OK......is this just a phase - might be long!

moped wrote: Ok, here is the deal with Jack.........................he clings to me whenever I am aorund, but when I am not around he is an angel. Here are some examples:

I cannot take him in the stroller because he cries so hard for to pick him up - this is a biggie for me because I like to go out with him and he makes it VERY hard. I have purchased more strollers than you can imagine thinking it was the stroller, but no, it's just me!

I have a hard time bathing him because he wants to be with me - anybody else in the world can bath him - but not me!

I can't change his diaper cause he gets upset - anybody else can with no problems

When I am at home he doesn't seem to nap very well - when I am at work he naps MUCH better apparently...........he just wants to play with me

These are just a few things that I can think of and I know I have mentioned this stuff before but it is really making me wonder. I am a first time mom so maybe I just dont understand the phases, but is this a phase???????? Please tell me yes.

I mean it is great that he likes me but this is just wierd!!!!

He is a great kid, but these few things are making me wonder - I don't baby him to my knowledge - and he is great to be with but why can't I do all these things that anybody else can.

Can someone tell me something to make me feel better?

Thanks Guys

uwishucudfly replied: This is just in my experience, but I think it may be a phase. Brandon just recently stop being very clingy. I think it started happening when he was about 7 months. But my case was a little different. He wasn't ok with other people....he only wanted me. He was fine with my husband, but with anyone else, no. I tried everything....I stopped codling (sp?) him, and picking him up everytime he cried for me, and that seemed to work. But it truly broke my heart to hear him crying in his crib. But after a while he would start just crying himself back to sleep. Now, he doesn't wake up in the middle of the night. Just a suggestion.....hope I helped.

gr33n3y3z replied: Jack just loves his Mommy

moped replied: Ok.....but he never cries except for the stroller, etc..............never in his crib or anything. Just these few things that are making me crazy. He is an excellent kid to be around................but why mom mom mom?

Lisa, you are funny - LOL

moped replied: I am just hoping it is something he will grow out of....................

mom21kid2dogs replied: Olivia could never do strollers, although that is not likely the answer you wanted to hear. I just bought a baby carrier and wore her when shopping. When she went through her clingy phases I tried to just put her on mommy overload~which as you've already expressed~can be emotionally and physically draining. I just wore her or held her all the time til she finally was over it. It felt like forever but in reality it was a couple of months, IIRC. My mantra during that time was "This, too, shall pass". Contrary to popular opinion, this did not make her into a clingy toddler. She would go through clingy periods at other times in her development but after her "intensive" treatment they were shortlived and actually became predictable~like growth spurts or preceeding an illness. Most people comment how independent she is, in fact. Unlike Jack, though, she was a horrid sleeper from 10 months on. Still requires little sleep compared to children her age so we cosleep.

moped replied:
Really? So she slept before 20 months and then didn't?????

Just curious

mom21kid2dogs replied:
Actually, she was a great sleeper UNTIL 10 months then became awful! Up several times a night, extemely hard to put down, etc. She didn't sleep the night consistently from 10 months until about age 3. Even now, she goes to bed at 11 or so and is up by 8. She gave up naps at 2. Unfortunately, she shows no sign of sleep deprivation (she has a great disposition most of the time, doesn't usually fall asleep in her car seat, etc) she's just one of those rare kids who needs less sleep than others. Lucky me. I've adopted my dear Pap Pap's philosophy~You can sleep when you're dead~ with this girl!!

JAYMESMOM replied: Jayme is going thru this now and has been for about 4-5 months. She is great for everyone and naps for everyone and behaves for everyone but me. I do not spoil her at all but when she is with me she wants to be part of me. LOL.

THe only way I can get her to nap is to nap with her so that is what we do. Works for me - works for her.

It will pass - it is a phase. They want to get as much time with you as possible. Try new toys for the stroller and if that doesn't work I would get a carrier. Jayme does love the stroller so I didn't have the problem but she would rather walk with me now so we rotate. When she acts up she gets in regardless of her behaviour. Crying will cease when they don't get there way. It may take a while and we have left restaurant tables till she calmed down but she is getting better.

He just wants to feel your love and after the initial draining I realized I needed to cherish it since one day it would be gone.

moped replied: Yes Gwen I do enjoy him crawling and climbing to me but ya know......anyways, he is 27 pounds, I am not sure I want to get a carrier for that size of child!!!!

akbutterfly83 replied: I think it's just a phase.... well I'm hoping it is... Mason is going thru something simallair... If i find anything that helps I'll let ya know... LOL....

moped replied: Please do - I am at a loss here!

bwalkerletters replied: Jen,

I think it's just a phase too. It probably won't last long though. I'm trying to think back and remember if Maddie went through any of that, and I can't think of anything in particular. She had her moments of not wanting me to do certain things too, though. Just keep creating a loving environment around him, and it'll all work out ok!

A&A'smommy replied: HMMMM absolutly Alyssa went through this and I have seen TONS of mommies post about this same thing. He will get through it soon (((((HUGS)))))

b&bsmom replied: If it is happening mainly in the stoller, try giving him something that smells like you,for example a burp cloth that smells with your perfume or shampoo smell. Maybe he would hold on to that instead. My two kids always held their raggies (which is a burp cloth) Or you can also try special toys just for the stroller or his favorite little snack ( cherrios or whatever he can eat). I understand with the other mom about sleep. My son has never slept well. He did not sleep through the night till he was a year and a half and he gave up naps at 2 as well. The problem I have wiith my son is , he never really liked to cuddle, however he does not like to be left with anyone except close family or friends. He did ok going to preschool ( I had to try something) but he doesn't like to go to the nursery at church or at the gym and will only stay with certain people. There are a lot of nights where he only wants me to put him to bed and won't let his daddy do it. Hope some of this helps. It will pass hang in there

Maddie&EthansMom replied: It's the mommy syndrome. Kids just act different around their mommies. Or it could be separation anxiety and of course he could just be a momma's boy.

My point is, it could be anything. Kids are so funny. Especially at this age. You just never know what they are thinking or what they are going to do. I'd place a bet that it is just a phase.

Maddie was a lot like you described Jack to be. She outgrew it when she learned to communicate. She still acts better with other people, though. That is just something kids do and you will be glad to know he behaves well for others one day.

Jamielou replied: I am dealing with this also carley did this but not the stroller thing. And laney does the same as Jack. She used love being in her stroller but since she has started walking she dont want to be in it at all. She naps better for everybody else and is so clingy if i just get up to leave the room and she sees me she freaks out and screams and especially if i go to the bathroom and shut the door she lays down on the floor and reaches her hands under it and cries until i come out I hope she outgrows this real soon carley did but is still a momma's girl.