OMG! She is driving me nuts!

mummy2girls wrote: Jenna is SCREAMING all the time She is driving me wacko! She does it because she knows it gets to me.I calmly say stop screaming and she then just goes to the extreme and says no and screams louder! She started this a while back but it just got worse! HELP! What do i do to stop this annoying loud habbit! I have a headache!

ian'smommy replied: Besides asking her to stop screaming, which makes it worse, do you you respond to it in any other ways? I can go on, once I know... I certainly know how annoying that can be....

mummy2girls replied: i try not to respond because i know with kids if you give them a responce to something bad they just think im getting a reaction so ill keep doing it. I try to ignore but it just makes her scream louder and doesnt stop until i say stop. And i can only handle it to a certain degree. Its very frustrating!

ian'smommy replied: i can certainly understand that... does she just start screaming right out of the blue, or does something prompt it? How old is she? I keep having to be reminded... Bad memory... With my son, I have to tell him when he is calm, that if he screams or throws a fit, it's not going to get what he wants... occasionally I have to do it over his crying... That's hard when not knowing if he can even hear me over it... So I keep saying, look at mommy, until he does... when he does, I say, that isn't working. If he persists, I leave the room... If I have to put him in his room and shut the door and leave, then I do... Children are certainly allowed to be mad, or upset, but they need to know that the way they handle it is not the way it should be done... Yes, I agree that being in the same room with her as she screams and screams is no good... That will only wear on your nerves. My uneducated suggestion is to bring her to another room that she can't get hurt in, and leave her there... Tell her you know she is mad, but she won't get what she wants while she acts that way and tell her to finish her fit by herself. I have had to do that before... It doesn't work right away, but over time she should catch on that her behavior isn't working for her... Hope that helps some... Good luck with that....

mummy2girls replied: IANSMOMMY... (sorry caps was on)...this is where it is frustrating( i should of explined the situation better. My afult it must be from all the screaming...LOL. She just screams for the fun of it. she will be singing the abc's and it will turn into a scream. and then she will see im upset and scream some more. Or we will be sitting in the living room and out of the blue decide she needs to scream! I have put her in her room and explained to her if she feels she needs to scream to do it in here. but she just comes back out and screams... its a little annyoing. When she is mad she doesnt scream. she just throws herself on the ground and whimpers. so she has her emotions all mixed up i guess...LOL.

And now that i think of it i think this comes from ARON. UGH( my ex her dad). He makes this scream noise that so annoying in front of jenna and her cousin skylar , where he screams and then laughs telling them its funny...and now both do it. So i think it stems from arons stupidness in teaching her stuff like that. I need to put her on the phone at 630 in the morning and make her scream in his ear! Maby that will get the idea that he needs to stop! He has taught her other annoying traits. he is one of thses guys that likes to get all the kids all hyped up and crying and then he will get up and leave and leave us to deal with his stupidness!

I just need to ignore jenna when she does it and try to teach her to not scream! Wish me luck!

And she is 2

MommyToAshley replied: If I understand you correctly, she will be talking and just end up screaming instead of talking? Since she isn't screaming when she is mad or upset, that makes it a little tougher. Hmmmm... Have you tried talking to her very quietly (even whispering) and calmly when she does it. I know that when I whisper to Ashley, she whispers back. If she gets really loud at the store or in public, I just whisper to her, "we talk quietly here" and she will whisper back to me. It's worth a try

mummy2girls replied:
yes Dee Dee you hit it on the nail. she will talk and then out of the blue scream. Because to her ist a game:( Ill try the whisper thing... im at my wits end and will try anything at this point.

Josie83 replied: I would just totally totally blank her while she is scream and not even ask her to stop. As soon as she stops lay it on thick to her telling her she is such a good girl and you love it when she is nice . . . just me though. Let us know how it goes! I hope your head's not hurting xx

ian'smommy replied: I see... Ok, well that makes it different. I agree with both posts. Try whispering at her, and maybe even mention how the screaming hurts mommy's ears and it's not very nice. I've said that to Ian before too. On occasion he does the very same thing and screams for the fun of it. He has some pretty high pitched screams.
And I also agree that if she does stop scraming, praise her a lot. Let her know how very happy it makes you. Even reward her with something that she really likes (that you can live with) if that will help the transition from screaming to talking quitely.
It is a very tough situation, but I hope the suggestions help... Good luck...

ammommy replied: We have a designated screaming or "outside voice" room. It happens to be the laundry room which is far away from most of the rest of the house After being in there a few times, Alec gets bored and starts talking normally for a few weeks.

ediep replied: jason does this too when his friends are over, they all think its really funny!!! Its really annoying, usually we just try to distract them. sorry, I'm no help. Good Luck with the screaming!

MommyToAshley replied: I thought of you today. Ashley wanted something and I told her just a minute I needed to finish what I was doing. Well, she must have thought I didn't hear her because she started yelling it (notice the sarcasm in my voice) Anyways, DH told her to stop screaming, and she replied, "I am not screaming, I am just talking loud" We couldn't help but to laugh.

Did you try any of the suggestions, did any of them work with Jenna?

mummy2girls replied:
yes i ignored the next time she was screaming and after about 30 seconds she stopped because she sees im not reacting. then i got down to her eye level and say to her that when she screams she is hurting mommas ears. and i would point to my head and go ouch! She looks and says sorry momma! And then gives me this hug and ever since that she only screams when she gets excited about something. like she will squeal when she gets to see blues clues on tv or barney. so that little talk with her amazingly worked...

i am so knocking on wood right now because i think i may have jinxed myself..LOL

ian'smommy replied: Alright!! So glad it worked for you... Hope it continues..

macsmom2003 replied: ya ignore works for me my dd hasn't starting the screaming thing yet but she will throw a fit crying toss herself on the floor kick. and it works for me my hubby onthe other hand has a hard time letting her be upset.