OK I have just about had it!! - What can I do???

MomofTay&Sam wrote: Everytime I turn around someone is sticking something in my son's mouth!!! Family members will come over and find out Sam has teeth..BAM they have their dirty fingers in his MOUTH feeling his teeth. (DH's family, I have no family here) Yesterday I came home and Grandpa was putting frosting from a cake in his mouth!! I said Noooooooooo and he says "Lighten up"! I do not want to be mean BUT geez what can I do????? Let's not forget the sips of soda I have caught them trying to do! ARGH I am so upset about this! and the napkin..LET him play with it they say, well SAM isnt playing with it he is EATING it.

kit_kats_mom replied: Gosh, that sounds like it would be really fusterating! I don't have any tips but I do have a ((Hug)) for you!

MomofTay&Sam replied: Thank you Kit Kats Mommy. It means alot.

~CrazieMama~ replied: I know just how you feel. My mother does this all the time. No matter how many times I tell her not to give my daighter certain things, she does not listen. "A little malta isn't gonna hurt" hello!!!! POOP!!! What do you think malta is gonna do to a baby. My daughter by the way is almost 14 months. "She wanted to play with the plastic bag" Hello!!!!! I mean my god!!! Some people are just a certain way and nothing you say will make them staop and think. This is my baby, not theirs!!! By the way, I do live with my parents, so this is harder for me. But I do give you lots of hugs and hope that maybe you can get someone to see how you feel.

MomofTay&Sam replied: Hi Michelle,
We are a *extended* family also. We moved in here in Jan to save for our downpayment. The grandparents are gone 9 months of the year to FLA. I can not leave Sam alone with them and have not since they came home last week. This is the first grandbaby and they just do not seem to remember anything about a baby. Sam is 6 months. Grandma has changed no diapers and did no feedings bottle or food since they have been home. I do not mind doing ALL for my precious son, but wouldnt a first time Grandma want to interact with her GB? Sorry getting OT.

~CrazieMama~ replied: I know what you mean. I gave my parents their first grandson and grand-daughter, my sister gave second grand-daughter. My parents are not ones to change diapers, especially if there is a surprise!!! I don't mind feeding and changing cause then I know she is safe from foreign food and objects. I also have a hard time letting my mom watch my daughter. I have a couple of times for about an hour or so. Not very long. I am very nervous about leaving her alone with them. But anyways, sorry to go rambling on here. I do feel for you and give hugs to you and your baby.

MomofTay&Sam replied: It's ok Michelle ramble on. It's nice to know I am not alone in this. Thanks for the hugs. Right back at ya!

~CrazieMama~ replied: Thanks, I ramble on quite nicely. Must be hereditary.

MomToMany replied:
I've BTDT many times! I just make sure the grandparents & other relatives know my opinion before I let them do anything with any of the kids, because we all have different opinions ! You'd think with my mom having 7 kids she'd lighten up about them playing at her house, but she gets so frustrated with them so easily. As long as she has them "under control" i.e., either sleeping or eating, then she's fine with it. She does good with them when they're older though (Logan & Quentin's ages) by finding good educational things (like arts & crafts, word & math games, etc.) for them to do, so I like that a lot. But I wouldn't leave Ethan or Hannah with her very long, because it makes her so mad sometimes!

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ediep replied: oh, I hate when people want to feel Jasons tooth!!! Man, that bugs me!!!! I am also very careful about what I feed Jason and people always want to see him eat things....Yesterday, my DH's g-ma said....give him one of my cookies...I was like no way....he can't have a cookie it has eggs and nuts!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: My MIL is the QUEEN of giving my son what I don,t want him to have.

I give him ONLY Heinz food. Not because I'm against any other kind of baby food, but THAT'S what I give him. MIL ASKED me if she could buy Zach some baby food for when he's at her house, she ASKED me what brand of food I give Zach, I said Heinz, and then I told her the kinds.

She goes to the store, and buys baby food.

The next time he goes over there, he comes back with half a jar of baby food in his bag. It's this organic CRAP that *I* wouldn't even eat. I got so mad at her. Not because she fed his that kind of baby food, I couldn't care less.... but the fact that she ASKED me what type, and then goes and buys another kind, almost just to spite me.

