and stuff (wtf what does she mean by somethign I shouldn't be doing?). Why is this doctor making me feel so stupid? I was in tears by the time we left the office and I am never going to go back there again I'll find someone else . How could I not have known I was pregnant sooner? I feel so stupid.

Sorry again for the long complaint I am just so MAD about all of this.

mammag replied: Don't feel bad. I just had my fourth and I didn't know right away. Frankly, I just didn't keep track of my cycle like I should and I couldn't think of when the last time I started was. I think you are right to not go back to that doctor. Unless you were on drugs or something of that nature, I would seriously doubt you did anything that would harm your baby. Try not to stress out about it. Find yourself a doctor who is more sensitive. You'll be fine.

Boys r us replied: OMG honey! I can't believe she treated you like that! Definitely get another doctor!
As for not knowing you were pg..Let's see, you had your period, you weren't nausiated...How exactly were you to know?
Hun..don't stress over what you can't change! Your baby will be fine!

gr33n3y3z replied: I would find another Dr
what right did she have talking to you like that.
Do they realize how many woman have AF during.
Dont feel bad nor think you are a bad person how were you to know

aspenblue1 replied: I would definately find a new doctor! That is just rude. I didn't know my exact date of my last af when I got pregnant. I wouldn't worry about it.

Sunflower04 replied: Wow- people really do know how to ruin a good moment. I was 10 weeks pregnant with my son when I found out so it seems like it is a common thing. I would go look for another dtr too.

Linda211 replied: OMG is she rude.
And as for not knowing. My cousin's girlfriend. Got her af all nine months. Only gained a little weight and never knew she was pregnant. She went to the doctors one day because she was having back pain and they told her she was in labor. Needless to say everyone was shocked. So I wouldn't worry about it. lol atleast you knew before the baby was born.

kit_kats_mom replied: Well now, that's just rude. What a twit she was. Go find a new ob.

I have sporadic cycles and was just getting my cycles back after BFding for a year and a half. I was nursing my DD one night when I realized that, hmmmmmm it's been awhile since I've had a period. I checked the calendar and it had been 45 days. I went and bought a test and yep, I was pregnant.

It's not your fault. If you weren't trying, and you had bleeding, anyone in their right mind would figure it was just a normal cycle.

My2Beauties replied: OMG how rude is that I would find another doctor, how are you supposed to know if you got AF and you weren't having any PG symptoms. Don't let that doctor stress you out hon, you're just fine and you are not a bad mother! I was 5-6 weeks when I found out with Hanna and about 3 weeks before that I had went out to a bar and drank a few beers, my doctor said no big deal as long as I dont drink anymore, she didn't treat me that way at all, how are you supposed to know KWIM? Don't worry about that stupid doc!

amynicole21 replied: What a wench! I'm glad you've decided to find someone else. I think it's really common that women don't know right away, especially if you have a regular cycle! Grrrrrrrrrr.

MomToMany replied: I'm so sorry she said that to you! That would upset ANY woman! I know there have been times when I didn't know when my last cycle started. I found out with Ethan at 10 weeks.

Find a new one ASAP!

A&A'smommy replied: OMG what a horrible docter!!!!! You shouldnt feel bad about that it is NOT your fault some people don't even know there pregnant until in their late second semester!!! I'm sorry but I would SOO change docters!!!! ((((BIG HUGS)))) your not a horrible person!

DansMom replied: I had a period too, which really threw me off. Get another OB. And TONS of women don't know they're pregnant and don't take prenatals and smoke some cigarettes or drink some wine in that first month or two, and then have super healthy babies. Unless you're in some high-risk group (drug user/alcoholic), that doctor is irresponsible to frighten you like that---get another doctor, definitely. You don't want to spent the next seven months, uh six months that is, dealing with this person.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I'm glad you're not going back to that doctor!! I have a friend who didn't find out she was pregnant until she was 6 months along - she'd just had her tubes tied and apparently it didn't work.
And hey ~ at 8 weeks I would have LOVED to find out I was really 13 weeks!

Kaitlin'smom replied: yep deffinalty find another doctor. they have no right to treat you like that. When i went for my first visite I was so much further than I ever imagimed. I had reg period through July and missed aug so in sept when I tested and it came up positive I figured I was only a few weeks not 25-26 and into the third trimester talk about feeling horrible I was so worried about everything and getting very little time to pre-pair. so you are not alone in not kowing early

moped replied: OH DEAR

You need to find a doctor that you are happy and comfortable to talk to - not this doctor!!!!!!!!!

smullin replied: That is horrible. If a doctor is like that towards that then imagine what she is going to do if you do something you didn't know you couldn't do. Go somewhere else. Don't give her the money by continuing to go to her. I had a bad experience if my past ob when I lost my last baby and I would never think of even going back. I did things the first money I didn't know and the ob told me to not worry about it. (I had gone to the bar the week before I found out).

Sarah

Josie83 replied: Oh my god, how dare she treat you like that?! Fliping rude. the body is such a weird thing, how is anyone supposed to know what its doing. How dare she treat you like an idiot, that's the last thing that you are. So many women don't know that they're pregnant, it does not make them a bad person or a bad mother. Your baby will be fine! Its that doctor who has to go through life as a fool. So frigging RUDE! xx

Mommy2Be replied: Thank you so much everyone ! I am so glad I am not alone you guys really made me feel better. I couldn't sleep last night and I had been crying off and on thinking I was a bad person and a bad mommy . I mean I don't drink or smoke so to think something could be wrong with my baby and that is was all my fault I just felt so horrible. I did get an appointment with a new doctor someone a good friend of mine is seeing for her pregnancy and she loves her. And yeah woah finding out I am 13 weeks and not 8 was kind of neat I'll admit. Thank you all so much your really our a blessing to have in my life. (big hugs to everyone)

toddzgurl replied: You shouldn't let that stupid doctor get to you because I had my AF for two months before I finally had symptoms of pregnancy. I was like 19 weeks along when I found out and I felt so horrible because I had missed out on alot of stuff and I was doing alot of stupid things before I found out and my baby seems to be really healthy. Well anyways don't worry about it I'm perfectly sure that your baby will be absolutley fine!!!