Need a safe place to vent

grapfruit wrote: Ok. Apologizing in advance for this being long.


Tim gets along w/his parent really well. Like every Sunday after church we'd go over to their house. Well he has an older brother that is good for NOTHING. Total loser. Like couldn't pass a drug test to save his life, can't hold a job, hasn't had a license in almost 10 years b/c he has so many hit and runs and no insurance and whatever. He steals, lies, you name it.

Well for some stupid reason his parents have this strange blind spot for him. Which whatever, I live 30 mins away, he's never been there, has no idea how to get there whatever.

Well 2 weeks ago we were over there. Tim was working on Liam's crib. I was in the HOT living room eating pizza rolls w/another one of his brothers (younger) while Isabelle played in the living room. They live in an older house and there are 2 rooms separated by a french door. The other room has unfinished hardwood floor from the 1920's. I.E. splinters. So obviously Isabelle isn't allowed in there. Which means, she wants to go in there.

So I get up b/c I'm giantly pregnant and really don't feel like playing chase the baby while I try and eat, and go to shut the doors (after I get her out of that room). He screams at me not to shut the GD doors b/c its too hot. I shrug my shoulders and shut them anyway, b/c I'm not chasing her! We shut them EVERY time she's in the living room.

He then tells me (again) to leave the D doors open and to watch my D kid. I tell him I AM watching her, I just don't feel like chasing her while I try and eat. His reply, "Maybe you should of thought about that before you opened your GD legs"

I was honestly speechless. I told the younger brother he could have the pizza rolls, scooped Izzy up and walked out the front door. We left shortly after.

Tim told his dad that they (mom and dad) were welcome at our house but he was not bringing his family back to an environment like that.

Flash forward to now. Somebody ELSE has to pick Izzy's stuff up (high chair and whatnot) or they're throwing it away. WE'RE not welcome there b/c I AM A LIAR!!!! Can you believe it?!?!?!?

So mad.

ZandersMama replied: that sucks. there is one in every family, my parents have a blind spot to my older brother to, same situation.

youngmomofone replied: Oh man, that sucks, I'm sorry . Shame on him for talking to you that way, and shame on your inlaws for being blinded so much as to ban their other son and his family from their home. Seriously, wtheck?

MoonMama replied: HOLY MOLY!! I'm so sorry honey!!

A&A'smommy replied: WOW!!!! That is stupid Let them ruin a good thing.. they will one day know what they have done!!

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: wow. that totally sucks and I dont blame you for being mad!!!
so did the younger brother hear him say it? (the one who was eating pizza rolls with you)????????????

luvbug00 replied: how dare anyone say that to you. What did tim have to say??

coasterqueen replied: ((HUGS)) I have one in my family as well. My sister. And my parents think I'm a horrible person because I don't cater to her every need....like go pick her up all the time when she's drunk at some bar. She's 30 years old! Of course my sister thinks I'm worthless because I won't cater to her every need either. My parents are enablers to her selfishness.

I know how you feel. Wish I had answers for you. Vent here anytime hun.

Danalana replied: Oh no, I can't believe that!! I am so sorry, Casey
I know some parents don't want to see how their child really is. They prefer to look through rose-colored glasses because it's too painful to see how they really are. Regardless, I can't believe he was allowed to talk to you like that. The younger brother should have slugged him (just my opinion). Man, that is stinky! And I can't believe they would talk about throwing Isabelle's stuff out....

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh my word! That's just awful. Good for your Dh for sticking up for you. Will his younger brother stand up for you too or won't they listen to him? I hope they come around.

MommyToAshley replied: How awful, I am sorry.

Calimama replied: Absolutely crazy. Seriously, how can they just be like fine come get Isabelle's stuff? How can they be willing to walk out on and LOSE that relationship with her and soon to be Liam? Especially for a jerk like that? That is crazy. I'm SO sorry sweetie. You, Tim, and those sweet babies deserve more than that.

Mommy2Isabella replied: Im so sorry! That is hard. I can't believe they think you are "lying" and are willing to throw their relationship with Isabelle away. That's really crappy!

grapfruit replied:
Of course, we're BOTH liars


Tim actually didn't say anything to him, b/c if he did, well, REALLY would of been bad. Seems like now its just between him and his dad. He even said he's not mad at his dad at all, just Brian. Worthless jerk.

Well his mom left me a voicemail today, sounded like she'd been crying She just wanted to let me know that she (and she alone) would be at Isabelle's birthday unless I didn't want her to be. Tim thinks she and his dad had "words" about it. I'm sure he's not speaking to her now

I hate it b/c I don't want HER to be miserable, she's the one that has to live w/him!!! Honestly his dad is being the biggest jerk. Of course that's b/c Brian could care less, he doesn't care about anybody but himself. So selfish.

eta: I don't know why she thinks I'm mad, I'm totally not. I'm really not bad at anyone. Upset a bit that his dad is an....donkey...but I know that about him.