Nice sentiment or lame idea?

amynicole21 wrote: My sister's wedding is next month and I am the Matron of Honor. I live over 700 miles away from her, so haven't been able to participate in any of the MOH things I should have. Someone else threw her shower (I couldn't attend), I wasn't there to help pick out the dress or flowers or cake or even to help stick stamps on the invitations. I am feeling like the worst MOH possible. It also doesn't help that I despise her husband. Anyway, I was looking for ways that I could make her wedding special for her, and found an idea online which sounds kind of cute. You send pre-addressed and stamped postcards to everyone on the guest list and they return them to her with bits of wisdom or well wishes the week of the wedding.

I thought this was a really cute idea. DH could design the postcards and get them printed through work and all I would pay for was the postage (one stamp for the postcard, one for the envelope which contains the postcard and the letter instructing them about what to do). Total $60 tops.

I started thinking about this more and feel like maybe it's putting the guests out too much? They will already most likely get her greeting cards and write congratulatory blurbs in them, right? Is this overkill?

Please be honest. I'd rather ditch the idea now before DH goes and spends a lot of time designing these things and calling in favors with the printing company!

coasterqueen replied: I think it's a great idea! If they don't want to write something they just don't have to send it in. Honestly I don't write much in the card I give with the gift. I think it's very sweet.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: First of all, I wouldn't worry too much about not participating with all the so called required MOH duties. You're a mom and have plenty of other things to worry about. Plus you live far away. Your sis has got to understand that. If not now, she will one day.

Second, I think it's a cute idea and not overkill. Just shows you're thinking of her. But if you don't want to go that far, just remember that you'll have PLENTY of duties to fill the day of the wedding, so I wouldn't worry too much, although I know easier said than done.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I think it is a good idea, too.

PrairieMom replied: I think its a great idea, however, after seeing how people RSVP, I don't know how many of the guests you could count on to actually do this. It could go from great ide to lame-o very quickly. i think that if you do this, you should have a back up plan too.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I think it is GREAT idea! We did something like that at one of my showers and I still have all the "words of wisdom!"

Hillbilly Housewife replied:

You can spend that 60$ you'd spend on stamps... and get small decorations to put on a really nice card stock instead... have special cards printed up with the bride and groom names, date, and a little "Words of Wisdom" paper heading by your dh - and then either glue on or string on a small ribbon or bow or something...

MyLuvBugs replied: I personally love the idea, but maybe not to ALL the guests. How about just to female family and friends? Like grandmas, moms, best friends, MIL's, etcs. People that would really like to do this for her. Just a thought.

BAC'sMom replied: I love it that is a great idea!

scattytart replied: i myself think it's a great idea , something to show you care and a way of apologising for not being there when she need you to be. Dont feel bad about not being there it's not your fault you do have children and you live a great distance away from each other, i think your sis will love this idea to, think of somthing special to desing the postcards maybe somthing that remindes you of your childhood or something sentamental. If you cant do this think of somthing your sis likes ie. a certain colour,

Freckled Momma replied: Sounds like a great idea to me...

But as someone mentioned...if you didn't want to send to all the guests, just send to the Matrons of the family on both sides and close friends/cousins with the wedding party included.

ediep replied: I think its a nice idea, but an even better one would be to have the guest send it back to you and put them all in a scrapbook. Then give it to your sister the night before her wedding at the rehersal dinner, if she is having one.

paradisemommy replied: ooooh..i like edie's idea..

holley79 replied: I LOVE that idea. I think it is totally sweet and not lame at all. My sister did something similar for my baby shower. I have all the post cards in a keep sake box.