Now here is a good one - to pregnant women

moped wrote: Last night I was saying to Tom that this sheer exhaustion is killing me - I just can't believe how tired I am all the time, and he says "Yeah, I know what you mean".....PARDON ME - EXCUSE ME - I ripped him a new A$%^&*.......oh that drives me mad when men say they KNOW - PLEASE..........



No offense to the men but you cannot know

Kaitlin'smom replied: Men could you imigine if they were the one who carried the baby for 9+ months............

Danalana replied: Ha! Richie would give up long before the due date.
Last night, i was looking at pregnancy signs and stuff...richie was looking too, and he said "I think I'm pregnant" what a dork.
I hate when he eludes to the fact that cramps are no big deal. I told him he would be incapacitated if he had the cramps i have with my periods. He really would be; he gave blood a few months ago, and he still thinks he's not recovered

gr33n3y3z replied:
LMAO

lovemy2 replied: Uh Oh - looks like Tom is in for a LONG 9 months if he is already mouthing off like that

Danalana replied: the thing is, he's not really a wimp. Right after we were married, he totally smashed a couple of his fingers at work. He ended up drilling holes in his fingernails to let the blood drain out. he lost the nails, but it was like it wasn't a big deal. Just don't have him give blood Or have cramps

moped replied:
Oh no kidding - mouthy isn't even the word to explain it

TheOaf66 replied: we are just trying to be sympathetic ya know

moped replied:

lovemy2 replied:
And you would have THOUGHT they learned from the first pregnancy - my DH was dumber the second time around than he was the first with his comments

Calimama replied: I hope the pregnancy isn't rough on him.

lovemy2 replied:
Or the Labor and Delivery

coasterqueen replied:
true, but there has to be a way, a phrase one could use that would sound more sympathetic. Such as "honey, I don't know how tired you are feeling. I can't imagine it. I wish I could do something to help relieve your exhaustion or make life a bit easier for you while you are carrying our child. Have I told you today how wonderful you are and how great you are for having to go through all of this?".

I mean, yeah, it might sound a bit funny at first to both parties involved, but hey I'd rather hear that than "yeah, I know what you mean" because you don't. Be sympathetic and say you do not have any clue what she's going through but that you want her to know you are trying to be there for her and if there's anything you can do to help make it easier you want her to tell you.

Right?

moped replied:
Now that would have went over much smoother!!!!!!!!!!

He never did understand - NEVER.

One of those mindsets that "Women do this everyday"....blah blah blah

Calimama replied: I went to a friends house yesterday and her husband asked for a drink in the middle of her contraction.. she told him to hold on and he said, "no now, pregnancy isn't an illness"

TheOaf66 replied:
that is a man's way of saying all that in a nice short statement

gee whiz don't you know we don't talk as much as you do...we shorten things and work economically

moped replied:
I will try to remember that when I want to slap him silly!

lisar replied:
Okay not my man. He would have died before he said anything like that.

coasterqueen replied:
You know Troy that really is the key. If we really down deeply knew that that was what you were trying to say but in a shorter version then I think women could come to understanding that and be fine with it. It's not really knowing from time to time if that is really what you mean. Am I making any sense?

TheOaf66 replied:
what is a safe way to answer this

there are no hidden meanings when we speak...we say what we mean and mean what we say...remember we are a simple folk and you sometimes overanalyze what we're saying

Twelve Volt Man replied:
Truer words have never been written!

Danalana replied: It's true....they are a simple life form. But still...we need to know sometimes.

TheOaf66 replied:
use that women's intuition I hear so much about

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh geez Tom!

Here's another weird comment that my husband has been saying all along, when I say I don't remember this from being preggo with Blake, he always replies with "well, ya know, you are OLDER this time around" as if I'm like 50 years old or something. HELLO!?!?! I'm 22 and I was 19 last time, I can't imagine there would be this much difference all because of 3 years.
AHH!! That just drives me BONKERS!!!

grapfruit replied:
And he wasn't kidding????

coasterqueen replied:
Ok, I guess what I'm saying is you said it was a shorter version. So to me "I know what you mean" does not mean the same to me as the version I gave. SO if I knew that that shorter version actually meant the same as my longer version then I could be more understanding of my husband and go on from there understanding that he meant well. Does that make sense?

TheOaf66 replied:
well with every bunch of grapes there are bound to be some sour ones

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Oh my, I would have gotten the water and thrown it at him. I would have also thrown in a few choice words for the idiot.

TheOaf66 replied:
always assume we are saying the version that will not make you upset

lovemy2 replied:
This is why the person who coined the phrase "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" is now sitting pretty somewhere in a tropical island with a fu fu drink in her hand

lovemy2 replied:
That is bad - my DH asked me how much longer we had to walk while I was in labor (all I wanted to do was walk....) I told him when this x!@#%^&*() kid falls out of me we can stop walking....needless to say he quietly took my hand and continued to walk with me...

coasterqueen replied:
I just spit out my drink.