Need to vent !!!! - and get some prayers for friend

aspenblue1 wrote: My friend is pregnant due in feb. Well the thing that got her pregnant has been awful since she got pregnant. They were moving into a house so she gave up all her stuff and then he decided he didn't want to do that since she had the nerve to get pregnant. Now neither were using birth contol and he definately knows he is fertel because he has a son. Well one day he woke up told her he didn't love her or this thing she was carring and wanted nothing to do with either. Well he said a lot more than what I can type. Since them he will come over and make her think everything is getting better then the next morning will say that never should have happened and don't think this changes anything because I still don't want anything to do you with you or that thing. Well last thursday he came over drunk. He was really nasty and saying awful things. When she asked him to stop he said "WHAT IS THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN THAT THING WOULD DIE" I can not believe that anyone would say that about their child. I just feel so sorry for her she has been so stressed this whole pregnancy due to him! He keeps promising her he will help with stuff then deciding he wouldn't. He is a very wealthy man and could be a little more helpful through this whole thing but he refuses to help with anything. Sorry this is so long I just needed to get some thing off my chest.

Kaitlin'smom replied: sounds like so need to get him out of her life. For the sake of her and the baby, she does not need that. I know it will be hard, but I would be better for her in the long run. She can always demand child support to help with finances. The guy is rude and should be JMO

ediep replied: wow, your poor friend. She should get away from him.

amynicole21 replied: That is awful! What a pig! I agree that she needs to get him out of her life once and for all. Her baby does not need that as a father. She should also talk to a lawyer about severing paternal rights and receiving child support payments which come directly out of his check. What a jerk I feel really badly for your friend and her precious baby

jcc64 replied: I saw this quote from Eleanor Roosevelt on another board that said something like, "Nobody disrespects you without your invitation." If your girlfriend wants respect, she has to demand it. That means not listening to his b.s. when he comes around looking to get laid at night, and then abuses her in the morning. "Fool me once..." This sounds like a pattern. She needs to recognize it, and not put herself in the position of being taken advantage of. We all know that pregnancy is a time of anxiety and vulnerability, but the last thing she needs is this idiot draining the life force from her. The sooner she disentangles herself from this disfunction, the sooner she can devote her energy to the one who most deserves and needs it, the fragile little life inside her.

MommyToAshley replied: ITA with what the others have said. So, I will just add my hugs and prayers.

A&A'smommy replied: thats horrible!!!! I think she should stay away from him to no matter how hard it is....and it will probably be very hard and she is totally going to need you! anyways lots of hugs for all invovled (except the jerk)

CantWait replied: Sounds like she needs to get out. I hope she remembers that he has NO CHOICE but to pay. Good Luck to her and give her hugs

MomToJade&Jordan replied:
I couldn't have said it any better myself. She has gotten herself in a pattern of abuse and only she can break away from it. The guy is not going to change and she needs to see that. A pregnant woman does not need the added stress that this @#$%^ is putting her through. I hope this situation gets better for your friend.

aspenblue1 replied: Thank you all for everything. I think her problem is she has extremely low self esteme issues and as far as men she never picks the right one. Always goes for the same type that do this to her. I think deep down she feels she deserves it for some reason. I just hope she starts respecting herself and the baby and gets away from him.

coasterqueen replied: Hugs and prayers for your friend. Hope she is very careful and she might want to think about getting away from him

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I feel so awful for your friend! No one should be treated that way! I hope she comes to her senses and leaves this guy! Keeping her in my prayers and hoping that things will work out for her!

jem0622 replied: Wow. He's a real prize, huh? Prayers for her. Sounds like this situation will only get worse. If she knows what is best for her and this unborn child then she will sever the ties and ask for nothing. He sounds dangerous to me. My ex BIL was this way with my sister. She finally divorced him after much urging by her congregation.

HUGS
Julie