Myspace question - I think I already know the answer

Jamison'smama wrote: Okay, how to make this short---is there any way to see someones myspace page if they have it set to private? I doubt it but here is why I want to know....My niece is 17, I am almost sure she is planning on getting married very soon, if not this weekend. She is now "engaged" to a man who is in the army and being shipped out for training then to Iraq and I know she wants to marry him first. I found out she was engaged by reading her Myspace page. Her fiance' has a page too and at one time it said he was marrying her before he leaves for Iraq and now it just has a blank where that used to be---her mother's page is now all of the sudden set to private.

Her mother would sign off on a marriage because her mother is way closer to acting like 14 than the 42 years she is. Her mother's page became private when I confronted my niece about her engagement / wedding plans. My niece denies it but somehow her "mood" (on her page) changed from "depressed" that he's leaving to "excited"---I smell a wedding.

Suggestions? I really want to spy and see is she has written anything. Both my niece and her mom have a strong history of telling lies---so asking either outright will not work---my brother is completely unaware of this as well.

Insanemomof3 replied: The only way to see it is A) have her password or add her to your friends list. That is all I know of.

Jamison'smama replied: I don't have a myspace page but does she have to add me or can I just add her?

Insanemomof3 replied: just make a page and add her. Then she will have accept it. Then you will be able to see her page.

luvmykids replied:
How do you do that? I always try to just add people (friends of mine who have a page) and I still can't see their page until they accept me as a friend.

Jamison'smama replied: that and I doubt she'd accept me---I am who she is hiding from

luvmykids replied: Sorry all this is going on, Brenda

Jamison'smama replied: Thanks! It is the "not talked about" part of my family. It's sad really. She was a really good kid but she was a dealt a lousy hand when it came to parents

MoonMama replied: Is she likely to add someone she doesn't know? I could have my little sister (16) or brother (18) send her a friends request and spy for you. Just a thought. Good luck.

luvmykids replied: If I were young and hip I'd try to pose as a cool kid and get on her friend list for you

Jamison'smama replied: I can view my niece's page---it's her mom's that is private and it may be nothing but it sure was a coincidence that it happened the week after I confronted my niece about what I read on her page. --My niece is here her mom is Turn&Burn on her friend's list.

Oh, and thanks Monica

luvmykids replied: Sorry, I didn't catch that it was your sister who'd gone into hiding



His page now says he's going to marry her...I was hoping it would say something about this weekend but I didn't see it, the fact that he leaves for training in Oct makes it look like your concerns are right though. I don't know if you read all her comments but one of her friends posted that she's happy for them...Sounds like they've met some opposition b/c he says he doesn't care what anyone says about marrying her... Do you mean her mom is in on it and her dad doesn't know anything about it? Uh-oh.

Hope I didn't get too nosy...just looking for clues about a wedding

Insanemomof3 replied:
You can't see their page until they add you. Sometimes it is annoying. LOL

Jamison'smama replied:
Not nosey at all-I did the same thing. Her mom is the Turn&Burn friend in her list -

Her dad, knows that her boyfriend wanted to propose but he doesn't know---and I guess neither do I for a fact, that she plans to get married soon. I did the same thing --I scoured all her friends comments for a clue. She is onto me now though and she wouldn't put anything on there that would give it away. Where the dashes are on her boyfriend's page it used to say--we are getting married in October before I leave. She turns 18 in 2 months (although her page says she is now). It is all just a little crazy and she's breaking my parent's hearts.

luvmykids replied: How long have they been dating? She does seem very much like a typical teenager "in love"...I can understand why there is worry though. I hope things work out for everyone