OMG, did something stupid - HOW DO I CORRECT THIS

CantWait wrote: I CAN'T BELIEVE I DID THIS......
I WROTE A MESSAGE TO WHO I THOUGHT WAS MY HUSBAND THAT READS......

I know you hate her, but I thought I would let you know anyway because I'm sad for her that Brenda does indeed have Cancer.

OMG, BUT THE MESSAGE WENT TO BRENDA............. how the hell am I going to explain that to her???

Oh gosh she wrote me back as I was writting this.....
I assume this wasn't meant for me???

Bamamom replied: I would explain that while she isn't your DH favorite person that doesn't have anything to do with your friendship and that you hope this incident won't affect it either.

Don't know how well it will help smooth things over but it would at least be a start. HTH!!!

mckayleesmom replied: Just say that NO..it wasn't meant for her, but you would rather not say who it was to. Just tell her your sorry that she had to see that, but you love her and wanted to put someone in their place as far as respecting your friendship goes.

mammag replied:
I like that one!

Nina J replied: I agree with Brianne.

I know I would be mortified if I were you, but you didn't say you hated Brenda. I think she will be able to see you love and care for her.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: O crap! I would tell her that you are sorry-I don't really think anything else will help

sparkys2boys replied: Oh Marie, that's a tough spot. I would explain plain and simple that it was not meant for her to see but no matter who likes her or not that you do and that's what matters it may take some time but I am sure she will understand.

gr33n3y3z replied:
I agree with Abbie
I think honesty is the best way to go
Dont make up lame excuses you can tell those

CantWait replied: Well she was mad, rightfully so, and demanded to know, sent me numerous messages on facebook, msn, and text on my cell wanting to know who it was. Even went so far as to ask me if it was actually me cause she had that sense that I hated her or didn't like her I was shocked seeing on how I've been by her side since being back home keeping her spirits up the last couple weeks. I wrote her back asking if what I was reading was correct in that she actually was implying that I hated or disliked her, and she wrote back saying that not to worry about it, she was over it and had other things to worry about. I have to say I'm a little hurt not. I did not intentially write that message to her, but I have the feeling she wanted to give it back to me in spite.

sparkys2boys replied: I can see in her given situation that she may have reacted in a negative way and ya know... I would understand it. Stress like what she must be under can do major things to a person. I would just try and not let her comments hurt to much and just continue to be there for her as she obviously seems like a good friend to you

CantWait replied:
I don't know if getting nasty is excusabe. Wanting answers maybe, but being mean, NO! Now she's putting words in my mouth. We lost contact for quite a many years, and I'm beginning to see why that is. She hasn't changed much at all.

sparkys2boys replied:
Oh that's to bad Marie, hope you guys can work through it or move on and not harbour nasty feelings

A&A'smommy replied: Oh marie I hope you guys can patch it up

My3LilMonkeys replied:
I think feeling like you want to get mean/nasty is an understandable reaction, but actually doing it is not. I hope the two of you can work things out.

Crystalina replied: Marie, I don't know what to say but I just wanted to give you lots of and I hope everything works out in the end.

CantWait replied: Well I told her who it was the message was meant for and she started bad mouthing Ron again(she did this on a previous night as well), so I told her that I expect that if she didn't like my husband, and vice versa then when they are around me out of respect for me they keep their opinions of eachother to themselves, etc.. That I won't choose between my friends and my husband but if I was made to, I would choose my husband, she sent a message saying that she was laughing. Guess I made my choice.

A&A'smommy replied:
yuck I'm sorry to hear that!!!

jacobsmama replied: I am also sorry to hear that...

Nina J replied: I'm sorry, Marie. It was just a misunderstanding but I feel your friend acted in the wrong way; compared to her battle with cancer, this misunderstanding is insignificant.

I guess all you can do is hope that she comes around, and continue to wish her well in her recovery. I think you handled it well, you must be upset and angry but in time you will be grateful that you acted with such dignity.

Try not to let it get you down, you've been the bigger person in this arguement. There is never an excuse for being mean, I think your friend will end up regretting her reaction to such a simple misunderstanding; after all, you can't expect everyone to like you. She seems to dislike Ron so she should understand that not everyone gets along, but it doesn't mean you have to be cruel to people. Its annoying when people can dish it out but can't take it, which is exactly what she is doing. She has bad mouthed your dh but she can't take it when she find out he doesn't think well of her either

DVFlyer replied:
How odd.... why would she be laughing?

Before this, did she already know your husband did not like her?

mckayleesmom replied: I don't know why she is mad at you....you were obviously defending her in your email. She should be happy to have a friend that would tell someone how it was going to be...especially when it turns out the email was towards your husband...kwim?