Then she gives him oatmeal cookies. I told her ONLY the kind WE PROVIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But no.

Then we TOLD her not to use a walker. Walkers are banned in Canada, due to the number of accidents and the dangers etc.... and she sitll had her old one from when her kids were babies. (23 years ago) AFTER we told her to stop using it, we went to pick up Zach one day, an hour early, and she was scrambling to get him out fo the walker and to shove it in the closet before we came in. We could see her through the window. Stupid Cow.

She hasn't been with Zach alone ever since, we've always been there, and that last incident was 4 months ago.




Did I mention that she keeps putting a PILLOW (even if it is *small* and *flat*) in his playpen when we are over and he is sleeping? She says he will be more comfortable. I keep taking it out.

Did I mention she gives him stuff out of her plate, which I do to, except the difference is she doesn't 1) ask me and 2) she'll take a small piece OUT OF HER MOUTH!!!! Gross.

Did I mention she's changed his diaper and left crap on his leg? Ew.

Did I mention that when she feeds him, she doesn't clean him properly? There's dried food in his hair when we pick him up. So we ask how long ago he's eaten, and we ask her for a wet cloth so that we can wipe the food out of his hair and from his clothes.

She just doesn,t watch him properly. He crawls everywhere now, and he grabs EVERYTHING, yet she still insists on leaving lit candles on her coffee tables, she says that if he touches them, he'll learn quick not to touch them again.

And she had the nerve to ask me why we don,t let them babysit anymore?

I didn't even dighnify her with an answer, just picked Zach up and left, and left DH to handle his *mommy*.

Arg. The thought of her makes my blood BOIL.

kit_kats_mom replied: Holy Cow! I feel blessed that my mom is close to me, loves to spend time with Katherine and follows my directions. Now, she's a little clumsy. She took Katherine for a walk in the baby bjorn and tripped. Katherine got her first boo boo, scraped up her nose, but I was ok with that. At least she tries and does a great job for the most part. She even asks to read all of the parenting books I have so that she can better understand what we are trying to do as far as Attachment parenting goes. For example, she read "The No Cry Sleep Soultion" and she has even sent me emails telling me how proud she is of us and what a good job we are doing.

My MIL on the other hand....well, lets just say that I am glad she lives across the US!

I'm so sorry you guys are having to go through this. I don't know what I would do.

catou_98 replied: Boy, do I know what you mean, It really pisses me off when people(my sister especially) give camille food without asking me if I allow it first! the other day while a her place she gave her a WHOLE strawberrie, I tought OK no big deal there(she's not allergic and she like them) but still I do not give her fruit at night because then I have a hard time putting her to sleep, and then she tried giving her a piece of oranges....I'm reallyyyy causous(sp?) about allergies and I heard your not suppose to give citrus fruit until they're a year old, luckily I saw her just in time to say in a mean tone....."you're not suppose to give citrus fruit until they are a year old, you don't know... she could be allergic" I think she kindda got the message cause she haven't tried to give her any more food since then! ....anyhoo, enough rambling, just wanted to offer a hug and to let you know you're not alone in that situation!

booey2 replied: Sorry you are going thru this. I have the mis fortune or fortune (depending on how you look at it) of having no one around (no MIL, my mom lives 1.5 hrs away with all my family). The only one close is the babysitter and she is great. I can understand tho about people giving them stuff you don't want them to have. Hugs to you.

MomofTay&Sam replied: Thanks for all the replies everyone and all the hugs. It makes me feel better to know I am not alone. Hugs to everyone who suffers from this syndrome..sp LOL

Mommieto2Girls replied: I have a alright MIL. She lives 1 and 1/2 hours away and never butts in our business. Although since Madison has been born she has never watched her, changed her diaper, fed her, nothing. She also is like the 13th grandchild in the family but still. I just wish she would offer but I know she never will.
As for my mother , whole nether story. HappMom0295 gave a brief discription.She lives 1 block away, and we don't even talk anymore.